I am furious.>gf of 1 year>her lease is up>decide to invite her to live with me>says no>says she isn't ready to integrate our lives and doesn't wanna settle down until her PHD is done>she has not even started it and is almost 38 years oldLike I have to dump her now and she wasted a year of my life. I asked her what she was interested in when we started dating and she said marriage and kids etc. Like idk what to do I love her but she wants to wait until shes what 41 or 42 years old to even think about it??? Like is there any saving this or am I right to end it I want no (more) regrets
I wouldn't want to have a child after 40. My mom was in her late 30s when she had me and I'm all kinds of fucked up. Maybe threatening to leave will also give her some perspective. It's been a year of her time as well.
>>34764242She basically said accept it or I understand you leaving. I haven't responded I am livid and it's dangerous to text what I want.
>>34764242Same, but I’m not fucked up. My mom was very athletic though>>34764251Ask her if she still wants to get married and have kids lol I wish i had better advice but she’s really being a weird delusionoid
>>34764215I mean it sounds like you guys are both pretty pissed about this. My advice would be to give it a couple days to think about it. Imagine breaking up and see how you feel
>>34764215She's outta time and doesn't realize she's outta time. You ain't having kids with her cuh they're gonna be rarted beyond belief
>>34764251Time to have a very frank conversation then about your future and be prepared to walk. I would be prepared for the end of this relationship. Sorry man.
>>34764242>>34764543Agreed. My parents had me when mom was 42 and dad was 55. I never learned to ride a bike and have adhd and the tism. Would not recommend.OP you gotta go
>>34764215>Like is there any saving thisYou have to self terminate at this point. It's the only rational option for being a terminal dumbass like you seem to be.
>>34764215High probability she fucks other guys, dump her.
>>34764215She sounds very smart
>>34764215she's fucking someone else alreadydon't leave herbut leave her mentallyand start finding someone else
>>34764215Does this even sound like a doctoral level thought process, OP? That sounds like somebody who severely overestimates themselves, insisting of shit like PhD level education but then making nonsensical life choices like starting a family after 40.I guess what I’m wondering is why you expected more? Did you not notice how she is this last year?
>>34764215>and she said marriage and kidsWell that was a lie so stop wasting your time. Its insanity when you are hit in the face with truth yet continue to deny.
>>34764215She wants to cheat in peace and doesn't think you having advantage over her is strategic to that.
