Was seeing an older 31 Year old and a 21 Year old. I myself am 23. Went steady with the 21 Year old and now I gotta break things off with the 31 year old.Feel like dog cus the 31 was actually pretty chill and always picked up the tab becuse she works. Lowkey feel like I was using her but I think she enjoyed spending time with me? But she also seems mad lonely from our conversations.AnonymousDUBS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!HorndupAre you saying I should keep seeing both??Anonymouswhy notYuji Sakai >>>/adv/Horndup- I really like both of them. 31 seems kinda lonely. She was moving when I first started seeing her. I helped her move some stuff over with her car and she said she had alot of friends coming to help move. When I came over the next week, she said only one turned up and everyone else cancelled. 21 said that she would never accept anything other than monogamy. Not a threesome, not letting another person watch while we had sex and that she would leave if I saw another person while seeing her. Im definitely more attracted to 21 and I also did just go steady with her. So I'd rather not risk my relationship with her.
>>34764535It sounds like you already made your choice to be monogamous with the 21 y/o and dump the 31 y/o
"This is our last time together. I really loved the time we spend together. I will always remember you fondly. Have a nice life."
Youre garbage and a whore
>>34764535>swapping a well maintained milf for a woman at peak retard age Youre an idiot. Word to the wise, stick with the 31yo for a few years until you're in your mid twenties and can bang chicks that have ripened properly. You can still bone 21yo into your 30s if you feel you missed out on anything.
Guaranteed things will end with the 21 y.o. That's just the way life is. She's not your forever woman, so knowing that be sure she's the one you want to keep around. The 31 y.o is more likely to stick around for as long as you'll have her, but the 21 y.o will be retarded and that shit will end guaranteed.
>>34764535>Lowkey feel like I was using herYou were.
>>34764535I'd take the 31 year old off your hands but she's probably a pedo since she's fucking you.
>>34768105>21>pedoZillenials are the most retarded generation
>>34764683Yeah pretty much, I was mainly looking for advice on how to do it because she lives an awkward distance away (A train ride and then a good distance from the station)Options:a) Over text (Nope, unless its somehow a good idea)b) Take an uber from the station to tell he and then take an uber back to the station. (Will cost about a hundo)c) Wait for her to drive to the station and then tell her before heading home (Kinda terrible)d) Wait for one of the rare occasions when she's in my area, ask to meet and then tell her.>>34764827I will keep this in mind>>34765421>>34765503Duly noted
>>34764535Don't feel guilty about the 31 year old. Even if women are mentally children, they still know what they're doing like a greedy little girl stealing from the cookie jar. In your older woman's case she was stealing youthful feeling from you using her cookie jar. It's her fault if she doesn't want to settle down with a guy her age and start family and not be lonely. The best thing you could do for her is break up, actually, and let her find a forever man while you pound younger pussy. >>34765460>Just waste more of an older woman's fertile years so you have constant access to nookie, broMen like you really are the other half of the problem>Guaranteed things will end with the 21 y.o. That's just the way life is. She's not your forever womanAttitude of the modern cuckold. Somehow Muslim, Amish, and Mormon men never have this problem. I'm sure it's not because you should be reproducing with women instead of trying to keep them around as your fleshlights.
>>34765432>>34765460Seeing 31 required a time and logistical commitment that was a drain. I would have stopped seeing her sooner, but she always seemed so lonely, and I also enjoyed my time with her.
>>34768240Thanks guy. You got any tips on this bit>>34768239Options
>>34768255>You got any tips on this bitSharp knife cuts clean, my guy. These breakups where the girl hasn't done anything "wrong" are the worst, but just be surgical about it. Don't give her false hope, make her know this is the end, delete and block her. I doubt you're going to be thinking about her much when you're on top of that 21 year old.
>>34764535As someone who has never been close to having an fwb/gf reading stuff like this feels like talking to people from another galaxy. How do you even pull this off is it just being a Chad/right place, right time?
>>34768279>How do you even pull this off is it just being a Chad/right place, right time?Not OP but in my brief experience having "friends with benefits," 95% of cases fall into one side just using it to push for a real relationship (usually the woman), or some kind of material arrangement/exchange. I'd say in only 5% of FWB situations are both sides just equally ok with meeting to fuck and have nothing else.
>>34768278So you think a text is alright it feels clean but also somewhat disrespectful? If in person I gotta choose between burning a hundo or getting her to drive me places just to break up with her.or just not doing anything while waiting for her to be in the city. But the 21 is kinda insecure (Her ex did her dirty) so I really want to end things with 31 ASAP so she doesn't have anything to worry about.
>>34768302I'd say a phone call would be best. I know you zoomers don't do those anymore but that would probably be the most respectful if you can't see her (also learn 2 drive and get a car, life is better that way). >But the 21 is kinda insecure (Her ex did her dirty) so I really want to end things with 31 ASAP so she doesn't have anything to worry about.Oof, ouch, maybe your days really are numbered with this chick. Either way it never helps anything to drag shit out. If you have to eat a frog, do it in the morning etc.
>>34768296OK but HOW does it start? I’m not asking about down the line I’m asking about further on.
>>34768279Im 5'10 and was single until I went to university. Obesity, covid and going to an all guy's school played a role in it. So im definitely not a chad.1) Keep putting yourself out there, its really a numbers game. Even if you have a sub 1% chance of success, trying again and again lets the sum of the probability of successful events approach 100%. 2. Work out. Kinda shallow but my dating profile is a shirtless pic of me. I work out a decent amount so I have a decent physique. Its basically adjusting your odds of an individual successful event from 1 so it takes fewer attempts to succeed.3. Dont be autistic and dont be too pushy. Itll take time and experience, but you'll figure out how to read the room. Like when is it okay to put your hand around their back, or hold their hand, or go in for a kiss. Dating is kind of a skill as well. Going on dates once women start responding to you, asking your friends who know you well for advice can get you there.
>>34768318How do you meet women? There's a whole thread for that. For me, I met a few while in college by just talking to chicks and being around them, eventually some let on they were interested in non-subtle ways. Met one off of Tinder right after graduation. Most recent one I met last Christmas at a party for my industry, she was definitely a "material favors" girl because she always wanted to go out to dinner and asked for money for presents. Basically a whore in all but name but she was hot and had HUUUUGE tits so w/e
>>34768340Big tit propaganda. Are you dating women or are you picking cattle.Perky medium is where its at, good size, nice shape, and attached to a person with enough of a personality that its genuinely enjoyable being with them and not just a slog you have to get through so they'll have sex with you.
>>34768313Idk how a phone call completely skipped my mind. Ill do that in the morning. >Oof, ouch, maybe your days really are numbered with this chick. Either way it never helps anything to drag shit out. If you have to eat a frog, do it in the morning etc.HAHA, I may have overstated her insecurity. I mean she's slightly above the normal amount of insecure. But its like a drop. She doesn't ask to see my phone but its not like I have anything to hide since she's okay with me watching porn and I'm pretty transparent with her. She isn't really pushy about meeting anyone really. She did introduce me to her friends kind of early, but it was just because there was a good opportunity to do so.
>>34768340>how do you meet womenI don’t. I don’t even have any friends to go out with which is fucking me over. Do attend university for a career change since my original choice is horrible for jobs but I don’t participate in clubs since I’m 31 and don’t wanna be the old guy creeping out uni girls. Stopped working out due to depression and got chubbier but trying to get back into it by doing calisthenics at home.And yeah I know I have to fix all that first but I was hoping maybe you guys had advice to get some action before that point.
>>34768370I guess I should attend more hobbies but my interests are limited and filled with senior citizens. I know I’m no spring chicken myself but I don’t want to date 50-60 year old grandmas.
>>34768370Take a look at what I wrote above>>34768337Also protip, skip calisthenics if you're on the husky side. Weightlifting is where its at for big guys. More muscle increases your BMR so you shed fat faster while building muscle. Just remember to control your diet. And dont worry about your age. I've talked to a bunch of 30 year old women who were explicitly looking for guys their age. But bear in mind alot of them are looking to settle down.
>>34768390Thanks I mostly just do pushups, deadhangs and squats plus walking but I’ll try bench as well. Dunno if I wanna settle down yet though feels shallow but I wanna have a fuckaround phase. Some really hot women in my age range but they are either all taken or, as in one case, literal escorts. I considered younger but I dunno if that is even possible. The guys I’ve seen pull it off are usually Chads.
>>34768411Add hip thrusts to your workout routine. You're going to need them if you keep consistent at the gym.I don't think there's anything wrong with dating younger women and its fine to want to have a fuck-around phase. You're just not getting any traction right now because you're at the beginning phase of your winter arc. Come your spring and other people will call you the chad who pulled it off.Also, you're old enough that you could even consider hopping on gear if you wanted. Don't take my advice for it, but from my limited knowledge, your body is a lot more stable at 30 and there are fewer downsides compared to hopping on gear in your 20s. I've never taken it myself, but Ive met people who do and the results make me jealous. There are still inherent risks and you can consider asking a medical professional about it.Also, learn to cook if you haven't already. Lets you build your body on a budget, and I have yet to meet a woman who hasn't loved the fact that I could whip up something delicious in the kitchen. When they know you can cook, you can basically lure them to your house with the offer of your cooking. Its easy on the wallet and it also fuckin works.
>>34768437Hip thrusts, cool. Could it help fix my apt? It’s not awful but I did notice it’s made me a bit shorter though deadhangs and planks are helping a bit. Not a fan of gear desu, maybe it’s just childhood propaganda but I’m very wary of that stuff. Nice to know cooking gets results, I’m no Gordon Ramsay but I can make a decent pasta. Though cutting out soda drinks is a bit difficult, I can drop candy and all that no problem but a glass of coke with dinner goes down too well.
>>34768453Switch to diet coke. Sucralose and Aspartame are your friends. The amount you need to ingest to see even a fraction of the downsides of obesity is comical. If you're trying to lose weight, sugary bevs are the first thing to go, and there are no downsides to sugar free substitutes in most cases.Hip thrusts help with thrusting iykwim. Idk what apt means here.And also I get the feeling you like Japanese media. I like it too, but don't be upfront about it. It puts many women off (obvious exceptions like meeting someone at a con). But a husky dude who likes anime screams pedo, a buff dude who likes anime is someone who probably isnt a neo nazi.
>>34768479Anterior pelvic tilt for apt. Not a big fan of anime funnily enough, only watched mainstream stuff like Fullmetal Alchemist, Death Note and Attack on Titan. Do enjoy comics but not the big two (though Batman stuff is apparently pretty good right now). Thanks for your advice Horndup. This board is typically bp assholes but you’ve been helpful.
>>34768508No problem... Damn now I'm worried that I have an Anterior Pelvic tilt. I looked it up and I am concerned
>>34768519Yeah I noticed it after realizing that some guys I know are suddenly closer to my height when I know they should be shorter. Planks and deadhangs help fix it I’ve been told.
>>34768522Ill give them a shot.
