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It is genuinely extremely painful to receive messages like these. I am 31 and have only had one relationship and shes the only girl Ive had sex with. I dont understand what Im doing wrong in my life I need help. I have friends, I go out with them. I have hobbies, Ive even done meetup groups. No girls talk to me outside. They only want to message me twice on an app and soft fade me.
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Dont wait for girls to talk to you. Go talk to them. Risk rejection, get rejected. Roll the dice enough times and you'll roll sixes.
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>handsome but dull
eh, just talk AT them if you're having trouble getting your personality across
this crying like a bitch is guaranteed to repel females so cut it out
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>>34767748
You realize this message is saying you're handsome and she likes you, right?>>34767748
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>>34767815
Thats the irony bro. This is why he is single despite being good looking. He over thinks things and is a negative nancy boy.
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>>34767815
yes but she location catfished me, she doesnt live in my area
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>>34767827
Par for the course bro. If you use a dating app in any major city half of the women who indicate interest are actually living in a third world shithole (Usually the Philippines). You ignore them and keep rolling the dice.

Youre above average height and Ill take your word that you're attractive. Hit the gym, take a few good photos, swipe on a few dating apps. Talk to girls and ask them out. Keep doing what works and change what doesnt. Rinse and repeat until you succeed.
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>>34767748
>No girls talk to me outside.
You do realize you're supposed to talk to them right?
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>>34767857

OP expecting women approach him when they enter his gravitational field
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>>34767748
>I dont understand what Im doing wrong in my life
Either you have the ick, you aren't actually handsome, or there's some real issue you haven't mentioned.
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>>34767748
You need to harem maxx
It's the only way to compensate for your low body count
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>>34767863
NTA but yes and?
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>>34767748
She's implying there's something wrong with you. She already knows you "like" her so in her mind she's superior to you, this is just a catty bitchy way for her to denigrate you and lower your status in her mind more so she can feel even better about herself.
>>34767815
>>34767822
>>34767899
Retarded virgins.
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>>34768246
Is my low body count really that bad
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>>34768366
Its not an issue in and of itself. But the fact that you're single at 31 despite being tall and allegedly not unattractive means you're doing something wrong.Its symptomatic of an issue.
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>>34768376
>despite being tall
I am not tall. Never said I was
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>>34768366
No. I've fucked two women myself. One was a one night stand and the other is my to be wife. It would be nice to have slept with a few more. Primarily because I'm insecure and would like the validation but I don't think fucking a lot of women once is much to write home about. My fiance sucks my cock and works the balls and shaft with her hands, I can't imagine some tinder slut doing the same and then swallowing. Granted she doesn't do this very often.
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>>34768265
>Listen to ME, bro.
>I don't actually get women either so believe me I definitely know what I'm talking about!
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>>34768376
Oh true. But the fact you're getting hits on hinge definitely stands for something. In job terms, you're getting past the CV stage and failing the Interview.

Are you autistic? (Non rhetorical)
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>>34768397
>Are you autistic?
Its extremely hard for me to feel comfortable and be myself quickly in social situations. It takes me a long time to feel safe and let my real personality come through, which I think is not autistic or off putting. Im just very afraid of being bullied from things that happened a long time ago and ive worked on them, like Im not a total virgin, I do go on dates, but I do feel.compared to my attractiveness Ive underperformed a lot and my happiness suffers for it.
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>>34768388
I encountered almost this exact scenario when I was on a Bumble/Hinge bender last year and had multiple dates per week and added on half a dozen bodies in a month.
Worst part was it was some boxy assed pre-menopausal 40-something bitch that asked me. I looked up her instagram account and she had like 6k followers for swimsuit pics despite having the most dead average middle aged woman body ever, explaining her inflated ego.
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>>34768416
You might benefit from caring less about what they think. Just be more confident. Be upfront about yourself and bear in mind that if there was something disqualifying you from going out with a woman, tiptoeing around her sensibilities isn't going to make her want to be with you anyway. (Within reason of course, don't say some weird neo nazi crap and know how to read a conversation)
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>>34767772
basically fpbp

guys wanna avoid rejection so much they build empires of wealth, status, muscles only to be simps again.

if you wanna be strong - train
if you wanna be smart - learn
if you wanna know a skill - try and perfect
if you wanna be better cook - cook
if you wanna be skillful with women - go to gym? make money? become enlightened? lol WTF is wrong with dudes for real

Same shit goes. Its a skill, dealing with women. And it comes from - dealing with women. Usually it involves talking so I suggest OP start a lot of convos.

Just dont be sticky. Fully accept for first few years maybe, you will fuck it up with most girls you care about. Its how it goes.

PLENTY of "soul mates" women you have "amazing convo" women who "seem so into you" but never reply, never call back, never continue...
And they know it. Plenty women feed on deluding men. Only if you not a playa you get hurt. If you know the game you smile and pity them. Because girls like it are damaged anyhow, and you still a playa.

avoid apps also you cant provide enough feedback form them to learn fast.
GO IRL and talk a lot. Failure is the pavement leading to success. Its not optional. its required from you. Just dont focus on the pavement, focus on the goal.

In all honesty, try to find a healthy game circle pua circle whatever the name is, and put work in on the street, asking questions in humility when you confront a wall.

Or just make friends with someone who has more skill than you. Most of us wanna teach people. I helped great dudes in my circle all the time. Plenty found gf's now and are happy in LTRs.
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>>34767748
>No girls talk to me outside.
You are supposed to talk to them.

The number one thing women are attracted to is confidence. Even most of the secondary things women are also attracted to (e.g. being fit and healthy, being well-groomed) are actually just indicators of confidence: confident people take pride in their appearance. (This is why being fit isn't, by itself, enough to attract women; if you're fit but come across as shy and stammering, they'll lose interest fast). If you can learn how to fake confidence convincingly, you will have no problems attracting women; if you can manage to seem confident and also be funny, it becomes really quite easy.
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>>34767748
that's a tranny or an old man.



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