I'm fat, I know that much. Gained 45kg from meds and Binge Eating Disorder after being anorexic and bulimic for years.Thing is, people keep pointing it out. And I KNOW I am fat, I'm trying to change it. I'm eating less, exercising... I'm doing everything in my hand.But still people keep telling me not to eat so I can lose weight, or comparing me to friends who lost a lot of weight while I was gaining it. Or even poking my stomach while knowing it makes me uncomfortable.I know I'm fat, but how do I tell them it hurts me when they keep talking about my body and eating habits?I'm tired and it's making me miserable.
>>34769000By sharing exactly what you wrote here.
>>34769001Thing is I told them before, they just forget it and treat the topic as something normal to talk about.I know it's not that much of a bad topic, it just genuinely makes me miserable...
>>34769005Are these friends or family members? Might be time to start looking for new friends. If it's family members I would really put my foot down and let them know just how much it hurt you.
>>34769016friends,I told one of them to not bring the topic up and he said he'll try his best...
They're saying that because they care about you. It would be worse if they ignored you outright and just let you be a land whale and eat yourself to death. If they say something and it's really true that you're doing it you can say that "working on it bro" and that way you can fend it offStop being a little bitch
>>34769029Yeah it might be coming across like they're terrible but you're probably very sensitive, which is understandable since you gained the weight taking meds to help yourself. But yes it's time to grow a back bone
>>34769000If you already told them it hurts your feelings and they keep doing it, your only option is to stop hanging out with them
>>34769000If the truth can hurt you, then the thing that needs to change is you. You can't police the people around you and force them not to be truthful. It would be one thing if they were lying, but if what they're saying is accurate then it falls on you to make peace with truth and continue putting in your best effort to change for the better.
