>>34769122
No because this would be called "self sabotage". You would be woefully lacking in self awareness if you did this. Because the reason why it would hurt you if she were to leave you is because it would mean dealing with loss, which would be a normal feeling if that were to happen.

However if you break up with her to try to prevent it, you would be deliberately causing the same loss, the same reason for why you fear the hurt in the first place. It makes no sense at all.

The only way it makes sense is that this ain't about the fear of hurt this isn't about the girl, this is about wanting to control things to feel secure in yourself. Self sabotage never accomplishes this, only prolongs the issue at the cost of losing every opportunity to thrive.

Don't do it

>>34769129
I just don't want to feel worthless of love. I don't want my self esteem to tank

>>34769129
If you forget the Tates, the Meeks and all colors of pills for a moment, then imagine how much you would hurt her if she feels the same way about you. Hurting someone you love because you're afraid of getting hurt is selfish which is the opposite of love.

>>34769164
she's hurting me too. I didn't feel that much anxiety before I met her

>>34769394
Actually that's still you hurting you. You are the one being anxious and triggered by her existing. Which is good because you can just decide to stop hurting yourself this way

>>34769122
Do what your heart tells you

>>34769122
>Should I break up with her first so she doesn't have a chance to break up with me?
Actual retard, kys

You have to feel that breakup pain at least once if it happens. Let it happen.

>>34770728
I know. that changes nothing
>>34770732
I feel numb inside when my mental health deteriorates. idk what my heart tells me
>>34770837
>you have to
why? literally no reason to actually try to force her to break up with me. I gain nothing, and she gains nothing