I'm a good looking millenial unc.I had many opportunities in my life with women, but before my 30s I never had a gf, ONSs or w/e because I didn't want to invite anyone to my house or apartment or anything because they were shit, and I was deeply ashamed of being poor.At 30 I got a well paid job and tried to save as much as possible, so I was stingy and didn't want to spend money on women, other people or whatever, and that also made me feel ashamed of myself. I had some illness at the time that made me waste a couple of years. All of this basically meant a lifetime of isolation and trust issues.When I finally managed to save enough money, I decided to join some relative to buy the family house for cheap, Then there was a situation that left me completely in shock (they tried to keep some of the money I lent them to buy the house), so I decided not to spend a single cent in the property (a shitty house that was almost falling apart) until we resolved the situation.In the meantime I had my first gf ever and I lived with her for some time, but I decided to leave her when we broke up a couple of years ago. I'm back in my house after the issue with the property got resolved a year ago... But I haven't been able to build anything yet, so I still feel insecure about having a gf or inviting anyone here.Now the train is leaving me behind... I've basically wasted my fucking life because I'm too insecure and didn't ask anyone for help. Plus I might be autistic, too insecure, narcissistic, evitative, just low energy or who knows what.In your opinion, how retarded is this life story? What is someone like this supposed to do to turn their life around?
>>34770982tldr?
>>34770982>I've basically wasted my fucking life because I'm too insecureremember, even pretty women sleep with the most rancid-odor homeless bum off the street or the nightclub and take them home to their plush apartment. Many women have their own money these days, so they don't care about your wealth. If they find you attractive, they will want to sleep with you. It was never about money, but it can be.>What is someone like this supposed to do to turn their life around?You don't have any life goals or ambitions. Make an ideal life image in your head and then make steps to achieve that. If you dont know what you want to do in life, then you cant make steps to get there.
>>34770982Go to therapy but don't go blindly. Google how to find a good therapist, lookup reddit guides for questions that you think would be pertinent to your situation in helping you (small example like how long do you expect therapy to last therapist shouldn't want you in therapy forever, do they do homework does homework work for you etc) and honestly ask chatjeet this bullshit too. Otherwise the normal advice still tracks here look up how to stop brain rotting there's a good video explaining hobbies, only like 10 minutes longBasically have a social hobby or two as well as your own individual ones. There's also a ton of YouTube stuff you can find that might help in liu of therapy right now, I would try that as well. Look up the mental health thread on /t/ look up mental health advice on reddit.Your story isn't retarded it's just unfortunately what your life has been, and it happens anon. You're still young enough to turn it around, but you have to give yourself grace. Like mentioning your illness as a "time waste" isn't very kind to yourself, not much you could have done about it.
>>34771008>tldr?This:>Now the train is leaving me behind... I've basically wasted my fucking life because I'm too insecure and didn't ask anyone for help. Plus I might be autistic, too insecure, narcissistic, evitative, just low energy or who knows what.>>34771022>You don't have any life goals or ambitions.I actually do, but I've had to change my dreams multiple times because they keep getting crushed by reality. Also, they have always made me feel alone, because I don't know anyone who has followed a similar path, or had similar interests, etc. in my life.I have multiple projects, many of which I haven't even started. But, for example, early this year I "designed" the very house I want to build, in a way that will help me with my hobbies and stuff.But I kind of stopped doing and learning stuff for the last years due to reasons, and now I feel like my brain is fried due to lack of intellectual exercise (outside of work, I waste a lot of time in front of my computer, in websites like this one).>>34771036Thanks anon for the advice. I've tried a few therapists. The last one helped me organize myself, but I had a hard time opening up with her.>social hobbyI've tried that a bit, but for whatever reason I always end up rejecting proposals or outright going back to isolation. Idk how to motivate myself to do stuff. And whenever I'm alone I remember bad shit I've gone through and feel a deep sadness and pity of myself, and I obsess about that shit. I know I should do therapy for this but I'm scared of failing again due to distrust and insecurities.I've been thinking of leaving this shithole of a house once again. I did try earlier this year, but I failed for some stupid reason. Also, I might get laid off from my job and I really don't want to risk having to pay a lot of rent money only to have to come back...Idk man, I overthink everything, and whenever I manage to do things, something happens and I feel completely fucked by my luck. It's like a curse.
