We've been together for about 2 years, she's into 3rd year of med school and lives alone. We weren't planning on telling our parents yet but her family found out accidentally, and ever since, her mom has always been against me. Her dad is pretty chill but he doesn't seem to be the one wearing the pants there.Her mom told her I have no future, she told her she needs to get out with her cousins more often and try to find another guy, she told her my degree is worthless, told her my family isn't on the same level as hers so she needs to break up with me, told her all kinds of shit, every day she calls her and it's the same thing.A bit of background on me, I am 23 years old and she's 21, I have finished business administration which isn't a fancy degree but I have been doing well in my life, I haven't asked my family for money and I can provide for myself. Funny thing is, her husband has also done business administration, and she calls it a useless degree.I don't think her mom is looking for any arguments or facts, she simply doesn't want me and every day she stresses her only daughter, trying to control her life and threatening her saying she is going to die of blood pressure if she doesn't break up with me.
The devouring mother strikes again. There isn't much you can do besides hope your gf is smart enough not to fall for her mom's bullshit. Depending on how bad the mother tries to emotionally manipulate your gf will decide what happens next. Will your gf respect your relationship and set boundaries with her mom, or will she fall for her mom's bullshit? How well do you know your gf to talk about this, and gauge her reaction to the situation?
>>34773203dude her mom is just bored and needs something to occupy her time with.anyway just put a baby in her and wife her to spite the bitch mom.
>>34773203>We've been together for about 2 years>We weren't planning on telling our parentsJesus Christ you're assholes.
>>34773203>We weren't planning on telling our parentsWho decided this? Is your gf keeping you a secret from her mom? There are situations where it would be reasonable, just sounds weird after two years.
>>34773203Hi. Are you american? Or in whatever elese part of that earth you are living?I can tell you one thing: THAT WILL GO ON, until that lady-of-a-****-mother is dead. Believe me. As the other anon wrote, your gf must be really smart and strong to withstand, or you both leave the country and stop contact (you‘re both old enough). Have an open and honest concersation with your gf. Also speak with that mother and the dad, tell them, once and clear, that your relationship is not their business.
>>34774364>Jesus Christ you're assholes.I wouldn't tell them either seeing as how clearly his GF's mom is an insufferable cunt.
>>34774302>anyway just put a baby in her and wife her to spite the bitch mom.This. And don't forget to marry your GF. Don't worry about in-laws, you're supposed to push them away and only let them visit for a few hours every other weekend to see the baby besides that you keep them at a far distance. It's called boundaries OP, every couple has to cleave away from their old families if they want to start their own. Your GF's mom probably hates her husband and wants to pimp her daughter out (your gf) to the wealthiest man she thinks she can find for her to vicariously replace her husband (financially, sometimes emotionally, rarely sexually). Devouring mothers always do this they're mentally ill freaks
>>34774666yeah this. make sure your gf can keep mommys thoughts outside the chicken wire or else you might as well cut your loses when you eventually make an error in judgement and it becomes your cardinal sin that lasts the rest of her life.all that matters here is your gf. the mom will get bored or just hate you forever since she's bored. your chances of changing a senile step parent... you may as well go bobbing for salmon instead.i just learned to laugh at peoples problems i couldnt change. what else can you do but have a sense of humor when retardation is involved?
>>34774253God I hate devouring mothers so fucking much you have no idea.
>>34774527since we are 21 and 23, and from eastern europe, we don't really have a culture of "gf and bf", once your family gets to know you then you can consider yourself engaged. We were planning to tell them around the third year anyway, it was our decision.>>34774666Why leave country? Isn't just getting our own place to live enough? even inside the country?>>34774716My gf has been very stressed every time she talks with her mother and she has tried every time telling her that she will decide for herself, and she just keeps calling her every day.
Well what does the mother want instead? What would actually be on the "same level" as their family?
