>be me>21 f, strange girl, but attractive, able to attract men but usually scare them off>look normal but off putting>i meet a guy>he’s based>so very based>he’s funny>honestly he’s perfect even as a friend>but no, he’s not a friend to me>he was my baby>we date>fall in luv >we’re literally the couple>things get rough, things happen, i honestly am just standing by his side during it>things change>but we lived together >just got the whole shabang >boom broken up with>boom im in the worst depressive episode>begging for him back>he says we can take a break, and then go from there>but i know what’s gonna happen>i can’t fix thiswhat do i even do? i thought this guy was gonna be my husband. he was an autist and he indulged my love. he never truly didn’t love me, i dont think, but why end things when things get rough? honestly i think that we’re both in a shit place and a break isn’t a bad idea. it’s just the fact he jumped the gun. we literally match each others circadian rhythm pls be serious or just make me laugh im kind of heartbroken and i just need a giggle. there’s absolutely nothing worse than the feeling of the crushing weight of “fuck, i truly was (am) in love, and it’s falling apart slowly”there probably is worse feelings. welp
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>>34773510Why are you talking like a teenager? You sound absurdly immature.A break just means he wants to fuck someone else and wants you as a backup in case he has a dry spell. Move on. He sounds like a loser and you fell for him out of desperation.
>>34773529afab faggotif i was a tranny i would’ve killed myself already
>>34773535to be honest im still in shockyou’re right though, im just trying to make it sound pretty because i cant admit that the man doesnt give a fuck anymore
>>34773510Can u post urself wearing the fabled "never goon" meme t shirt (:
>>34773544He probably never did give a fuck, people can hide their true selves for years and years. Some can even do it for decades. But that's not a reflection on you, thats all his shit. You need to take some time and recover, do some positive thinking and realize that there are better people out there. You can move on and you can find a relationship that is as romantic as you desire
>>34773579thank you anon
>>34773602No problem op breakups are hard especially when it's one sided and you fell hard for them, but trust me I've been there, where it seems like you lost your one chance and its all over, but eventually you move on and grow and find someone better for you, and the old flame seems so small and unimportant
>>34773510For any real advice you’d have to give more details on what was so rough and the reasons he gave for breaking up
>>34773656Not really, you are just being nosey
>>34773656idk why you guys would need much reasons but to put it simply it was just a lot of bullshit building up. not really anything between us, he had stuff going on and so did i, therefore it was causing us a lot of stress, i dunno really
>>34773661if i do ill send you all the livestream link
>>34773660>>34773797If there’s no apparent problem there’s no apparent solution. So no advice to give, dummies. > bullshit building upYeah, that sounds like a preventable problem that kills relationships regularly.
>>34773803it really was preventable. it makes me the most upset because i sat and i tried. my family had people die in a week, my life had gone to shit, i won’t say more but needless to say, his problems weren’t death, and the feeling of shaking a cold body in your fucking arms.it’s not that his problems weren’t a big deal, but it was like he needed me to fix him, and he would literally ignore me every time i tried to voice mine. fuck me i am a retard
>>34773799Ewww nobody wants to see your ugly ass
>>34773510the guys done you a favor cause now you can heal and move on and find someone else. you're young and probably haven't hit the wall yet unless you're balding or fat or have fetal alcohol syndrome.most the other fags here are probably in a much worse situation.if there is one thing you get easy mode in life it's with dating.you could probably sign up to any dating site and have 100 messages from men by tonight especially if you put one remotely based thought out of your queef canal.just sign up to duolicious if you want to findother social retards.and tits or gtfo. you know the rules.
>>34773799also don't kys. i know i sound like the asshole here but you'll move on with time.everyone here's been in what you're in nowthe guy was probably an asshole and wouldnt have been good for you long term even if he did stay.
>>34773971you sound like a black person
>>34773974honestlyi can’t be madmade me laugh thank you anon
>>34774145when* i kms youll get the link first
>>34774141:)you'll make it through this
>>34774162you on the left
>>34774167>me on the bottomyour marks too high
>>34774180me on the leftyou on the right
>samefagging
>>34774184never gonna happen. got out of a decade long relationship. i know better now. i hate women.>>34774198shuttup nigger
>>34774198>”samefagging”barely any responses mf im OP you fucks are so gay
>>34774167kek
>>34774201a decade long? was it engagement or marriage? dude thoughts and prayers im not going to lie.
>>34774237longer than a decade. never married but i helped raise all her kids. started when i was younger than you. i left her. lives were going nowhere and the kids are all adults now and have their shit together so it was time.just gonna live in my car after my work season ends and be a millenial boomer faggot like the elders that snowbird to arizona during the winter in quartzville or whatever its called.you're still young and dumb and people expect you to try on new coats (relationships, jobs, transgender forms, etc). if you do it in your 30s you look like a loser, so you still have many mistakes to check off before you're a fuck up like most the people on this site... assuming you're 21, not a tranny that's gotten surgery, fetal alcohol syndrome, withstanding
>>34774237how'd you meet your imaginary boy toy anyways? were they real or online through discord?
>>34773829>fuck me i am a retardYou aren't retarded. You might be a bit emotionally immature (we all were at one point)>shaking a cold body in your fucking armI assume the time between that and the breakup were pretty short. So give yourself some grace, you are still struggling with a lot.>he needed me to fix him, and he would literally ignore me every time i tried to voice mineSounds like a really immature dude. Sorry you had to deal with that shit. It sounds like you both relied pretty heavily on each other. Not a bad thing but maybe you both needed to expand your support networks to include people outside each other. At the very least you both need some better coping mechanisms (could be a therapist or just self study). P.S. You deserve someone that's going to be there for you through thick and thin.
>>34774303>P.S. You deserve someone that's going to be there for you through thick and thin.if this was a dude you would be telling him he doesn't deserve shit and he should have been strong for his gf.I swear soon as some creature having a pussy gets involved you fags get all lovey dovey.
>>34774335nah i wouldn't. fuck women. soulless demoness'.the fag above you just wants to fuck her e-online bussy though so maybe you are right for him.
>>34774335wtf no, I regularly gas men up. I try and build their confidence up because they dont deserve to be women's emotional punching bag. Its just most dudes dont take kind to more feminine language. So when I give advice to guys its more rough. Cause that's how they understand shit. Also fuck dudes that try to only blame dudes in relationships it takes two to tango fucker.
>>34774267i knew him irl lol, we lived together like after a few months of knowing him
>>34774252man i honestly hope you’re doing good, spending a decade with someone is insane. i hope you’re doing okay
>>34774371what are your plans now after the rope ends?>>34774375yeah its just life. im looking forward to being a full time loser anyways rather than fighting for lost causes the rest of my life. its serenity prayer stuff. having the wisdom to know the difference between something worth fighting for and what you have to let go of, move on, accept, and grow from.im just trying to tell you you still have plenty of time to check off mistake boxes considering your age. you could be me. men will bend over backwards for you. you're in a sellers market for your sex - if you are a melon merchant and not a frankenstein vendor
>>34774303thank you anon this is incredibly nice of you to say, i just hope he tries to give himself grace and go to therapy
>>34774386you have the wrong mindset. you need to take care of yourself. he did you wrong, and you can't take care of others until you take care of yourself.you're turning empathy into a self-defeating pattern, or whatever term they use for it now, suicidal empathy.even if you want them to change and the fairy tale to come true you have to realize change is slow and it will take him like a year or more to be a different person (and they likely won't), so for now you gotta cut ties and not let them be an emotional vampire or make yourself a willing victim 'as a friend'.
>>34774385>what are your plans now after the rope ends?hoping i don’t get rope burn>im looking forward to being a full time loser anyways rather than fighting for lost causes the rest of my lifei assure you that you can find someone. you seem like you genuinely care about people on a level, and as long as you aren’t a retard who’s sat there and became so negativistic that everything you say just spews hate… take ur own advice, you have time, just as anyone else on everything else i fundamentally am not ugly and this or that, i honestly haven’t had many actual relationships that have lasted this long because im a raging nerd, and im annoyingly talkative. i don’t really care and i don’t aim to fix it because why would i? im trying to just move along and not move to the next, but maybe do some actual work on myself lol
>>34774398thank you i needed this, genuinely
>>34774398no fooling either cause if you don't give a grace period to detach people open their slit or unload the cock holster real quick for a moment of cathartic comfort.>>34774399i'm in my negative arc, but it's just a barrier to keep people away. i just want to meditate and be left alone now anyways. relationships always lead to a party dominating and someone often loses their soul unless both parties are still competing to be on top.played the natalist game. already raised 'the kids' and lived the relationship my entire adult life, so i'm not the one in a pity party but just self deprecating. i know what i am and you're just using your gas act.
>>34774386You are welcome anon. Your ex will hopefully take this time to reflect and develop as a person. Also take this break to reflect on if you really think he has the values you want in a man.
>>34774403in order for you to grow you need to realize there's a difference between nice and kind. in order to be a better lover you gotta be a tough lover. that means drawing lines and barriers and not selling your soul to compromise for simple comforts.if you're not stupid, you'll learn something from this and become a better person and learn to take care of people better. you'll also take care of people that are worth it and not the millions of black holes on planet earth that will swallow infinite compliments and shit out toxic clouds.i'm guessing you've already compromised a part of yourself to make the relationship work. you've already done your part of the act though, and its time to drop the rope, grieve, and get on to the next battle.
>>34774418cheers to you then, live your life the way you want! i honestly thought you were just being self destructive, but you’ve lived life. meditate in what sense?
>>34774433im a fire lookout so ive already chosen the path of least resistance to finding people. 8)be myself as an adult not attached to anyone. that journey type of meditation whether standing, sitting, or walking. study occult. divination. true non-attachment to people so i can have an ego death moment. like a monk without the religious attachment.
>>34774433was good talking to you and some fun banter even if you're a tranny. you seem like a chill person that cares a lot and thats an admirable trait. your next one will be lucky to have you.im glad you had a sense of humor over your troubles. let me know if you want to bs in the futureyoull make it and dont kys yet
>>34774252Why raise someone else's kids for, what was the transaction here
>>34774916young dumb naive and loved the other person enough to ignore the baggage. later on i was so deep in it that jumping ship would have screwed their lives over so i stuck around until the end.
