Back in high school, I dated a girl I loved very much. We had to break up shortly after our second year of college because her parents sent her to a different college in another state, and we couldn't talk very often. On top of that, her parents never approved of me because we're from different races (Latino and Asian) They even contacted my parents and talked to them about it. They said I wasn't enough for their daughter.We kept a long distance relationship going for a while, but it eventually fell apart. I never truly dated anyone after her, mostly because I was fixated on my education, and later my career. But also because I wasn't ready to date anyone else and I was extremely bitter and hateful.About a month ago, we moved into the same city once again, and we immediately tried to reconnect. It turns out she's now a single mom with a kid.I tried my best to hide my disappointment, and I did my best not to hate her, and not to hate her kid, especially her kid, because I'm not an animal, I know he's not to blame. But deep down, I feel extremely hurt.We tried to have sex last night, and the sight of her stretch marks grossed me out. It was more about the knowledge that she'd had another man inside of her, and carried out their child. That she moved on from me extremely fast, while I never truly did in nearly a decade, to know I basically lost my virginity to her, and she lost hers to some idiot who pumped and dumped her. It's just not the same... It's not going to work. how do I break up with her? I don't want to be a jerk about it, specially because we had sex last night, but I can't stand being with her anymore.
>>34775176I'm not looking for anything serious, I just want to be alone for now, we're not compatible, etc.
>>34775185What?! No, the real reason is that I don't want to hurt her, me or her kid. We are just not compatible
I think the worst part was when we were having sex, and she covered her marks with her hand so I won't see them. I uncovered them anyway and told her they were beautiful, that she shouldn't be ashamed of being a mother, of being a woman. I even kissed her stomach to reassure her, and to my surprise it made her cry. I told her that I still loved her and she could count with me like she always did when we were younger.But it was all a lie. I just didn't want to hurt her with how I truly felt. And now I want to break up with her.
>>34775176you're in the deep cause not only did you go for a sequel but you lied to her face. if you say someones stretch marks are beautiful then later tell them what you really think, you're still sharting on the situation even if you try to make it a silent fart. you're going to give her some deep thoughts no matter what you do, so just pick up your briefcase and get to the board room meeting before you're 10 years down the line hating yourself for it. you're wasting both your time at this point.you've got your own scars since you gave up for a decade after her. you might as well be straight with her that you've become hateful and bitter when she broke off and moved on like she did; you were hoping this would be a dream come true, but you can't move on from the past.at this point you're just coping and making up reasons for your own fuck up. write what you want to say on a piece of paper so you can phrase it in the best way if you dont want it to hurt but since you already gave her a load of your mayonnaise you're in for a bad experience regardless.
>>34775176It really hurts to learn how shallow you are
>>34775372yup op fucked up by going in for desert and doesn't want to face the consequences for pleasing the little guy down under. the woman's going to be traumatized no matter what since he flat faced lied to her. haha.hopefully this will teach him not to bring his guns to town and keep his kewpie shooter in its holster next time before acting like the sheriff and trying to read the law
>>34775176>how do I break up with her?Neck yourself, you superficial asshole.
>>34775176seems like you never loved her, or loved he illusion of who she was, rather than who she is. unfortunately, most people who break up and move on with their lives do not still remain focused on the person they broke up with. sometimes people just have seasons in our lives and this is clearly a hard line for you - but the truth is you're jealous and mad for circumstances outside your control, and you don't love her, but love the idea of possessing an image of her
>>34775176keep fucking her to just get all the sexual experience you missed out on and go look for your actual wife elsewhere.Don't listen to the losers in this thread calling you shallow, if her parents had an issue with her dating you and she listened to them, why did she not abort the child she had from the loser that pumped and dumped her aswell?She never would have even looked at you again if she had not become a single mother.Always keep that in mind, she would have never even looked at you again if she had not been pumped and dumped by that loser.
>>34775176Ur a goofy weirdo
>mirror mirror on the wall make me look good in this allop fled the scene again *gasp* because they don't like our responses
>>34775176Why weren't you enough according to the parentsWhy not just be a jerk and pump and dump, isn't that just an equal exchange to her betraying you and hurting you
Ask her for an open relationship so you can fuck other woman if you got game
>>34778588Uhhh how about no?
lol oneitis faggots keep losing
>>34775176You've had ten years to stop being a faggot , what did you do in that time? You're a genetic dead end m8
>>34778605why are you ignoring everyone else giving you advice and face the music?
>>34775390>>34778755She's not gonna let you hit bro.
