I have been an older sibling with older sibling syndrome, everyone just assumes your bat shit insane and have some form of schizophrenia and adhd all at once and false sense of authority before you leave home, when you do you become a household campfire story until they learn you found a job and have kids and wife then it repeats to the next generation the family gossip>Did you hear about the oldest son/daughter is kinda crazy yeah they beat up their younger siblings and yell at them to behave >Reality is younger siblings wont be normal and leave you be>Younger adult siblings become methheads or lose a limb and expect money from youWhy?
>>34775278Older sibling syndrome is your fucking problem to bear. It’s kind of like how you can only be embarrassed if you give a fuck what other people think. Nobody told you that you had to have older sibling syndromes in fact, I’m the oldest sibling and had to look that up. It sounds like a neurotic rename of OCD. Just obsessing about something internal that nobody forces upon you. My younger sisters were shitters too. I just went and did my own thing and didn’t care. My parents could try to use every mistake I made as some sort of horror story, yeah, but they couldn’t live up to my grades or sports performance so it’s not like that ever made me butthurt. They could try as they like to pin everything on me but I was/am obviously the best one. You built your own prison.
>>34775278families give each other shit. you're so wrapped up in your own that you haven't realized you still think you're the center of your universe.people give each other shit either to make themselves feel better or add sense of humor to the stresses of life.if you become one of the eggshell maker mother fuckers that makes everyone sensitive around you, people will just avoid you and show real apathy so pick your poison.at some point you just embrace the reputation and have a laugh at it. what else can you do? might as well add to the rumormill if it makes others laugh and maybe they will think how ridiculous some of their bullshit conspiracies are.if the youngers are pissing you off, give a thought as to why or even journal about it, so you can come back to them with a reasonable take on whatever their problem is without your baggage getting in the way. that is if you give a fuck about their problems.dont give drug users money. that's a tough love situation that you gotta be straight on. you're being the bad guy feeding a bad habit there. you've clearly got your own bullshit to work through since you seem to think you're mr. nice guy.
>>34775278I'm an older sib and none of those things ever happened to me. Maybe your problems lie in YOU and not in your family position
>>34775278I'll tell you about me.My older brother has always being temperamental, I have always been empathetic and fearful. My dad used to be very stuck up and strict but mellowed out as he aged.My brother would always be pissed about shit and took whatever was the hardest way to tackle on life, he was also shy whenever not being a prick. He had a girlfriend once and never told the family. He had another girlfriend he was hanging on to because she cheered him up when dad died but they didn't get along at all and he wanted to go back to her when they broke up. He hasn't been home for 10 years but he expects me to be a retarded kid who laughs at his jokes, when all he does is sperg and lash like a /pol/fag.He wants me to take a shitty boring hard life like him, instead of thinking about my needs, and I still want to connect with him because I don't have friends and he's the default friend. I am not proud of his faults. I wish he grew up a little bit by tending to life outside work or achievements, and specially that he learned about people.Perhaps your brothers wish better of you anon. Perhaps you were a controlling shit and now that they're grown up and developed they feel sorry for your family. That means you have to let go of them and let them do their own shit, but also doubt yourself whether or not you're genuinely making mistakes by being too worrisome or controlling.
>>34775278It took me many years, but I realized the key to dealing with family is to channel your inner Donald Trump. Just be light and glib, talk a bit conceited in a jokey way. Verbally jab at others but smile laugh while doing it, and usually they laugh with you. It's much like stereotypical PUA advice for dealing with stereotypical toxic women: Don't take them seriously, roll with the shit tests, sprinkle negging as needed, keep frame.> Why?NPCs are retarded, and trauma bonding is the only way they know how to bond with others, and if you don't enthusiastically participate they think you evil and hateful.Be confident and compassionate towards yourself, stable and happy in other areas of life, and then that builds the foundation so you can maintain frame as you figure out how to incorporate dark triad psychological judo strategies into your personality without compromising your core values and integrity.
