Where do I go from here?I've found my whimsy 6/10 weird girl, but lost her due to my cowardice. I couldn't ask her out in time, and she had already found a boyfriend by the time I gained the courage.And yes, I've tried moving on - I talked with ugly, easy bitches and with pretty, hard-to-reach girls, and neither really piqued my interest. They're all boring, and I can't really put in effort anymore.So where do I go from here?Should I just pursue my interests and throw in the towel, or maybe force myself to talk to other girls even though I literally hate having to entertain these dumb whores?Will I get over her eventually, or will she forever stain my heart?
you get like 6 or 7 chances at "the one" don't worry about it
>>34775919it sounds like she was your first love so she has forever stained your heart, but alas you should just pursue your other interests.work on yourself, and someone else will come along if you're not boarding yourself up in solitary confinement.there's other chances if you are available in some part but don't tie your ego to your dating apps or success rate. if some hambeast is below your standards, don't waste your time on them.
>>34775933not my first loveI've had that one a long time ago and I got over her 1 or 2 years after we've splitso no, not my first rodeo>>34775920but it's been a good couple of years now and I have even tried talking to other girls
>>34775949i feel like i meet a soulmate candidate about once every 3 to 5 years
>>34775971NtaHow? Like what are you doing to attract people that suit you instead of just...someone who finds you physically appealing but isn't at all the kind of person you want to be with?
>>34775971and dont you have a favorite one that cant be replicate out of those?
>>34776004dating apps or third spaces. use a fake name if you want but be more honest in your profile information. ive also found many people soften up to you after time if they like you
>>34775919If she liked you she would have made it super easy for you to ask her out.Don't build up people in your mind without making sure it is reciprocal first.Anyway now she is getting cummed in by that other guy so it doesn't matter.And also just letting you know there is no "the one" just wade through the whores and find one that will cheat on you only a minimal amount and will listen to you or at least pretend to.
>>34776112So you just get lucky. Great.
>>34776147yup op's lived in lala land, and the gingerbread castle's now a rotted husk while they're wondering why they feel like rotting vlad.the one is bs. disney marriage is bs. a person is born every second. you can't evaluate every woman in your age range every few seconds or you'll go nuts.a century ago people didn't even leave their farm village to find 'love'. i'm not saying to find Masses Cupcake but there's tons of other 'weird whimsy ones' out there. your ego is crushed right now so you gotta rebuild it back up, fix your problems you made for yourself in the last few years, and move along. it's gonna take some work.
>>34775919My faith in her and knowing she is mine is stronger than threads like this.
>>34776157so you've already given up?go to a new church every sunday until you find one with beautiful girls. if the mom likes you they'll introduce you to their daughters.go to yoga clubs and you'll be the only fucking guy. men dont go to these events. there's a million things you can crash. AA, alanon, book clubs, library, etc.you're gonna have to do some exploring. that's how it works. men are the peacocks and not the princesses waiting in the tower for prince right.
>>34775971This has been my experience until 29 years old. Then it never happened again. Currently 37.
>>34776231you need to be looking and not waiting for it to happen. as i said above, you have to be the peacock. you have to put yourself out there to be available.
>>34776178>churchWell your advice is gonna be useless
>>34776243>namefag gives bad advice Nothing new under the sun.
>>34775919Put yourself in situations where you meet new people, build rapport with them, and form genuine connections. Somewhere along the line you will find another person who feels like "the one" and then if that doesn't work out, you will likely find someone else who feels like "the one" later on.It's just how it works. There is 8bn people on this planet. You will find someone
>>34776243i'll see you when you make another thread like this next year asking the same question. your options are dating apps, third spaces, work places. people aren't going to want to walk up to you out in public unless you're a 9 or 10 which it sounds like you're not.last year me and some guys would go to a cowboy church in nowheresville usa. at least a quarter of the churchgoers were single women. didn't even see a hambeast in the entire place. i went into it thinking it'd be the byproduct of a 7/11 diet, but it was ranching families and farmers.a dime a dozen of men come to /adv/ dumbfounded, unsure why they can't find women if they act like one themselves; they then draw the conclusion that it's entirely the womens fault that women aren't acting like men approaching them. where has that worked in the past? a boy band? or emo crowd that no longer exists?>>34776432great advice on your end
>>34776482i pick "force things" :3>>34776231ahhthat's grimi'm married but i do like the feeling that washes over me and the general chemistry when i encounter someone like that>>34776093nobody can be replicated, obviouslybeing special is actually not anything special, unfortunately, what's really special is the grace and patience of building something with someone>>34776004i work with a lot of customers and revolving cohorts and i go to a lot of yoga classes and i even found one on /adv/
What was so whimsy weird about this one
>>34777995I could be as edgy as I wanted around herI have /pol humor and she didnt mind thatShe was also very gorgeous and sweet
>>34778779so what're you gonna do now that you've ignored everyone elses advice?
>>34778801cry myself to sleep idkCAN YOU PROMISE ME THAT IF I LOOK HARD ENOUGH I'LL FIND SOMEONE EXACTLY LIKE HER YOU RETARD?
>>34778833no. we can help you try though. show us a picture of your face and hairline so you can enter the gauntlet and we can judge you accordingly.have you lost your first millimeter or hair?are you fat?does your facial hair look like pubes?what do your clothes look like?
