My mom died from alcohol poisoning and her funeral is next Monday and I frankly don’t drive two hours and pretend she was a good mother or person. She had borderline personality disorder and did absolutely nothing with her life but make life hell for others especially her family. We couldn’t even go on vacation without her having a meltdown over some petty inconvenience. She actively tried to turn me and my brothers into losers and when I got my first job she tried stealing my keys and trying to psych me out on how dangerous or how it’s not worth it and how I’ll find something better. I didn’t listen to her my brothers did now he’s 35 and jobless and living at home exactly what she wanted. She hated everyone including us but couldn’t stand the idea of being alone. She ruined my entire childhood by keeping me at home because she was scared of pedophiles and whatever else and sabotaging my relationships. She also hated her parents of course until her father died and she could add it to her victim mythology how he “was the only man who was there for me” and her mother especially her mother. To put it simply she is a miserable cunt who should have thrown in a dumpster as a baby and I’m not going to pretend otherwise. The only thing I’m worried about is my dad who literally wasted his entire life trying to please that unappeasable woman especially at him children’s expense writing me out of the will and not getting a nice cabin I really want as it is close to a city where my job is in demand and I can farm the land. But then again he’s not very good with money and would probably blow the money on blow and other stupid shit.
Go and get closure. You are behaving like an afraid bitch right now, you will be crying like a bitch blaming yourself that you couldn't say goodbye when things finally get better.The only way to stop being a bitch is to start now. Bitch.
>>34776108Don't go, you don't owe this cunt shit. She was a faggot. Don't fall for the storys people tell you because they heard it somewhere else
>>34776125/threadamen. sermons over.
>>34776125I’m not scared I just want to drive three hours to hear family try to excuse her shit worthless life and I’m not going to make a ass of myself by calling her for what she is a worthless cunt out of respect for my family not her.
>>34776108Go and check up on your family man.
>>34776145you're so angry from mommy that you've let it take over your life. who gives a shit what others say, you don't have to cross your arms like a turd grader and truth bomb them about the reality. she's dead. pull your head out of your ass and move on. you're lost in yourself right now and coming to stupid conclusions because your emotions.
You're behaving like a child. Your mother may have been horrible, and led then kind to you, but she was a tortured soul herself. It's hard to understand parents until you have children of your own and begin to realize those decisions they made were for a reason, maybe a bad reason, but they had a reason. And how hard it is to be a parent. Every parent screws up. Even millionaires with lots if therapist time can be an asshole to the family or make massive life changing mistakes when given the chance. Go to her funeral. Do NOT speak ill of the dead. And hope your own children one day forgive you for your own mistakes and bad ideas. Don't allow your resentment of your mother blind you.
>>34776108Congrats on your loss. You should go for the remaining family, if you are able. You don’t have to give a fuck.
>>34776224I'll add. The reason to not speak ill of the dead is because, as your mind goes on and you keep talking shit of people, only the bad memories remain. You know deep down you had at least one good memory with your relatives and can't remember anymore because you're a cynical shit.
>>34776108>I frankly don’t drive two hours and pretend she was a good mother or person.Don't. Go there to dance on her grave. Go to her wake and tell as many horror stories as you can. Give a speech at her funeral where you remind everyone how much better the world is without her in it.
your cunt mom gets the last laugh if she can cuck you into going to her funeral from the fucking grave.
>>34776108I think you should go OP, not because you need closure or to say goodbye to your mother, but because you brother and father might need some support. Just being there might show them that you care about them, and who knows you might influence your brother to improve him self now that there is no one keeping him in place.
>>34776125always the overcompensating manlets who say gay shit like this in topics unrelated to anything actually difficultyou should kill yourself
>>34776195no one cares what a mentally ill tripfag has to say
>>34776108Funerals are NOT for the dead, but for the living. If there is a single person, relative or not, who will be comforted by the ceremony, you should go, say all the right things, and stifle your anger - just as a gift to those who mourn.
>>34776108Don’t go, deal with the fall out later.Everyone’s being a sappy faggot, they don’t understand situations like yours. Your dad sounds like a dumbass too desu, take care of yourself like you’ve been trying to. Literally the only reason would be to get that cabin or whatever
>>34778045Yes. That is so fashionable to rip on people wiser than thou. I would read his book, but not yours. Not going to tell him. I will let attention seeking recluses talk to him instead.
>>34776108Go there and piss on her grave later
>>34776108Death does not absolve https://youtube.com/@SocietalNarcissism/search?query=Death+does+not+absolve
