I am a 26 year old KKHV. Fortunately, the causes of my status are not genetic but environmental, and one day they'll resolve, so I think I have a chance.I come from a culture that's retarded, views every relationship as permanent, and actively incites people to go apeshit and be violent when things go wrong.However, fortunately, I am aware that's retarded. Relationships are like contracts and you should never over-invest in them to an extent your well-being hinges on them staying intact.In that light, a woman might reject me and never give a chance, or even if we eventually date, she might break up with me for the most cheesy reason. Sometimes, it's much more visceral and hurting, like being cheated on.Regardless, it's my responsibility to protect myself mentally and never let anyone have a mental monopoly over me. I must always put myself first and move on swiftly.I think intending to do that in the first place is a first step. But, how to take this idea further and actually implement it naturally as part of my "personality"?
>>34776332you can't really plan how you will react, but you can act with accepting consequences you don't like will follow. it sounds like you're just over thinking all this and need to calm the thought sensors. if you're in overdrive mentally you're more likely to act retarded.its like in a police shooting that wasn't handled with 2 mag dumps, the cops that handled it in a few shots said they feel like everything they did was in slow motion because they had done the training enough to have confidence in what they were doing.what you lack now is self confidence so you need to build that up which often involves ways to shut your mind up and calm your body down. exorcise and meditation and reflection are the best (even if they sound gay) ways to accomplish this.alcohol and nicotine can help on a whim but may lead to consequences.don't go into this planning to get rejected. if they say no just accept it and move on.
>>34776332Work on putting up boundaries. That is probably the biggest skill here and there are lots of books about developing that skill. Something to remember here is that boundaries are things that if other people act a certain way, you deny them your presence. >I come from a culture that's retarded, views every relationship as permanent, and actively incites people to go apeshit and be violent when things go wrongMexico?
>>34776430Middle East :(
>>34776480Just Allah Akbar and blow yourself up
>>34776332Imagine what a pro would do, and do what they would do.
