Due to personal reasons I grew up completely burnt out on trying to take care of people who refuse to take care of themselves and think it's funny and cute when they make other people do so. I've had to (sometimes physically) wrangle people out of life-threatening situations or into doing things safely so much that I am sick and tired of it deep to my soul, in a way that doesn't recover over time. My boyfriend watches vtubers and one of his favourites is some bitch who is an exact carbon copy of that same type of person, save for using that fucking squeaky-ass helium voice and talking like she has brain damage. My boyfriend showed me some clip of her and a bunch of other vtubers arguing about how she wouldn't fucking eat regular meals and didn't want to consume more than one fucking cup of noodles per day because it's ~*sOo MuCh WoRk AnD i DoN't WaNnAaAa*~ and how she doesn't like to eat food because it "makes her sick" and started describing the symptoms of refeeding syndrome. And I told my boyfriend point blank that they should just let her die. If she doesn't want to keep herself alive then other people should stop trying to force her and just let her reap what she sows.He was appalled by what I said and now he's not speaking to me.tf do I do?
>>34778121Was he appalled by what you said or taken back by your crazy reaction? He probably just thought “goddamn I wouldn’t have shown you if I knew you were going to start malding”But also the fact that you led with the justification for your overreaction leads me to believe that your childhood role of superhero isn’t actually why you kneejerk raged at the video. You don’t like that girl for other reasons. He probably picked up on how fucking weird that entire thing was and is probably not super concerned about what you specifically said about that one YouTube video. It only takes one freakout to change your opinion of somebody.
>>34778171What part of my reaction was "crazy" or "malding"? Everything I said, I stated perfectly calmly. I didn't make a face or raise my voice at any point.
>>34778182You’re still malding about it lmao. If you can’t read the seething tone in OP, then I don’t know what to tell you. The seethe is palpable. Just because you didn’t raise your voice doesn’t mean he couldn’t sense how you felt.>”Deep to my soul”Good lord, do you want to understand why he’s not talking to you or write emo poetry? That’s the seethe I’m talking about
>>34778194Then what do you want me to do? I don't see how explaining the background of the problem is the same thing as refusing to fix it, but evidently you do, so that's not something I care to argue you about.
His favorite vtuber is a girl? and one that acts like that? Cut him loose. He likes helpless women
>>34778272There are male vtubers???
Why do these vtubers have viewers and fans
>>34778319desperate nerds whose self-esteem is so low that even in their wildest dreams they can only fantasize about some annoying NEET bitch with brain damage.
>>34778121while i sympathize with your point, you handled it poorly.vtubers must be soap opera and celebrity worship for men. you would save your boyfriend a lot of time by him not watching/supporting them. whatever this refeeding thing is dramatized personal problems and your boyfriend, like most their viewers, is getting sucked right into it. Developing a parasocial relationship with an anime modeled female teeters on an uncomfortable level of worship for the opposite sex if they are with someone else in particular.you should apologize for saying they should die. you only did it to rib him and explain what else you said above that its stupid they wont take care of themselves, yadda yadda, and it stems from you being burnt out on taking care of basket cases.i wouldn't be with someone if they worshipped virtual figures. you may consider making an ultimatum to him that you'd rather he not watch this type of content as it makes you feel uncomfortable when someone is engaging in this virtual level of worship.
>>34778121Compassion always leads towards wanting to see others learn, grow and succeed. Even in the case of somebody who's negligent and destructive towards themselves or others, the best outcome is for that person to reform themselves and change their behavior. If your reaction to someone is malicious, in the sense that you want to see that person fail and be brought down by their own faults, then your main problem is that you lack compassion. Even in cases where tough love and punishment are necessary, the end goal is health and well-being. If you want to see somebody get hurt out of spite, it falls on you to rid yourself of that desire. You should be trying to edify, not condemn.
Imagine liking anime girls and then watching some 3D whore clown around in the corpse of one. It's fucking sacrilege.
>>34778464It's not the matter that I want to SEE them fail. I'd just prefer that they'd die somewhere else than have to suffer from having to see them at all.
>>34778526That's enough to point to a lack of compassion. Your only impulse towards them should be pity, along with the intent to help and teach wherever possible. Since it's some irrelevant internet figure that second part isn't possible, so the extent of your thought towards them should be "That's a shame, no one should live like that. Hopefully life teaches her all of the lessons she needs to learn", before moving on with your own life. The degree to which you resent another human being is also the degree to which you have your own lessons to learn, because perfect wisdom goes hand in hand with perfect compassion.
>>34778526the real problem here is that you help people for your own benefit, you resent people for their failure to make you uncomfortable, not because you care. That resentment obviously made your boyfriend uncomfortable, it makes most people uncomfortable because you have unresolved issues. You're still blaming sick people for letting you down because they make you sad. Seeing people hurt is triggering/intolerable for you? So you spent your whole life trying to fix live everyones lives for them to avoid your own pain. People like that are genuinely annoying because you're treating sick people like its their responsibility to get better for YOU. It's an ugly trait, it helps no one, and makes people uncomfortable. None of them probably asked you for your help anyway, so by the time you hate them for failing, your resentment is just another one of their problems. so your relationship is now strained because of your unpleasantness. Time to change. And yk what would also be a shit play? Trying to control your boyfriend to forgive or like you again. Just accept that you suck and work on it.actual carers 1. Give help where it's wanted2. Genuinely enjoy helping people3. Don't resent people for being sickyou were never helpful you just have issues.
>>34778121U sound like a judgmental cunt hope he dumps you for a mentally stable girl
Its not your fault, as you said you grew up in a tough situation and did what you had to do. No one comes out of it unfucked. But its still toxicalso you think it's "funny and cute" when people "make others" take care of them? But did they actually want it or were you always making demands for your own sake? You're just fetishising toxicity. But there's hope for you because you're sick of it, let me tell you though, you're sick of yourself. But you Should be sick of yourself, instead of sick people, because you can never stop them from existing and you shouldnt make your discomfort their problem. That isn't caring
Good luck gf we've all got our shit. Hope i didnt sound too harsh
Also i do genuinely hope you and your bf can get past it together
Why are you dating a beta cuck loser with a "favorite vtuber?" Holy shit dump his faggot ass, you can do better.
>>34778319talented>>34778331The reason why the status quo of expectations has fallen in trust is because everyone knows that even the whole religion has become completely rotten, bottom up.
>>34780387Na. Take this mentally ill bs elsewhere. No one owes you life.Op you want to see your boyfriend as a father one day trying to keep a daughter too useless try to keep herself alive? Tell him so.
>>34778121Cuck him. He cucked you with a vtuber. Cuck him with a real man.
I never understood the vtuber epidemic, like either jerk to 3D or 2D, not some weird amalgamation of both
>>34778121Dump him and find a bf who isn't into faggot shit like vtubers jesus fucking christ
>>34778490I’d say it’s more like Avatar.
