Ok so im downloaded dating apps again. This time i pandered pretty hard and made an objectively "good" profile. Ive been getting over 20 matches but the problem is everytime i ask them out they say that they are occupied for a week or two?... and its not just one or two girls who have said this, almost every single girl i have asked out has said this exact thing. I am well aware that at least half of them are there for validation. Is this some kind of courtship ritual they want to do? entertain them for 2 weeks before you even get LOOKED at for a date. Ive been out of the online game for a while, at least bak then you could schedule in person dates. GRIM. wtf....
>>34780296Yep they are all using you for attention
>>34780296Nah, unless you actually enjoy texting them, you say smth about hitting them up in a week or two when they got time
>>34780296They like you but they don't like you enough to be sure from all the other options in the cock catalogue.If they get nothing else better, they will come back to you.
>>34780296Don't entertain. Set a date for a couple weeks out and hit them up 3 days before the date. If they won't schedule something with you don't bother chatting.
>>34780313>>34780306is it worth playing the game? ie texting them consistently until you are deemed worthy? I dont expect chad treatment but the amount of hoops youre forced to jump through is insane
>>34780332I didn't recommend texting them consistently unless you are actually enjoying the exchange (i.e., it isn't a game because you are enjoying the journey)
>>34780332i'd set a limit. whatever you're comfortable with. maybe start more lenient and if it fails or they ghost you, lessen it.yes it's a game, and some are 100% using you. if say, they don't want to meet in 1 week, move on. you set up a boundary, and if they reject it, then they're doing you a favor setting a time.if you got 20 matches in a week or less, that's pretty good and it seems like you can fish for better matches.but just be straight with what you want and if they disappear, then let them remain a ghost.
>>34780332I don't think it is.Do you see how people discuss what opening line is the best? Truth is, if a girl is interested in you, you can say any bullshit and they will laugh it off.If they want you, they will let you know. If they don't want you, don't even waste your time.
>>34780296thats just how dating apps are these days, youre attractive enough to flirt but every girl is finding better guys than you. you need to up your game or just go out and rape a woman at night.
>>34780296Alright so I experienced this when I first got dating apps and it confused me too, so I’ll break it down for you. When a guy swipes right on a girl, it generally means he’s ready to go on a date/fuck immediately. Women have an intermediate stage. When they swipe right it doesn’t mean they want to fuck or go out right away, it means they have interest and you made it to the next round of vetting. They want a week or two of texting before meeting up. I believe this stems from two reasons; firstly women have more options than men so want to sort through their selection. Secondly dating/fucking/relationships have always and will always be higher risk for women. They can get beaten or impregnated and dumped. Even the biggest whores on the planet still have some morsel of these instincts left. Strategy: You have to play the game a bit and text them for a week or two. Couple messages a day is plenty. Try to be creative in comparison to other guys, but basically just copy and paste and go down your list of girls with the same shit. After a week or two see who bites. Never text a chick for more than two weeks because at that point nothing is going to happen and she’s just going to use you for attention.
>they say that they are occupied for a week or twoIts a filter for the men that wouldn't show up or worse. >dating/fucking/relationships have always and will always be higher risk for women. They can get beaten or impregnated and dumped.Download grinder. The men said they have no issue ordering pizza and having it arrive promptly.
>>34780843this could not be truer. my suspicions were confirmed when I started pressing them for an exact day to keep clear for me (literally in 2 weeks), and they would not even do this. they just keep saying "il let you know". The problem for me is is that i run the risk of being an orbiter, since i cant hold much of a conversation over text due to being a bit spergy. I know how to seal the deal over a few drinks so texting has never been my game. Is there any way to press them to go on a date sooner? i was thinking of saying "i got 2 tickets to x on saturday, wanna come" or something along those lines. then you run the risk of being relegated to a simp i suppose
