I used to be a fat guy who's basically invisible to women, only in the last 2 years I got fitI got my first and only girlfriend a year ago just when I started to lift/do strength trainingI think something in my brain flagged her as "shallow" or whatever because I only got her after I became thin. Thing is, she actually has a great personality and I can really see her as my future wife.The thing is, as I was realizing that fact and after, I kept cheating on her. Maybe because I still unconciously flagger her as shallow, or the more real reason is because I have no impulse control after 95% of my life not being able to date anyone.This week marked my 5th time cheating on her, she already knows 3 of them and somehow forgave me, but I genuinely feel like a monster.Should I break up with her and stay single on the male equivalent of cock carousel?Part of me really doesn't want to separate with her, but the other wants someone to blast my face with a shotgun
>>34781307Nah, you figured it out, and she's staying so it's fine. She really is only there because you're hot now and isn't bothered by the fact others can see it too or else she would have dated you before then, and calling you or them out for that would be calling her own bluff that she's dating you for you and not your body. Girlfriends are just prostitutes you pay for with a lifestyle instead of money. If you don't like that fact you may as well just stop dating entirely because the whole loving housewife thing is a meme men told to each other to justify war and slave labor and shit, women don't actually want that unless it's what secures them a free ride through life.
>>34781307It wasn't just your new body that attracted her, and she is not shallow, and you are an idiot.Let's take those one at a time. Your new body made you happier and more confident, changing your personality, and it was THAT that attracted her. A woman who responds to a man's personality can't be called shallow. And by cheating on the first girl to respond to the real inner You, you sabotaged yourself idiotically.
>>34781479Lol no, OP just ask your girl if she'd still love you if you were back to being fat and broke. Her uncomfortable silence and stilted answer will tell you what you need to know.
>>34781479Fag and wrong>>34781490Don't do thisOP this >>34781479 is terrible ""advice""It was definitely your new body and you know this. And your girl would lie and make it a point to push the lie that it's "you" and not your body, because girls want to seem chaste, but also humans especially females can't differentiate between carnal desires and real ones. They rationalize carnal desires as "this guy has such a great personality" or "he cares about people in his family so much and about animals, what a prince." In reality, they really only cared about the fact that he was healthy looking, and the rest was cope.With most of the women in this world being in relationships with guys who vary from being really shit to really good, you can tell it's not the personality that pushes women. It's biological urges, based on criteria of "he's strong enough to protect me" and sometimes "and provide for me"That's all there is to it. And about the cheating - you're just a scumbag. Human waste, and that's okay, you still have your place in this world.I've been hurt and cheated on and left in the dirt, so my reason for any future cheating is better than yours, but just "she's shallow so let me keep fucking" is kinda ass
>>34781307I would personally let her go, anon. It's not fair to her for you to be doing this when she could be with someone who actually loves her and will stay loyal to her. It will leave her with lasting scars because of your own inability to make a longterm connection with her and need to fulfill a desire for being seen/attractive to others. Let her go.
>>34781307Of course she's only with you because of your body. Your heckin personality? You cheated on her multiple times. You're a piece of shit dude. That's why you were single before you got fit.
>>34781307Yeah, break up and play the field
>>34781479I actually have the same exact personality as I was before, my long-time best friend confirmed it, if anything he said I regressed because of the cheating stuff.
>>34781624Nah don't break up, but do go play the field since she's okay with it and is obviously just there for your muscles. Other bitches can love your muscles too and if she has an issue then she's gonna have to at least lie and come up with other things she likes about you.
