We´ve been together for 3 months. She reads, trains, boxes, goes for running, is vegan, studying a PhD and doesn´t drink nor smoke. She is what you would call a hyper-productive role model. But here´s the catch: I just don´t find her physically appealing to me. It´s not that she´s ugly, she´d definitely get dates. She´s already skinny and fit, nice ass, but its the face and body shoulder structure that just put me off. Sometimes when we kiss I see Greta with bangs (picture reference). Last 2 months I got tempted to cheat but I said to myself "personality is more important than looks" and I didn´t. But meeting her after and then having mediocre sex at best, I just felt stupid for not giving into temptation, especially since just lately I have realized how much attention I get from women, the last year especially. Background about me: I grew up very shy and reserved. Weak father figure lead me to never develop a confidence throughout my teenage years. No amount of gym could fix how broken I felt inside. Just recently, at 26, have I started to overcome that. And then I met her. She is m,y first "committed" relationship. I told myself that I would not do hook-ups anymore as I want something serious. In hindsight, I think I lied to myself. Sometimes during sex with her, I imagine other girls. And regardless of sex/attraction, I am starting my career and she is going to be doing her PhD for at least the next 3 years, which means I would have to bring 80% of the income. I am not sure I am ready for that compromise. But she already mentioned meeting her parents one day. No girl from my past has treated me this good with so much support. She even forgives me for losing my erection even though I always thought that was a dealbreaker. SIDENOTE: Before I met ehr, I was working on myself (quitting drugs and porn, reading more). As soon as we hit it off to a relationship, I felt super comfortable and went back to these vices. Thoughts?
>>34782017If you are attracted to the person inside the packaging, you come to find the packaging attractive. If the packaging is a deal-breaker, the attraction to the person inside can't be all that great.
>>34782017Could it possibly be that she’s just not very good with makeup or has poor fashion sense? Most mid women are able to gain a few attraction points with skillful makeup. If you have a particular type (like goth or something) maybe ask and see if she could just try it out one time for a date or something and just see if it’s really as simple as that
>>34782033She is very selective about the outfits and makeup she wears. She just has that german fashion sense of not doing make up and relying on her wits and smarts. I just dont see her ever doing something alternative, way too city girl for that.
>>34782026First month it was great, I didn´t give it a thought. Then later I went back to my vices and realized I love her for making me not feel lonely.
>>34782017its okay not to be attracted to fecal alcohol syndrome. just move on. don't waste her time.it sounds like she's in shape and it's still not working for you.>>34782026i agree with this person partially, but if you are considering cheating, this is bound for a road of damnation if it continues.>>34782033yeah, is there anything else she can improve on op?
>>34782046i'd bring this up with her before breaking up. i mean if you're going to dump her anyways, you may as well try something drastic like seeing if the other person will change.you're on a dark road already and i dont want to read your cheating /adv/ post a month from now
>>34782053Not really. The improvements that I would like to see would require her selling herself out of what she finds hot on herself.
>>34782056I am in a trtansitional phase of my life where i will finally lock my first job in Germany as an outsider. I want to first do that and then focus on the breakup but my mind won´t ease. And I dont wanna break up over a text message, that´s weak.
>>34782046Does she not have other female friends to go shopping with? I have no idea what goes down in Germany but I have a feeling most women there still wear makeup, she might be just a little weird in this regard.
>>34782073>outsiderwhere are you from?
>>34782017Personality is a cope and you can do much better (sexual satisfaction is crucial in relationships and she's not even good for the moped analogy if you lost erection).
>>34782127I don’t know if it’s porn addiction. The fact that I am even watching porn again when I have her is a red flag, no?
>>34782073You’ve been together for only 3 months. It’s not that deep. It sounds like you made a good, human, connection for the first time in a long time. It’s reasonable to want to stick with that. But frankly, do you actually love spending time with her? Have you tried to live together or talked through any issues? Looks fade, but it doesn’t sound like her personality is all that attractive to you either.The vices thing confuses me. She makes you feel less alone but you went back to drugs and porn? Definitely a red flag
>>34782251just move on. its best for the both of you.
>>34782272We haven’t talked through issues. We had a fight ince and she crued so I pulled back. I like spending time w her but sex is bad, not that hyped for her.The vice thing is on me. I made it my mission to find a girl after quitting them. After dinding her, I felt like why stop?
>>34782017Sorry but your post reminds me that many moids are hypergamous pieces of shit...you have a fantastic interesting woman by your side and you thought of cheating her with dumb stacy whores just because they are cuter, and you eveb imagine other women when you have sdx with her? It's like you guys are never happy with how women look like.
>>34782350* S L O W C L A P *
>>34782350he's not going to change. he's doing her a favor. sounds like he's from middle east anyways. she'll be able to move on and find someone better.
>>34782350Raped gender projection, lmaoFemale humanoid parasite, and not even good for a moped analogy, how does it feel to be on the receiving end on lookism?>>34782472Good luck being not only ugly but a race traitor at that, lol. I'd argue you should do your next abortion by hanging yourself.
Never give ugly foids a chance.
>>34782597>Good luck being not only ugly but a race traitor at that, lol. I'd argue you should do your next abortion by hanging yourself.work on your reading comprehension rahul
This is where were at with basedciety
>>34782017>wants to cheat, imagines other girls during sex, history of hookups, slips back into drugs and porn as soon as he gets what he wantsYou sound like a piece of shit lmao, wild that you think you can do better.
>>34782017I'm surprised you went back to your vices after having a girlfriend. Usually it's the thoughts of the girlfriend that keep you away from the vices (unless it's a situation like with a wife that you drink or use because she nags you too much). I can understand going back to porn if she isn't visually doing it for you. Although if you like her ass and don't like her face, just do her doggy all the time.The PhD income thing is a big yikes. I've always felt that people should handle their own debts.One thing to think about is if she's genuinely long term good to you. Not "nice to you" but good to you. Is it just the companionship that you like or does she actually go out of her way for you? Because someone who does that is super rare.I would take some caution. If you're only 3 months in and she expects you to pay 80% of her stuff for 3 years, that's a huge flag that she could just be with you because you have money.
>>34782017>veganmental illness is a massive red flag.
>>34782717She has her own income from a scholarship but is barred from working outside of Uni. So no, she doesn’t expect me to pay for her but if we were to live together, I would have to give in mouch more than her.And regarding the vices, sometimes she nags me about quitting smoking and doing healthy stuff sober, so the thought of doing healthy stuff 24/7 made me go back to drugs.Other than that, I love how she makes me feel important.
