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I won't go into details, but my life turned out in such a way that no matter what way I decide to go, it's going to be hell for another 10 years. Don't get me wrong, but I already know my 20s aren't going to be a fun adventure (my teens sucked too). Some problems are truly outside of my control and it is how it is. Am not trying to be whiny here, it just is what it is. Anybody had a similar situation?
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>>34783176
are you going to bother answering why your life is out of control for the next decade, or do you want people to give you similar stories so you have something to relate to?
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>>34783176
>I won't go into details
Then fuck off. If you won't be open why should we?
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yes, i am also living in a vague reality where words fail me and i therefore cannot go into details. i also expect to live in this way for another ten years.
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>>34783231
>no details
you want advice op. we want a good story.
it's a fair bargain
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>>34783196
>why your life is out of control for the next decade

ORIGIN STORY
I was an accidental pregnancy, born in Russia, my mother never intended to marry my father. When I was 3-4 yo they divorced. Shortly after I turned 6 yo, my mother met my future stepfather on the internet, austrian businessman, rich guy, penthouse, house in croatia right at the coast, you could say she won the lottery. So we moved there, stepfather hates me, older stepsister bullies me, got bullied in every school I go too, get a little half-sister, she's insane and a total psycho and every year it gets worse, sometime around 2018-19 my stepfather gets tired with my mom and they start only fighting, around that time I also turned into an unpaid employee at his business, but only for physical labour, 2020 COViD happens, change schools, get cut off from my peers, haven't been in Russia and seen my grandparents since then, now I'm 20 years old, finished with school, missed out on the teenage experience™

WHY IT SUCKS
every attempt in trying to be independent and do something that I like has been successfully sabotaged by my stepfather

I would like to move back to Russia, because I was born there and to see my grandparents once again before it's too late. But I'm also realistic enough that I've got no future there, I wouldn't get accepted into university there and I wouldn't fit in, I'm not really russian in the end.

I would like to move to Berlin, but then I would have to sacrifice Russia and vice-versa.

My biggest problem is moving out, I have no money and during the time I would save it up, I would still need to live at "home", which I can't stand anymore and I still want to catch up that sweet "teenage experience™" (which won't happen in Russia hence Berlin), but otherwise I'm going to be 22 when I'm finally done with everything I'm going to be a grandpa and it would have no use anymore.

>similar stories so you have something to relate to
yeah sure why not
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>>34783231
>>34783237
>>34783240
STORY TIME >>34783251
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>>34783251
>22 to grandpa
how does that work?
you still have your entire life ahead of you. you could be in a much worse situation.
what jobs have you tried to get? be honest here.
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>>34783267
it's not about the job, that's the least of my problems, I just can't stand living at home anymore
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>>34783282
then get a job and cope until you can figure things out. the next 10 years of your life aren't screwed because of it.
no one wants to live with their parents past 18. i've been on both sides of the fence. when i was younger than you i just stayed away from home as much as possible, even if it was staying overnight in a parking lot. you have to make sacrifices like not being around a computer or whatever, but it pushed me out to meet new people and explore.
im guessing you don't have a car but you can work toward a bike pretty easy.
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>>34783296
>when i was younger than you i just stayed away from home as much as possible,

I don't have the power to deal with my (step-)parents about it and since I'm the eldest I have to be responsible and have to help out and can't fuck off

I have a bike
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>>34783304
what is stopping you from fucking off, exactly? do your step parents give you money? Sounds like they were really fucking mean to you from the get go, so unless they're actively helping you somehow, you really shouldn't feel obligated to help them in any way just because they did the absolute bare minimum (housing you and not starving you to death).
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>>34783331
>what is stopping you from fucking off, exactly?
I have nowhere to go, as I said. I would still need to come home to sleep or something and I don't have the power to sit though another interrogation about how I did something was bad again. I can't really recall a single day in my life where my stepfather didn't sneer at me because of some bullshit.
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>>34783251
Yeah fuck croats. They're slavshits who unironically think their Germanic. More annoying and embarrassing than poles .
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>>34784533
Cool it with the racism
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>>34784559
HIYAAA
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>>34783176
Get an education
Get a job
Save your pennies
Move out
Get a better job
Get a life



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