i go between bouts of never wanting to do anything to doing everything at once. i dont spend money on anything that isnt work because i grew up poor but whenever my mom gives me ideas of clubs to join i just dont do itim scared of life but then whenever i do something im like "hey that wasnt so bad"i feel like im too far gone to date (jews, demographic change being things that are important to me but know women mostly disagree so i dont even bother) but dont want to be alone. i was told as a kid that having your own opinion was good and not following the crowd but now its fucked me forever. saw a post on here once about how parents raised kids to not wanna drink smoke or party and now im being chastised for not wanting to do that
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>>34784822well is anyone having anything similar
>>34784963I think you're just too dumb to properly express yourself
>>34784812if not now when are you gonna start trying?why not just do it like a savings account, and set aside 5-10% of your income to frivolity, and allow yourself to join clubs, go out and meet people?
>>34784967hardly, ive put down the problem, fucking respond to it dickhead >>34785003well we grew up poor so spending money on anything that isnt essential feels pointless. whats the point of a sporting hobby if i cant afford rentand everyones old at these clubs, if i wanted old people i cant relate to id just stay at work
>>34785021how do you know they're old people if you haven't been to them? groups are usually there to socialize and they are desperate for new blood because most people stay at home doomscrolling. and the meta has changed for meeting people since someone outside these groups just wants to get home to netflix and/or stare at their phone so pulling someone out of that in the wild doesn't work like it used to.at some point you have to 'gamble' and take the risk. buy the ticket. take the ride. with gambling (even stocks/crypto) you have to imagine you're burning the money with a bic in your hand, since you won't know the outcome of it.i've wasted my money on tons of shit, and i don't make a lot of money either.you gotta calculate the risk somehow on something whether its dating, joining clubs/groups, etcetera. are you literally going to let your jewishness hold you back forever?are you that poor that you're barely making ends meet? can you cut something else to make room for it? there's been times i switched to eating dry beans and rice. a 25 pound bag in us is $10-$15. it's like eating free. i did the math in my head and i think i'd only need $200 of it to live for a year. it's nothing. i'd still need a multivitamin but it helped pay the bills when i was riding the line.
>>34785054cuz ive googled some of the clubs and the images of the people are old. Does anyone from this board ever take any advice? its the same shit everyday. its just difficult to spend money because im poor. all i do is buy food and travel to work.well of course im gonna let it hold me back. how am i supposed to have a wife someday if shes like #blm. fuck that. shes not gonna be the mom of my kids.
>>34785272you're making retarded assumptions based off using the internet.not all women are #blm. blm support has tanked since 2020 due to rioting.all clubs aren't filled with old people. larp events, sca reenactment, the hiking club i went to, weren't, and there's a bajillion more out there. there's bars, there's church, there's yoga clubs, witch gatherings, book clubs, county fairgrounds, rodeos, cosplay. i don't 'enjoy' everything i mentioned, but if it was to socialize with people or go with friends i still said yes and went and had a good time.you're the problem because you've walled yourself in with these assumptions. you need to act like a labcoat using the scientific theory and create a bucket list of 'hypothesis' and run down to test the options. it takes time and it takes effort. and if you want a relationship you are the peacock that has to flock your feathers, not the woman.if you're a poor jew you need to cut parts of your life (which i assume you've done) or find a different line of work. switch to a bike and pack a lunch if you want to use as little dosh as possible.sure, people hate small talk now because they'd rather look at their phone or rush home to rot on netflix. the game has changed. you can run the gauntlet of a dating app, buck up the courage at a bar or social space, or join a club/group.am i missing some secret underground option like a vampire circle gathering for lonely neet retards?you're a dime a dozen, and you guys come to /adv/ all the time thinking there's some secret anime waifu option that should just fall onto your dick with minimal effort. i dont know if you've been brainwashed by porn or an ai waifu that leads you to these preconceived notions that there isn't some ritual involved in meeting people.you have to go to where people socializefind some excuse to talk with them (compliment, question, pick up line, whatever)the only obstacle is shutting your brain up for 30 seconds to .exe
>>34785313and talking to people isn't hard past introductions. i was once in your position believe it or not. i read how to win friends and influence people and realized people love to talk about themselves, so all you have to do past the hard part (introduction), is death by questions.When the conversation reaches a lull, is when you say, "i enjoyed talking, can we exchange numbers and possibly do this another time?"they will either say yes, or no. by that point i was so relieved (when i was younger) that i just felt a confidence boost even if they said no.you're probably a lvl 1 social retard, but you gotta level up the skill at some point. with practice comes... not caring about the results, and doing it anyways. when i was in your shoes, i started practicing on other people. i'd buy a stick of gum from a convenience store and bullshit with the clerk for a few minutes. even if it went nowhere, it raised my confidence level to talk to the person i really wanted to speak to that day because i gave myself exposure therapy.you can even drive to the opposite end of town to people you will never see again in your life to practice on if you fuck up.like i said, the part that is fucked here is you've been in isolation so long that you're convinced of your theory that none of this shit works and it's causing you to think in circles and box out the solutions.i'm not saying it's not harder. it definitely is, but it's definitely out there. you just gotta find where people like to socialize.the question is are you going to adapt or submit? it's your choice.
on a final note, i will add, doing anything public is a thousand times easier with a friend, because a friend can be a confidence booster or act like a wingman for a relationship and act as crowd control if the opposite sex is in a group.i don't think there's a wingman finder, but you should make some friends off social gatherings i mentioned earlier
>>34785313my experience in the jobs i have has made me realise women are more than that but the prospect of finding a woman who likes Hitler or recognises demographic replacement is low. i cosplay but im scared to meet anyone else who does it. im old now im 30. girls always went with the guys i knew in college but never me I really doubt im the peacock, no woman has ever shown interest in me. And yeah I do pack my own lunch to work what do you think im spending the money on. All anyone does is talk about themselves, I dont talk about myself because I know people dont care. And I know that it takes 30 seconds of courage to change your life. i was scared to join a gym but it took one phone call to get me in there. >>34785318talking to a girl doesnt work for me like that. nobody wants to talk either. they ask you questions just to hear themselves answer it. the people in stores dont wanna talk they just wanna do their job and go home. >>34785325none of my friends want to do anything theyre all the ones that look to me and get jealous because i have put myself out there. i do go on trips to meet people around the world and went to a festical last year and got on stage sober and had a great time but nothing ever comes from it.
>>34784812>jews, demographic change being things that are important to meFound your problem. You're an asshole with mental problem.
>>34785533oh right because becoming a minority in my own country and displaced over the world like in Iran is supposed to be something im happy with is it? retard.
>>34785533this is 4chan anyway why are you such a bitch
>>34784812Mild adhd and mild bipolarity assuming you are a male as bipolar is different in men.Got poor short term memory too?Source me, who is just the same
>>34785617yeah my memory is getting worse due to my cancer meds and family history but yeah ive thought that about myself too and yeah, male
>>34785674If you can get benefits where on the globe you live with these conditions then get tested. If not, then dont. Terrible info for working
