F19, hooking up with M18I'm really into him but I don't know if he actually likes me or is just fucking to fuck, we've been friends for around a year but only started hooking up last month, I'm definitely enjoying it, didn't expect to get good kinky sex out of a twink of a man but hey, I'm genuinely trying to see if something more could come out of this. "Just ask?" If he doesn't want something more I don't want him leaving me over this, so I'd rather have an estimate before hand.
>>34786823why don't you just ask him out?if he's a twink, he's probably scared.
>>34786833I'm low-key chopped shit and he's way out of my league so I'm too much of a pussy to ask, I just wanna know if there's a chance-
>>34786840maybe ask him if he'd take you on a date?
>>34786840Despite being a twink he's very much liked by majority of the people he knows , from what I know he's only hooking up with me at the moment, but I know he's had many experiences in the past with people we both know, I'm very much a loser and this is my first non-online anything
>>34786850And if I get rejected? I don't wanna try again to find someone else
>>34786860Only other guy that's been interested in me is a friend of my younger brother and he has a really weird thing about being into the fact I'm anorexic (slowly recovering but I'm still underweight currently)
>>34786860>>34786867dude have you ever used a dating app? you'll have to close your account because you'll be getting 200 messages a day.
>>34786860just ask them. if they're not going to date you, then they're probably going to bail on you at some point.it'd be a losing situation that would crush you when you're older and you find out he's shopping.you gotta invest in yourselfwhat would you even rate yourself out of 10? you're not a landwhale right?
>>34786881Out of ten I'd say at best a 4, body is alright but I'm flat as a board, and face is uneven as shit
>>34786881I'm gonna try to ask him tomorrow, I think he's asleep, I texted him asking if we're meeting with a mutual friend of ours tomorrow and he hasn't replied
>>34786823Ask if he wants to go steady or just keep banging. You just need to clearly communicate. This advice applies to all relationships going forward
>>34786823have you guys noticed literally every time a "girl" asks for advice here, it's literally always about sex?
>>34786875Never really used one
>>34786895see >>34779553some men don't have a problem with a flat chestyou're still young and there's a bajillion loser men surplus out there that would date you. it sounds like you're being hard on yourself. as a woman, god gave you the easy setting on finding relationships. you just have to sort the low-value men from the high.what do you mean face is uneven?if you rate yourself so much lower than him, has he said why he likes you?are you going to ask or chicken out?you're going to be crushed if nothing happens in a year, or worse, he moves on.
>>34786901I'll do my best , fingers crossed
>>34786916you'd be shocked. not saying to use one while in a relationship, but it's an uneven playing field. i'm not joking about the 200 a day. my friend had to turn hers off.men historically have to do the dating ritual, so you get to be the chooser and they get to be the beggar. just way things are.don't put all your eggs on this person if he blows you off. it's important you get some answers cause it's already been a while that you've been bunking.
>>34786917I've asked him why he's exclusively hooking up with me and he just sorta shrugged
>>34786930you seem like a fuck buddy of convenience. that's a pretty shit answer.ask him next time if you're a thing or not like the other anon said.if he says no (or shrugs), then download a dating app and see what you get just for science reasons. it'll at least assure to you that he's not your only option. and it's important you try different relationships out while you are young, because so far it doesn't sound like he's going to be there long term.he will probably move on at some point, or he might already be with other people too and you're just one of the options. at best, he's just living life on cruise control, which will get old in 10 years. by that point you'll both be much older. is it worth it?ask.
>>34786929I'm gonna try, I'm starting uni next year so hopefully I'll get more opportunities then,
Oh shit he texted back- would it be reckless to ask over text?
>>34786969no. just ask if you both are something or wanna go on a date?you're not asking him to be your bf or proposing for marriage
>>34786983I asked " 'name' , I've been meaning to ask, are you eventually planning on us being something more" He said "would you want that?""Yea .. honestly"" Are you sure that's a good idea (because of, me being friends with his ex and she'd freak if she knows anything about us)"I mean, probably not, but do I at least have a chance ""I don't know if I'm ready to date again, I don't want to hurt you "In conclusion, I think I have a chance, this is obviously very summarized, but I also don't know how to move forward
>>34787013just because his ex was with him doesn't give her claim on who he can't see.if you guys are a thing, just be upfront and let your friend know in person you're seeing him.why does he think he will hurt you?it sounds like he has some problems. this is some edward cullen bullshit
>>34787029I know he has some issues, to my knowledge he is bipolar - but I don't know much else about his past besides that it's messy
>>34787038what did you tell him after the last text? did you say you're ready to date in some way?i dont know seems like a bad place to leave it off at.if you're going to invest in this relationship you might as well ask since he's dragging his feet.didn't you say its been a fucking year already?
>>34787043I pretty much said I can handle being hurt and he asked to continue the conversation tomorrow in person, so wish me luck
>>34787057nice. i hope for a happy ending anon. take care of yourself.
>"I don't know if I want to date again, I don't want to hurt you"He already got what he wanted from you and slammed the door shut in your face. Next time don't just retardedly fuck someone you're not already in a relationship with. Why would he buy the cow when he's already getting the milk for free? $500 says he's gonna string you along over the next few months for more easy sex while he looks for someone he actually wants to date. Your "chance" is dead in the water. Also why did you fuck your friends Ex? Do you like pissing and shitting all over your interpersonal relationships? Now you've most likely lost this guy and her too. There will be other chances in your life to not act like a horny chimp and nuke your own social circle. learn from this now so you don't fuck those up too.
