so apparently sex 2x per week is "normal". Everyone says I should be grateful, lots of couples have it less than once a month. We're a mid-twenties couple, together for three years, live alone together, no kids, plenty of free time. I'm 6'2", 3pl8 bench with abs, I would be having more sex than this if I was single (I was before I met her), instead I'm expected to literally go fuck myself whenever the stars aren't aligning and she's "not in the mood". I do a dozen things I don't want to every day, because I know it's for the benefit of our relationship. But she simply can't bear to spread her legs and fake a smile for five minutes. I'm not saying I want her to force it, but surely she would be making some kind of effort to make me happy considering how badly she wants to marry me. I know giving her an ultimatum will only end in disaster, but how do I get the message across that I can't stay with her if things aren't going to improve?every time we talk about it, she says she's going to "try harder" and nothing changes. Or she gets frustrated and says twice a week is an average amount for couples. I suppose I should just get myself an average salary then. Oh and how often does the average man go to the gym? How well does the average man cook? If I marry you, will I be as satisfied as the average married man? Fuck off with these general population statistics as evidence that everything's finethe current dynamic is that I am very gentle and patient, I pull all the tricks like gentle touching, compliments etc, she loves it, feels very comfortable, we can easily escalate to the point of kissing, but about 80-90% of the time it goes nowhere. I need her to get the message that I'm starting to look for a way out, and that to stay I need more sex. She knows I want more, but it's clear she isn't taking it seriously enough. But I know that if I'm thinking about leaving her over it she'll resent me and it won't last even if I do get more sex for a while
>>34824726also before anyone asks, I want to make this work because she's a great gf in every other way, and it really seems like it should be such a simple fix from her end. If we were having more sex things would be great
Oh shit, I could be writing this message myself.I am 32 and she is 30, and our sex is much less than that...If you don't find a solution, it will get worse, and you will be so frustrated you will find yourself retorting to whores or another women. I know because I did the former.But there is another point, is she actually decent at sex?
>>34824726How frequently would you like to have sex?
>>34824767>is she decent at sexI would say so, yes. She doesn't just starfish. During sex she showers me with compliments, cries out with pleasure, gets really into it. She seems to enjoy it as much as I do, which is why it's weird that she doesn't want to do it twice a dayshe doesn't like doggystyle though because she's kind of tight and it hurts her. She also doesn't like cowgirl because she doesn't know how to do it. She also never offers blowjobs, and if I ask she makes it clear she doesn't want to do it. So we only ever do missionary, or I go down on her.
>>34824807Then your libido is huge.It fucking sucks, since you will struggle finding a girl who matches it who isn't a literal sex crazed whore.Masturbation is your way out without dumping her, and if she is as good as you say, you shouldn't.And in my experience, it only gets worse (less sex) as the years pass, maybe your huge libido will calm down too.
>>34824726Your "libido" is normal. Ignore all other anons. Mexico Albuquerque Mexico Albuquerque Mexico Albuquerque New AlbertaRhode island Oin oink oinkYou need to get another bitch because this is literally all a relationship is aboutAnd fuck anyone who gaslights you into thinking otherwise
>>34824785>How frequently would you like to have sex?I would guess once every two days would suit me, so about 3-4 times per week. But I don't like this question, because the response to my answer is always to say that it's not a reasonable expectation. They say hardly any couples do it that often. Sure, but how hard could it possibly be? It's like saying>hardly any couples go for a walk together every day>it's unreasonable to expect your partner to give you an extra massage per week>you'll never get to watch the show you want with your gf, you can only watch what she wants to>>34824831I was exaggerating somewhat. I sometimes feel like I want to do it twice a day, but I would never need it to be that frequent. If she was horny enough to do it that often though, I would certainly be happy to try. Even if I couldn't handle that frequency I'd just get some boner pills or something to improve my stamina. I can't relate to the mindset of being so disinterested that I'd turn my partner down when they're in the mood
>>34824726Testosterone is what makes women want to fuck too. Easiest way to increase that without any specific conversations is to get her to start working out.
Women don’t really understand that sex is how men feel close in a relationship the way other things make them feel close and at large they are not interested in figuring it out. She feels close so you should too. She doesn’t understand why this matters to you. You also can’t argue somebody into fucking you even if you have a series of good points. If she has some small thought that this might matter to you beyond what she immediately understands of herself, she’s clearly not doing anything about that. You talked about it>but she wants me to do all the guy parts without doing any girl parts!The standard in 2026
>>34824831How is it 'huge'?He just sounds like a healthy normal male, nothing unusual about it.
>>34824933she already does workout. She's not buff or anything, but healthy looking. I've seen so much online of people talking about testosterone being linked to libido, but it seems dodgy to be playing around with hormones beyond sleep diet and exercise. It reminds me of a woman talking about her experience using anavar, mentioned it making her ravenously hornyI do have some reason to believe my gf is low test, the libido for one, she also has anxiety, low energy, and irritability. I asked chatgpt and it seems that I'm reaching a bit to blame this on her testosterone though. I'm considering asking her to get her hormones checked to make sure everything's all good>>34824968>The standard in 2026I think I would be able to take some comfort in knowing that this is what every guy has to put up with, but I have experienced horny women in the past (mainly asian women, so not long term options). It hurts so much to see guys talking about how their gf will suck them off and thank them for the cum. I want my gf to look at me like pic related. I'm sure there are so many women that act like this for their man. It can't be true that they're all like mine, right?
>>34825068>it hurts so much to see guys talking about how their gf will suck them off and thank them for the cumYeah and we all have an 8 inch dick on the Internet. Don’t listen to “temporarily embarrassed chads” trying to tell you that they have everything for nothing. Yeah those guys exist. Maybe they even stop by the internet to brag sometimes. But truly, they’re too busy getting their actual dick sucked to be writing posts about getting their dick sucker.Yeah I’m sure some women are fucking incredible in bed all the time but a bunch of boomers fronting to each other that they all weren’t experiencing the exact same thing at home is how this mess started. None of them wanted to look like a fag and say their wife didn’t even care. So they made shit the fuck up and every individual guy thought he was the only one lying. Now the internet exists and the cat’s out of the bag.
>>34824726Get your test checked
>>34824726>I'm not saying I want her to force itThat's exactly what you're saying.
>>34825015>normal maleis it normal for your dick to want to fucky fucky twice a day? don't think somy dick gets activated only on weekends, since I was a teeneither I have low libido or you dimwit niggers are in heat 24/7, and I'm inclining to the latterstop acting like animals and do something more than wanking off with someone else's body
Yeah, twice a week is probably the average. If you have an issue with it the only thing you can do is talk to her. Explain to her that you need it more. Would it be okay for you if she just jerked you off without penetration? That would take even less effort on her part. You should suggest her something like this. Or just ask for more penetrative sex, tell he she doesn't need to do anything just lie there like you described. >>34825068>It can't be true that they're all like mine, right?Sure, all of then are not like that but the women you're describing are a rarity.
>>34825068sex drive goes up on carnivore in both sexes
>>34825647You and him are both normal, there is no one single frequency that is correct. As long as it drives you to extend the species, and doesn't destroy your life it is healthy. You need to understand that different people have different needs, just like they have different bodies and personalities.
>>34824726I was in a very similar situation.It's very simple. The utmost majority of women hate to feel like they have to have sex. There's nothing less sexy.>she can't bear to spread her legs and fake a smile for five minutes You are young and retarded like me at the time. Because you need sex from her, you bring pressure in the relationship. In the initial phase of the relationship it was not an issue. But as the attraction went down, which is a normal, a couple times she felt you wanted it much more than she did, and that if she didn't comply, you'd be pissed. Every time this happened, she lost a little more sexual attraction towards you because your mental state was dependent on her willingness. This is a big turnoff for most women, they want someone independant, not someone they need to take care of, especially sexually.Also I you are dealing with your own advanced retardation for believing sex is her "spreading her legs 5mn". If it's really like that why can't you just "go tug your dick for 5mn" instead of being upset? If your partner is just 2 legs to spread for you, don't except to be treated differently.How to solve this? Talks won't do, because you cannot talk someone into desiring you. To change the dynamic, you need to stop needing sex from her to be happy. If you stay in this relationship, you must accept the sex frequency it comes with, and if you can't bear having that little sex, you need to leave. The good news are, not needing sex from your partner is exactly the growing up you need to do if you want any kind of healthy relationship. I don't mean not having sex, I think a good sex life is minimum 3 times a week. I mean accepting that what you want is not due, and that if she doesn't want to have this much sex, it's not a reason to get upset at her, it's a reason to search someone that fits better what you want, because you can. If you come in a relationship with this mindset, you will avoid the issue you're having entirely.
I recommend having a frank conversation with her about your needs and expectations for the relationship. If she's not willing or able to meet your needs, you'll need to break up. Or, you could see about opening up the relationship ala >>34822699 It might be fun to suggest it just to see how much she actually wants to keep the relationship. If she isn't taking your needs seriously there's a fair chance she's just waiting for something better to come along and doesn't want the discomfort of being single until she finds it. Either way, she's wasting your time.
My gf might kill me if I stop fucking her every day
>>34824726>Everyone says I should be grateful, lots of couples have it less than once a month. Lots if people are homeless, so why don't you live under a bridge? Never listen to faggots who are trying to cope and normalize their own misery. >I do a dozen things I don't want to every day, because I know it's for the benefit of our relationship.A relationship is supposed to enrich your life, not be another burden and responsibility. >every time we talk about it,You cannot talk a woman into having a sex drive.>Fuck off with these general population statistics as evidence that everything's fineExactly. Those also take married couples in their 70s into account, where the man has ED.For a fresh couple in their mid twenties, thats barely a sex life. >considering how badly she wants to marry meYou may get her to pretend to like sex more if she really sees her hopes at risk of getting dashed. But rest assured, those legs will snap shut the scoend you sign any papers whatsoever. Do not do it. Honestly dude, get out and learn how to flirt instead of gymcelling around, get your social gains on and learn how to hit on and meet women so you can find a woman you are actually happy with. Again, never ever allow coping losers to tell you that "its normal". They are just crabs in a bucket.
>>34825647>is it normal for your dick to want to fucky fucky twice a day?Yes.>my dick gets activated only on weekends, since I was a teenGet your test checked. Unironically.
>>34824726Do you ever go down on her? Does she like giving handys?
>>34825647>is it normal for your dick to want to fucky fucky twice a day? yes>my dick gets activated only on weekends, since I was a teen are you trolling or just extremely retarded>you dimwit niggers are in heat 24/7 extremely retarded it is
>>34826138>>34826170Sex-obssessed ape
>>34826179peak slave morality
Abandon ship immediately. Women should and are gigawhores when they find "Chad", meaning a man that actually turns them on. Please, PLEASE, trust me on this. You will never find the right "button", you will never find the right words or actions to finally make her understand you want to feel desired. She won't understand, for her having sex with you is a chore, like shitting. And if she didnt felt like that, why do you have to beg for something that should be a basic human interaction between 2 healthy, fit individuals who supposedly love each other? I repeat: If you were "Chad" to her eyes, she'd be sucking your cock every night. She doesnt, because she's not sufficiently attracted to you. Please cut ties immediately, there is no excuse tk withhold sex from your partner.
>>34825647You are a castrated twink. No it is not fucking normal as man younger than 80 to only be turned on once a week. Fucking freak.
>>34824726Try 2x per month or year, niggaI ended up dumping her, and I feel better being single than I did in that relationship. It felt like I was her gay bestie or personal maid and chef, getting nothing in return. Never again.
>>34824726cant you just fuck her feet while she reads a book or something
>>34826179'be fruitful and multiply' has some wisdom to it. plus were just animals the whole point is to fuck
>>34824726This is a troll post>>34826785You are the only real human in here and yet your are still way off to success. I wont say why since this whole thread is bad actors.Oh you were a bartender. Well thats like working in a prison and becoming cynical. Ps. Dont reply. The others aren't human.
>>34826829>seething womanThere is nothing more revolting to a woman than the truth, and that's because it exposes her strategy and cunningness.
>>34826785> be bartender>have a terminal spergout upon realizing that people go out to let loose, and that alchol lowers inhibitionI'd have loved to bully you if you were my colleague kekHow can you be this much of a loser. I bet you managed to do that job without getting laid even once.
>>34824726she doesn’t like you. leave her.
>>34826887>another seething foid using shame tacticsThis board is full of ugly and mid women giving men and young men advice.
>she's kind of tight in doggy styleDoes sex hurt her?
>>34826887I'm pretty sure it's pasta. There are at least 10 different incel/blackpill adjacent copypastas on this board.
>>34826980Why are you asking? Are you going to defend her white knight name fag?For my queen! >>34826969LMAO imagine thinking this board has any women at all. Fucking retard
>>34827205If sex hurts her she shouldn't be pressured and guilt tripped into it
>>34827260No but she should be pressured into giving compensatory blow jobs. Case closed
>>34824807>she doesn't like doggystyle though because she's kind of tight and it hurts her. She also doesn't like cowgirl because she doesn't know how to do it. She also never offers blowjobs, and if I ask she makes it clear she doesn't want to do it.She sounds like she doesnt enjoy sex, did she have a bad experience?
>>34824807>doesn't like doggystyle though because she's kind of tight and it hurts herWe all got too soft. She wouldn't survive 1 day in the wild
>>34826261truthnvke>>34824726Remember this is the most sex you will ever have with her, it will only get less frequent from this point forward and as the other poster pointed out for the right guy every woman is a whore.
>>34825846A lot of this was good except> If you stay in this relationship, you must accept the sex frequency it comes with, and if you can't bear having that little sex, you need to leave.I really thought you were going to go in the direction of getting her to desire it more. Talking someone into sex isn’t the way, but what is he missing on the days like below:> we can easily escalate to the point of kissing, but then it goes nowhere And based on this >>34824807 i think she struggles with physical discomfort during sex.And anon.. > why doesn’t she want to do it twice a daySpeaking from experience, your skin down there can get RAW, DUDE. If she wasn’t actually aroused, it will hurt down there for an entire day and some times 2 fucking days. > she showers me with compliments…I’m not saying you don’t fuck her well, but i do think she could be making sure you feel good about yourself. Don’t be mad about that, she probably cares about you a lot!It sounds like she doesn’t know how to make sex better for herself. Everyone has to figure that out eventually.How long do you foreplay? I spent quite a few years rushing into sex, so even though i ended up having an orgasm it would hurt in the beginning and afterwards for the rest of the day/2days like explained above. I just thought sex was like that! But now my fiance and i really take the time to get my whole body aroused, not just start doing it when we want to have sex. It’s made a huge difference for me and i do want to have sex more often.Still not twice a day. It’s swollen down there for hours either way
>>34824807blowjes are just so icky.. it’s not fair that you go down on her though, does she ask for that or do you just do it? I would stop if you just do it spontaneously.>>34825068> suck them off and thank them for the cumIf you want a porn girl then you should actually just break up now and go look for that. That’s truly atypical female behavior so be prepared for tradeoffs.>>34827281My brother in christ, imagine a dick completely filling your mouth. Tasting precum. Gagging. It’s way worse than sex
>>34825068> low energy> irritability> low sex driveCould be low thyroid hormone. The first two alone should warrant a hormone check. Has she talked about her nails/hair being thinner?
>>34824807Shes extremely normal. You are also extremely normal.Unfortunately for you this just seems like sexual incompatibility. Missionary only is also super boring.
>>34824807The doggystyle thing is workable youre probably hitting her cervix and thats what hurts. Ask her to experiment with different positions. My girl can take pronebone doggystyle but not on her hands and knees super well.
>>34824726Dude, just be straight with her about how you're feeling. Expressing your needs is important in a relationship. I wouldn't say you're side-eying the exit though. Might also be a good idea to reflect on this yourself and ask yourself some questions you might not have asked before, like how important is sex to you compared to everything else this relationship offers, or why you feel the need for it so much. Being in your 20's is a big part, but is there more going on that you could look at?
>>34825846You're right, she has definitely been turned off by noticing my happiness is tied to how much sex I get from her. I'm trying to relieve the pressure a bit, we're currently trying the dynamic where she's the only one who initiates. It's small steps, but hoepfully we can get to a point where she feels comfortable with how much sex she's offering and doesn't feel like she needs to keep tabs on me or worry if I'm going to be miserable. It's so hard not to be resentful about this though, this whole situation makes me feel like I'm doing all the compromising>>34827815>>34827832I would love to get her to enjoy sex more. I've tried so hard. I got her a vibrator which she uses during sex, I try to start with foreplay but she always wants to get straight to it, and if I persist it gets awkward with her just lying there waiting for me to go put a condom on. I would have thought that she'd want to give me a blowjob when she's feeling sore but she never does. I eat her out reasonably often, she usually asks but I do it spontaneously sometimes. In fact she sometimes asks after saying she's not up to sex.
>>34824726>>34824807You're horny all the time and this somehow translates in you mind to my gf owes me sex? Get a therapist.
>>34828951Femcel advice is always so helpful. Thanks, dearie.
>>34824726>>34824739>>34824767>>348247853.5x a week is normal(every 2nd day at least with some refreshes if your libido goes off sync)2x a week is her trying to bait you into max sensitivity so it ruins the sex you could have and make you feel like a quickshot.She's a piece of trash trying to use sex against you. Dump her or fix her.The situation she wants to force on you is the absolute worst possibilty. Do not allow it to continue.
All I'll say is to have this shit absolutely settled before you get married because it can get 50x worse from whatever it is at the moment you put the ring on even if everything else in the marriage is perfectly fine.I literally havent had sex in four months.
>>34824807>She also never offers blowjobs, and if I ask she makes it clear she doesn't want to damn you just gotta cut your losses and move on at that point
>>34824726I may be 6'6" and white and not deformed but I'm still an akward, smelly OBEAST and in the one serious relationship I've had so far as an adult (lasted 2 years) we had sex on average once a day.Some days we wouldn't but other days we'd do it multiple times, so I'm not bullshitting you when I say that if sex isn't frequent and eager you two aren't compatable.If both man and woman aren't drawn to eachother and calling eachother cute and hot and groping eachother, teasing eachother, it's ogre. In my opinion, anyway; I would not be in a relationship where affection is worked and payed for.
>>34828928> she’d want to give a blowjobI don’t know a single girl that WANTS to do that. I know they exist, but think about the type of girl who would want a dick and cum in her mouth. Really think about if you want to prioritize that attitude about sex in a relationship. There’s nothing to be ashamed of wanting that, but you won’t be satisfied if convince her to fake wanting it.AnywayWhat do you do for foreplay? You said she just lies there, so like.. you aren’t arousing her during it, that’s for sure. I think you should have a conversation about that specifically. Tell her you think it would be hot to make her cum first with the vibrator before gettin in there. It’s hard to not tell you to give up and find a more horny girl though. Like, it’s not that you want to have frequent sex. It’s that you want her to want perform sexual acts on you. Find a gitl who wants to perform thoughWhat do you even want out get out of this relationship?
>>34827815>I really thought you were going to go in the direction of getting her to desire it moreI think thats where I was going, only with different tools than usually advised. Contrary to what men believe, getting upset over such issues actually send the message that you are dependent and in a position of weakness, which is the opposite of what you want to be desirable. Ideally, you should avoid acting like you expect sex and always always take rejection gracefully. When you do that, you make it her responsability to have a good time together, and show that if she doesn't, she's missing out, and you aren't. If you do the things usually advised to instill desire such as working out more, presents, dress better, cuddle more etc in OP's situation there is a great risk this will be perceived as trying to hard to get sex, which will only perpetuate the cycle.>what is he missing on the days like below My theory is she is ok with cuddling but the vibe shifts immediately when she feels like the cuddling needs to become sex or else she'll have to deal with OP being upset. >i think she struggles with physical discomfort during sex. >How long do you foreplay? Reading OP her partner does not say she would love to have sex but that it hurts. She say she will "try harder" to have more sex but it never happens. Therefore, I wouldn't bet what you suggest will help. The issue seems to be lack of desire, which in its own leads to discomfort during sex for the woman, but cannot be solved by making sex more pleasurable physically. But I mean, can't hurt to try.
>>34830475cont>>34828928>I'm trying to relieve the pressure a bit, we're currently trying the dynamic where she's the only one who initiates. Thats great dude, I hope it gets better.>It's so hard not to be resentful about this though, this whole situation makes me feel like I'm doing all the compromising Again, I really identify with that. I was so upset at my gf because for treating me like that. I felt like I was wasting my youth with someone who didn't desire me. This made me so upset I refused to mentally engage with the actual issue, which was, I was really hurt by her rejection, but deeply I believed she was right, that I was not desirable anyway. That's why I didn't left. It didn't progress until I challenged those beliefs and tried to work on the relationship with the assumption that she did desire me, and was trying her best to please me, and that if I didn't like the outcome, I had to make the decision to leave and go find a better life. Fast forward 6 months, nothing works, so I calmly break up. 2 weeks after I did, she was asking me what I thought about breakup sex because she's been touching herself thinking about me every other day. That's when I fully understood, it's not my fault if my partner doesn't want sex. I'm desirable, I can get sex if I want. What's my fault however, is staying in a situation where my needs are not met and I'm resenting my partner. Next time you're resenting her, remember that nothing is keeping you with her. If you stay, make it a conscious choice, with clear commitments to try specific things. If nothing works out you'll know you've tried.
>>34824726Have you tried having an open honest discussion where you hear her out as to why she doesn't want it more often?
>>34830442I don't mean specifically that she should be sexually thrilled by blowjobs, I just want her to be motivated by what I want. It sometimes feels like she only ever does things for my sake when she's asked to, and even then often with reluctance. For foreplay, I suck her nipples, kiss her neck, stroke her clitoris, all that stuff. She likes it, but doesn't reciprocate. I kind of get the impression she thinks its for me rather than her. If I ask she says she's ready to just get straight into it. Also we use the vibrator every time now, and she always cums before me>>34830475>>34830539I'm going to try proving to her that I don't need sex to be happy. It's not true, I get noticeably miserable when I go a few days without sex, even if I masturbate regularly. But she is definitely feeling pressured because of it. I just hope this will result in both me being comfortable with less sex, and her knowing that she can say no and not worry about meit's making me anxious though, because she is somewhat limited in the affection she shows me, and if this frequency of sex doesn't change and I can't come to terms with it, I'm worried I'll do something really dumb just to feel wanted again. Sometimes I get the impression that she wouldn't even care if I cheated. Maybe she'd be relieved that some other girl did what she wasn't in the mood to do
>>34824726>But she simply can't bear to spread her legs and fake a smile for five minutes.>not saying I want her to force itthat is exactly what you're saying dude. That doesnt even sound fun anyways, pressuring someone into sex and all. Also, what does you going to the gym and being tall have to do with it? The fact of the matter is that males and females have generally incompatible sex drives, and unless you want to start sucking dick, you're gonna have to make compromises. Simple as. I would suggest you stop bringing it up like this, as it sounds pushy and a bit creepy and is going to be a turn-off(as it would be for most people). The truth is, if you are this sexually incompatible(from your point of view), and it is truly making you this unhappy, you should leave. Like I said previously, due to differing biology, stuff like this is gonna happen. Males dont get horny on a cycle and all that. But obviously most people are straight and so they make it work in their own way. The only way youre getting around this without becoming gay is A) have your girlfriend take testosterone supplements B) cheat on your girlfriend(not recommended) or C) break up and maybe date trans women in the future(who do not suffer from a biological hormone clock; that said, taking estrogen fucks your libido anyways so, maybe its just estrogen that's the problem.)
>>34831604> It sometimes feels like she only ever does things for my sake when she's asked to, and even then often with reluctance.Does she know you feel this way? Because this, and your feeling of being wanted are different from just wanting more sex. Seriously, framing the conversation around your need to feel desired/wanted by her could help her understand and try different things. If she really wants you, she’ll care about you feeling wanted by her.> She likes it, but doesn't reciprocate.What does reciprocating look like to you? Does she know? That bit kind of sounds like wanting her to figure out what you like in bed, which can be hard if she has some sort of hang up with sex in general.It really doesn’t seem like she enjoys sex, and I’m not convinced she’s orgasming.. if she’s faking enjoyment already, something is really up with her.. And that could be a hormone thing, or simply a her thing.>>3483171199% horrible adviceOmg testosterone isn’t the only freaking hormone that affects libido! Trans women are hormonal messes, be so for real.
>>34831849https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/conditions-and-diseases/thyroid-disorders-in-womenhttps://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/thyroid-and-libidohttps://www.goodrx.com/conditions/hypothyroidism/hypothyroidism-in-women-signs-and-symptoms?srsltid=AfmBOoqo8uSispMfj22hPAVv8pz-EHfq1gXfyQyuP6jxypYabnj_srv3
LOL are you seriousYou consider breaking up because you have sex two times a week and not moreAbsolutely retarded these creatures im laughing out loud kek
>cel>gfReminder that lying is a sin.
>>34825068You are delusional dude. Maybe thats how they act in the honeymoon phase or the first year of the relationship. But twice a week is already a lot.Women dont have such a high libido, and doing it so often can even tear it down there or make it painful.And she struggles with anxiety, irritability, and is not a man with a huhe libido, and then you say -why can’t she just spread her legs for me and put a smile on her face for 5 minutes-This is quite selfish, you should want to make her happy too, but you are only thinking of your own pleasure while shes already giving you twice a week. And seriously? Spread her legs for you and put on a smileSo much for making love to each other lol, nice way to talk about your woman. Kind of icky and disrespectful. Shes a human too. Touch some grass.
>>34825846Lol, finally. An actual man speaks out. Im just sitting here with my popcorn, OP is an actual retard
>>34830475This dude understands lolRight on the nail, this is literally how it works for womenAnd take it gracefully helps a lot too, there are guys who start taking tabs on it, or become bitter, or withold affection on purpose because they didnt get sex. Very immature and quite pathetic/unattractive too, it will only deteriorate the relationship further
>>34825647>either I have low libidothis is the answer
>>34831711NTA but kys tranny faggot
>>34824726Tldr have sex whenever the other wants to, full stop. That should mean an eventual taper anyway
>>34824726Tell her you need to have more sex, or, leave.
>>34831604> I just want her to be motivated by what I want.That's how good relationships are but unfortunately you cannot force this.>It sometimes feels like she only ever does things for my sake when she's asked to, and even then often with reluctance. Unfortunately that's not something you can change about her. The only thing you can reliably change is you.>I get noticeably miserable when I go a few days without sex, even if I masturbate regularly. For me, 2/3 of this ftustration came from feeling undesired. If you were single and did not have sex for a week, would you feel that bad, or just more motivated to find a hookup? If not having sex when you're single doesn't make you feel as bad, its a sign your feelings are influenced by your psychology, not your physiology.>I'm worried I'll do something really dumb just to feel wanted again. Why would you do that instead of breaking up? Is she really worth this?>Sometimes I get the impression that she wouldn't even care if I cheated. I mean, you're screaming for her attention and desire here. It's not good to be dependant on her giving you this. It generates a lot of pain for you, will keep you in shitty situation and around shitty people, and will make you do things you don't want to do. It doesn't have to be like this, you can feel complete on your own, without someone desiring you. But to be fair it does require someone truly loving you for you to deeply understand you're desirable and valuable. Originally that's your parents job. But since you're were you are now, it's your responsibility to make the good choices with the confidence you don't need someone to prove you you're desirable. My advice as I said, is to assume she's doing her best as long as you're in the relationship, and leave as soon as you harvest concrete evidence she is not. You don't need affection from someone who doesn't want to give it, you need to be responsible for your feelings and actions and find someone who loves you for it.
>>34824726Usually the telltale sign someone is cheating on you is sex avoidance. Because usually it means they're getting their sex from somewhere else.
>>34827832>imagine a dick completely filling your mouth. Tasting precum. Gagging. It’s way worse than sexLmao anon are you a woman?
>>34824726>gymcel>is having regular sex.
having sex is tiresome
>>34824726She's not enjoying it. It's become a chore for her because you need to pleasure her more so she actually feels she wants more.
Ive thought about this a decent bit and this is what I would do:>Dont ask for sex for the next 1.5-2 weeks(but obviously do it if she brings it up, considering you usually have sex 2x a week)>Do at least 3-4 "fun" things in this timeframe(idk going out and shit)>cuddle as usual and do not indicate any sort of sexual intentions during or after>try to present yourself as being pleased, confident, and DO NOT bring up the sex issue at any point and if she asks about it feign ignorance and attempt to come of ass self-assured and NOT desperate>in the times you do have sex during this period really push for foreplay and try to make her feel as comfortable as possible, go slowthe issue is a mix of 3 things>female libido is just different than male libido and thats perfectly fine>she has underlying psychological issues/stressors that could be getting in the way>she is likely not as comfortable as she could be entering into sex + actually having sex, which could defer her from wanting to do itAlso, you seem like kind of a weirdo, OP. Youre not a "gymcel", you have a girlfriend and have regular sex. Also wdym "asian women, so not long term options"? You racist or something? Additionally:>but she simply can't bear to spread her legs and fake a smile for five minutes.This is a deeply strange thing to say. It sounds less like you want sex, and more that you want a hole to masturbate into.
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>>34837359I agree this is good advice. I am trying this now>You racist or something?very>sounds like you want a hole to masturbate intoyes I regret the tone, I was just venting some frustration. I meant it feels like it wouldn't be such a hard thing to do for your partner if you knew how important it was and genuinely wanted to make them happy. But the impression that I'm getting is that it really is hard, especially if I'm putting pressure on her
