I got the news that one of my friends just died and I was a shocked by it, particularly because I found out first thing in the morning I saw my dad and told him the news, after talking about it I tried to change the subject to something lighter, about a show I watched last night of two americans going to Romania (his home country) he instantly went off saying how all americans should be beaten to death and allI got annoyed because he always does this shit, doesn't matter what you say he always has something negative to bring up but I got upset because all I wanted was to change the topicI got pissed, he got pissed and started to get agressive and punched a hole in the wall, also mentioning that all my friends were him and my mom and that I essentially had no friendsWhich is not true, I don't have many friends that's true but I have some. He told me to beat it and cut contact so I did and now I'm on my way to the airportWhy would he act like this?
>>34839582Men older than forty manage to be even more retarded than women. Don't sweat it. Just don't interact with him.
>>34839582>saying how all americans should be..every old man who can read ends up like thisthe good guys lost ww2 and the west has been subjugated by a cabal of evil pedos
>>34839582this escalated quicklyno,your dad is a fag, dw about him.
>>34839582>he instantly went off saying how all americans should be beaten to death and allHoly based.
>>34839582He's right about americans, try to see it from his point of view.And he didn't mean shit about cutting contact dude, be more compassionate about the people around you.
>>34840828Did you overlook the fact that he told me I had no friends other than himself and my mother when it's objectivly not true and punched a hole in the wall because he wanted to punch me?Also keep in mind, a person I had lived and worked with for almost a year had died and I found out a couple of hours earlier, I don't think I'm the one who lack compassion here come on now
>>34841566>but he was mean to me!grow upyour dad is fucked up (by the whole world and his inability to fix it), doesn't know how to deal with your sooking (without getting drunk), and sent you away because he's ashamed of the state he's inhere's what you should do: cry about the loss of your friend with someone else (men's helpline if there's one in your area, suicide helpline works too)then go get drunk with your dad and listen to him like they listened to you, because he needs it and isn't going to call some faggy helplinedon't be afraid to set a boundary with violence - "I get that you're mad but it's 2026 so you can't hit me"
>>34842010Yeah, noHe's always been a piece of shit to both my mom and I, this is not an isolated incident. He is the one who acts like a child by crying over the fact that americans existSo you downplaying the fact that I had to grow up with an abusive violent man-child doesn't help this case, accepting abuse doesn't make you tough or a manAnd here's the thing, I talk to him out of pity, he has never been a person I could rely on emotionally, I just told him because he is the first person I had seen in the morning. He used to get drunk and terrorize both my mom and I when I was a kid and he even addmited he was a monster back then but today I saw that the monster still lingers. I will cut contact because he is a rabbid dog that deserves to be put down like the beast he is, he acts out of impulse, he is no better than an ape, accepting abuse is a sign of weakness
>>34842010>>34842452Also, being a man is about understanding your emotions so you can act rationally without being ruled by them so you can help yourself and people around youHe gets overwhelemed by his inner turmoil constantly and complains non-stop to both my mom and I about his issues and when it's the other way around he starts bitchingHe is not 'mean' he is just a cunt
>>34842452>>34842496>all that>still goes to him because you're sad about your friend (colleague)acting on emotion and expecting other people to behave how you want>i talk to him out of pityget some friends>being a man is about knowing your emotions so you can act rationally to help themyet here you are bitching and running from himapple doesn't fall far from the tree, mateyou're just the next generation of cunt
>>34842876I'm processing my emotions so I know that I don't want to be a cunt like he is, the first step is to do something about it which is cutting him off and live my own lifeI already have friends, like I said, not many but I do. And I wasn't emotional about my friend's passing, I just found out he died but didn't know how so it was just me wondering what could have happened, a fairly normal reaction given the fact that he was a young guy and generally healthy, so it was more of a shock situation
>>34839582>Punch home in wallEmotionally immature and not compassionate with you. He's not mature enough or just not the one and then relies on >Emotional blackmail essentially saying you are trapped because all the friends are his>Why would he act like this?This is who he is, you just didn't recognize that before or he decided you are trapped enough with him that he doesn't have to fake who he is and lie anymore and just showed you who he actually is, that all else with him has been a lie.
>>34842010grow up? how can he grow up when his father is still a boy who tantrums?Mature people cannot have relationships with immature people - especially if one SHOULD be the mature one but acts like a pouty child.How about you all grow up ffs. Grow up.. lol. Do you hear yourself ffs.A grown mature person doesnt punch walls and attacks someone on basis of how many friends they have or have not. Irrelevant insult except it shows his bias towards external validation. Dude is probably a narcissist. They love to attack on basis of external validation.Also - words have meaning and meaning matters. If I tell you to fuck off and never speak to me again, I dont expect you to come hug me and tell me how Im a good baby who suffered a lot in this world.Even for a woman its a stretch. For a grown man to expect his son/daughter to ignore his words and actions and "love him regardless" is just to demand zero self esteem from said person.>>34839582dont worry OP, if its hard to be with him, love him from afar.Why would he act like this? Why would anyone today be insane? yet they are. Because they can get away with it. BEcause rather than confront their own darkness its easier to call yourself emotional, passionate, or "alive" and dump your shit on others because they will take it.Being good means being good to self first, otherwise you will get abused by every fucking ZOO escape humanoid demon you can think of.Love yourself first, make sure everyoe you surround yourself respects you in WORDS AND ACTIONS, and if it means cutting people off, cut the whole world off.Only when you have resolution like that, can you actually have good HQ friends around yourself. If you accept BS behavior from anyone (family or not) it makes you tolerant of BS and you dont wanna be tolerant.Compassionate yes, tolerant no.I feel compassion for you and for him. I know he is mentally unwell. but its not my problem, and its not yours.He oughta take response-ability.
>>34842979>the first step is to do something about it which is cutting him off and live my own lifeThat's not any of the steps. The first step is for you to learn how to meditate and get yourself into a state where you're patient and forbearing.
>>34843285>For a grown man to expect his son/daughter to ignore his words and actions and "love him regardless" I don't expect it as it's something given, but I do love her regardless. That's love.
>>34842496>>34842876Thank you for your support. Yeah he was an asshole to me as a kid and what he did proved to me he hasn't changed. I used to cope thinking he did those things because he was an alcoholic but he hasn't drank for 15 years and I saw the same monster yesterday so yeah, it's something that has to do with him and not alcohol unfortunately My mom called me and told me he felt guilty but in the end it doesn't matter because he can't change, I saw that so I have no doubts in my mind, there's nothing that he can say or do to prove me otherwise, he has apologized in the past and tried to change but he keeps doing this and it's because he repressed himself until he explodes, he can't deny his natureApparently my mom told me that when he said I had no friends other than him and my mom he meant that I wouldn't find anyone that would love me as much as they did which sounds pretty manipulative to me. Especially knowing I was trying to bring a lighthearded topic after my friend's passing and he used it as a way to shit on americans and say how ALL of them should dieI've had bad experiences with americans but two of the best people I have met are from there, so this black & white thinking of his is stupid and irrelevant yet he keeps bringing up his opinion when no one asked for them
>>34843224>>34843285Sorry I meant to add both of you here >>34843780
