I’ve been with my wife for 10 years. She is British I am American. I met her online back in 2016 and she moved here in 2024. For the first 6 years she was the nicest person I have ever known. Now I miss that person. She suddenly changed her political opinions, the way she dressed and started going to the gym around 2022. When we would face time or when I would travel there to visit she would talk to me like a child. She basically turned into a complete bitch. Sex also started sucking around this time. She will literally only have missionary sex and never initiates. This was out of no where. I have never found any evidence that she cheated. The only thing that changed was a friendship she started with some ugly feminist she met at work. Though I wouldn’t rule it out.The entire time we have lived together she’s never been happy. There’s always a problem. She hates the apartment. She wants to live in a house. She wants to have a baby. We don’t have enough money. She will regularly get mad and start scolding me calling me an idiot and telling me how stupid I am. If I tell her off she will stop for a while but eventually she starts again. I’ve been so depressed the passed couple of years. I can’t believe she turned into this. I sponsored her visa so financially I’m responsible for her. The judge will rake me over the coals in divorce court.
>>34847318i'd first try to fix the relationship.if i have a contentious convo in order i usually make dinner to limit variables for blowup because angry people = irrational people.i'd write down and list out every problem with the relationship, and put it in the most objective way you can: baby seems unachievable due to finances, it doesn't seem like you're happy with who i am, etc...let her respond to each point. be ready to judge how she responds, so you can assess whether these problems are things that can be fixed or not. if they can't be fixed, are you willing to change to make them work?if it's ugly and nothing changes, then yes, time to bring up divorce. if they ask why, you can use the talk as a reference for you trying to make it work and the necessary changes not happening. no reason to torture yourself like this.sadly she doesn't seem happy with her life, and you're taking the brunt of it so i wouldn't have high hopes especially if she isn't willing to make some changes. the last 4 years have been misery for the both of you, and the communication to try and fix those issues should have started 4 years ago. the second best time to start is today.both of you are gonna have to put effort to fix things. regardless, even if it doesn't work, at least you can tell yourself you gave it a last ditch effort before suffering the repercussions of divorce.
TLDR yes
>She wants to live in a house. She wants to have a baby>10 yearsYou expect a human to stay the same after 10 years?
>>34847412We’ve only lived together for like 3 years. Why would I buy a house and have a baby with a woman who treats me like shit? Especially not in this market.
>>34847318>Drags a woman out of her country, away from her own family >Refuses to start a family >Just wants to stagnate for 10 yearsYou're lucky she hasn't initiated divorce proceedings with you.
>>34847580>We’ve only lived together for like 3 years>I’ve been with my wife for 10 years>For the first 6 years she was the nicest person I have ever knownFake af
>>34847318>This was out of no where.Yeah, you say this, but then you also say:>The entire time we have lived together she’s never been happy. There’s always a problem. She hates the apartment. She wants to live in a house. She wants to have a baby. We don’t have enough money.So, it wasn't exactly out of nowhere, was it? She's been miserable the entire time she's been with you. Of course she's not in the mood for exotic sex if she's unhappy all the time.What you should be doing isn't divorcing her, it's doing a better job as a husband and getting her some of the things she needs to be happy. She moved to a whole other continent to be with you; stop making her feel she made the wrong decision.
>>34847318>She suddenly changed her political opinions, the way she dressed and started going to the gym around 2022So she changed 4 years ago, before moving in with you? So you knew what she was like when she moved in? Sounds like she didn't change.
>>34847412>>34847586>>34847690Simps
>>34847318I would break up I'd put up with a lot fucking less too. Stop falling for the meme dude the meme that there is some guy out there watching you, you know what you need to do.. do it. Missionary for the rest of your life. Blocking you out of fucking new girls for what? So she can be a cunt and not fuck you? Lol get the fuck out it's not going to get better and she will just look worse and worse
>>34847812Keep in mind I'm in a 11 year relationship with a actual top tier goth. So I know what I'm talking about my bitch is so hot I have put up with a lot. But if she acted like a cunt like that AND wasn't into me sexually I would have kicked her out right there and then nigga and I'm white and she would cry about it too lol prob kill herslef
>>34847318Yeah, this will happen when you're poor. I can't make any money, i'll just stay single. Fuck this shit.
