I'll try to be as brief as possible. I have a best friend who got married a few months ago. He's extremely happy and so committed that he's looking for a promotion at his job, thinking about his future family. I have mutual acquaintances with his wife because we all studied together. I spoke with one of these people, and we ended up talking about their wedding. The girls revealed to me that my friend's wife had a "love affair" with a guy at a party. I asked who the guy was, andt hey showed me a picture of the guy talking to her.I asked when it happened, and they wouldn't tell me the date. So? Should I tell my friend, whom I consider a brother? They didn't say the date, and I checked the profiles of those involved and didn't find any party to try to find out the date, but it seems that this guy just had sex with her in the bathroom or something disgusting to that extent. Before he married her, we all played Chivalry 2 almost all the time... He must know about this, but it would certainly ruin all his happiness. What would you do?
>>34847587What? Why are you so surprised? Most young men who get married today, while they were playing Skyrim or something like that their future wife was dating several guys. You'll never know your wife's past. And what kind of retarded question is that? It's obvious you should tell him, but be careful because some men can't handle it and try to hurt themselves.
Tell all your mutual friends and get this guy divorced
So she had sex with some guy. So what.
>>34847587what can you really do besides tell him? play a third party and talk to the wife yourself about what she did and to never do it again?if he's your 'brother', you have to tell him. maybe they can work it out, but that's for them to figure out assuming he can trust her ever again.
>>34847621I don't want to be a gossip. They begged me not to tell, and if he finds out, I think I'll be in trouble>>34847638>The woman's past doesn't matter? Incel!>>34847603Yes, this is becoming increasingly common.
>>34847646I think I'll tell him. I'm thinking about it.
>>34847652>The woman's past doesn't matter? Incel!Thanks for understanding. It indeed doesn't matter. You want to destroy their relationship because she had sex. You understand how retarded that sounds?
>>348476521. They gossiped to you in hopes of you telling on her so that you'll ruin your friend's marriage for them. If they were honest they'd give you more than a picture and an actual date. But no, you're the fall guy2. Fault a man for falling for the wrong woman or expect him to get the wife on the first try? If someone has no chance of finding a love match its easy to judge3. In the past did age gaps trend towards older women marrying youger men?
>>34847664>It indeed doesn't matterShut fuck up anon.
>>34847677>They gossiped to you in hopes of you telling on her so that you'll ruin your friend's marriage for them. If they were honest they'd give you more than a picture and an actual date. But no, you're the fall guyI came to a similar conclusion. What if they had a fight and then wanted to get revenge by telling me? And hiding when it happened is suspicious. It could have been a few days before the wedding or something like that. At one of those slutty bachelorette parties.
>>34847678I want you to sit back and think deeply about why a woman having sex with someone else in the past makes you insecure.
>>34847662it's the friends problem for ratting it out to you. you can tell the wife that if she confronts you, and it places the fault on them for being unable to keep their trap shut to the husbands close friend.this is pathetic on multiple levels. tell him.yeah, you're risking the wife, the friends, and maybe even the husband hating you, but i'd rather have a friend that pointed out something i missed - every time. you're not there to jerk him off, comfort him and just make him feel happy, but to watch his back. do you want to do what's right here?even if the marriage survives, it is better they work through this moment rather and communicate rather than everyone playing Clue and hiding secrets.
>>34847686This is cope. I know that if you could have it so that your gf or whatever was a virgin, you would.The word "insecure" is meaningless...the romantic, sexual situation of many men, is in fact not secure.
>>34847684If that were their plan, does op have a reputation in his friend circle as a jealous loser?
>>34847686Foid
>>34847587Youth culture has been so fucked. .Hooking up with a bitch has been a normal thing to do since time immemorial. But now for some reason men don't want that experience... I don't get it at all.
>>34847717Men that can choose are selecting for compability rather than purity.The ones that can't get no control
>>34847688>you're risking the wife, the friends, and maybe even the husband hating you, but i'd rather have a friend that pointed o something i missed - every time. you're not there to jerk him off, comfort him and just make him feel happy, but to watch his back.That makes sense. I'll tell him. Even if he gets angry and dismisses our friendship, I saved him.
>>34847717Its not cope because for me it's like so mundane it's like saying "ah I wish I could have sex with her but she owns a shitty brand of washing machine. It's just something that literally doesn't concern me at all and it's hilarious to watch the youth wrestle with this. Females, just be hygenic and shave that's all bye
>>34847587The rise of Indians and these new virgin incel rules have a strong 1:1 correlation
>>34847736attaboygotta do what's write even if it costs everything. it's the husbands fault at that point, if he's going to dismiss you over telling him the truth.
>>34847717Virgins suck at sex and the fact that you mention it proves you're an out of touch basement dweller who has never seen pussy in real life
>>34847750>gotta do what's write...gotta do what's right*
>>34847731>Hooking up with a bitch has been a normal thing to do since time immemorial.Hey you lunatic boomer, maybe you still fantasize about the fruits of the sexual revolution that YOU SELECTED, but stop projecting your past sexual fantasies onto our youth. Today everyone knows that one of the reasons that led to this disgusting promiscuity was because of people who think like you reaching the point where women aren't ashamed of being sluts>>34847686#There is ample data on how previous sexual partners affect marriage in the long term
>>34847749Nothing wrong with women and men enjoying themselves. You're just jealous you got no pussy.
>>34847757what'd they say?
>>34847725>does op have a reputation in his friend circle as a jealous loser?If they think this of me for ruining the marriage, and they probably will, it doesn't matter much. If no one was fair enough to warn him about this woman and her past, they aren't friends. They're colleagues at best. I owe my friend an eternal debt.. he doesn't deserve this. He deserves the best. And his wife isn't.
>>34847750Thank you for clearing my mind. Maybe I wasn't being a true friend here and was only thinking about my own image...I really hope he deals with this well.
>>34847686>insecureThis value has no weight whatsoever. It's like calling someone a racist or an incel. Nice try. women like you are the problem of the world.
And you idiots still want to get married in 2026? Hahahaha! Do you know why they didn't reveal the date? Because it was days before the wedding and they were also involved
>>34847780>Because it was days before the wedding and they were also involvedThat's what I want to find out. And I asked how exactly they got the photo, but they only said that "it was sent to us" No names or anything, and things get worse because I didn't even recognize the place where the photo was taken. It doesn't seem to be a house, I won't post the photo because of board rules, obviously, but I tried to find out the location.
>>34847587This is a made up story typed by an Indian on an iPhone. If you actually go outside and interact with women, maybe even had sex with a few, you's know you don't need fake stories to hate them, even when they don't cheat.
>>34847777Agreed. Nice quads
>>34847587None of this matters. She isn't married yet and she is keeping her promises to me-m
>>34847752I'm not the one you were replying to, but I'd really like to know, what's wrong with being a virgin? There are a few reasons I can think of, but I don't think they have any merit. Is it because it means you don't mesh with other people? I think that's a good thing. Other people tend to be horrible, and they do everything they can to extract value from you. Is it because you're failing to extract value from your environment and not being courageous enough? I think entrepreneurship and courage are the values of high functioning sociopaths who dictate our culture. giving up or being entirely overwhelmed are more reasonable responses to the circumstances of being alive, the idea of me being what you and others seem to want people to be is completely out of my headspace. You say basement dweller as an insult which is also common. I don't agree with that either. It's the idea of never having achieved anything, but nobody can hope to achieve anything even if you do leave the basement, get a job and a family whatever. That isn't an accomplishment to me, it's just following exactly what you were told to do. Unfortunately the only way to really accomplish things in the eyes of our society is to kill a lot of people or create / organise something which does that. But it also has to be in line with our values so you can't just go Adam Lanza and slaughter our slaves in training. I do agree with the idea that living for entertainment is very pathetic though. But a lot of people's attitude to sex is really entertainment adjacent though. The most reasonable thing I think you could say about the failing of virgins is that they're neglecting their role as a biological organism. But this is also somewhat unconvincing in my eyes because I think it would be better if biological life didn't exist. Anyway sorry to ramble. I'm curious why you feel the way you do.
>>34847587So she could have had seX with the guy whilst she was single, soWithout details on when it happened, it's pretty useless info other than she's that loose type
>>34847752Why not date a prostitute with that logic? They’re great at sex which is what you want.
