I am finding all the therapist I run into tend to either be the same type of jerk we run into everyday life or someone who has no good answers and are very quite. I read therapy books and I am usually very happy with the advice it has. One important piece advice is find a therapist. I just cannot find a good one. I am beginning to wonder if the are any good one out there.
>>34848280absolutely not. a therapist is a hooker that trades in money for friendship.are you a man or woman?therapy is for women. it's a friend when you have none and you need someone to bounce back your retarded pathology back to you in a way that makes sense.you can replace this with journaling or having an irl friend that will tell you when you have a zit on your face (call you out for your bs)>self help booksabsolutely worthless. the authors know they sell like hot cakes to hopeless nincompoops so they spit them out by the dozens.you've been fed modern solutions to an age old problem
>>34848280If you can understand lacans graph of desire it explains aloooooooooooooooooooooot
>>34848334I am a guy. I don't believe the answer is finding a G/F or friend. Most the people I have met seem to love to tease and hurt others. I have no idea how people get along. Sure their is Carl Roger's approach to therapy that if a therapist builds an atmosphere of trust and unconditional regard for the patient the mind has the ability to heal itself. I don't know if I truly believe this but I have yet to met a single therapist who has given unconditional positive regard. I would like to understand the why families give the scapegoat role to others, why society unconsciously see's this role in others and keeps the dysfunction going. Why others who have been scapegoat don't band together and build a community to help each other?
>>34848671utopias don't work. anything built off good intentions like you're talking about end in ruin. look up communes (they call them intentional communities now) if you want well intentioned places. the one nearest to me went from 15 to 2 members in a few years, because in well-intentioned 'equal' systems some people are more equal than others. you ignore the problems humans naturally create, but they don't go away. people still exploit other people. this is why you instead have a justice system to root out the problems.as an individual, you need to have the ability to discern tricksters, coping skills, and the ability to draw boundaries so people don't violate your principles.it's a hard road to find well-adjusted people, but you have to take it. people have problems and project it onto others, or the millions of other ways we screw each other over consciously and not. we're not robots.but if you're not willing to play the game then you lose. game over.you can join the million other anons here asking for advice and rejecting the solutions because they're out of your capability.
I meant unconditional positive regard
>>34848700The game is rigged against me. I can play the game but when it is set up unfairly for me to lose I am going to react with anxious withdrawal and anger. I get that humans are selfish and are mean to one another but somehow people get along and become friends. It just seems like I become a target for some unknown reason. I know that people attack others who are neurotic or different it is just I notice people are more forgiving of others than me. People form weird alliances against me for some unknown reason. It doesn't make sense. If life is a game others got the rule book and I didn't. Something strange is going on is my point.
>>34848742my weekend starts in 3 minutes and i gotta pack the car.here's some quickie golden though. stop being a faggot and find some new friends if you don't like the other ones. also grow a thicker skin. you sound awful to be around.why are you brooding over the past? look to the horizon. it's the weekend. there's a million loser neets like you out there waiting to meet oyu.good luck
>>34848753You are exactly what I am talking about. Everyone I meet is like you... you just like hurting others. I bet you have tons of friends and you all connected by hurting someone or complaining about someone. I have never met another person like me. Just a million like you. You claim having a thicker skin is the answer but I would bet anything if I spend time around you and start poking at your flaws you will become an enraged a-hole and I will say where is your thicker skin. You will ignore what I say and just threaten attack and your friends will back you up and you will stay in your same old thinking that you have thick skin.
>>34848280I have met well intentioned therapists but none that can help me more than I can help myself with books, like you. I find that no one perfectly fits any mold in therapy and it's just impossible for someone to know you better than yourself in any reasonable amount of time (and it's hard to tell if they ever will), but with books you can just understand the fundamentals and apply them yourself in the most appropriate way.The one time therapy can help is when you feel truly stuck and don't know how to get out on your own. I find other perspectives helpful even if I don't always take their advice exactly.
>>34848334a backstabbing friend you pay to have low effort conversations and that makes fun of you to their family at home btw
>>34848671If you get a therapist it absolutely can't be a woman for any productive reason. Basically you need a guy to talk about guy problems like unfucking up your life and meaningful self improvement. Unless you end up having sex with your female therapist she's useless at best and damaging at worst. Half the guys will be useless also but a better chance of helping in a meaningful way.
>>34848771since you have me all figured out, will you be my therapist?
>>34849436Too complicated of a case for me.
I just talk to one of my AI sexbots. Works for me
>>34848280i treat them as hobby.but no.they are all traitors.one promised me something and just now told me she was planning on never deliver.
>>34850403i shall add that the hobby is state funded.for me it is free to talk to random strangers who get money for talking to me.
>>34848280every therapist ive been to (quite a few) has either been bafflingly retarded or outright admitted they couldnt help me. i dont think therapy is very useful unless you dont know whats wrong with you, most therapists are just normal people who cant really do anything outside of naming your issues.
>>34850478Interesting, I know exactly what I want to look into... dysfunctional family patterns. I just need someone to help me get the right info. I figured therapist had accesses to better info than the rest of us but I am probably wrong.
>>34848280Instead of "therapy" just meet new people talk to people and research yourself and discuss with people.
