>be me>17>obese basicaly all my life, was 10 and had tits >living with mother, obese since i remember her>family always make fun of me bc of my weight and doesnt take me seriously>madly in love with a girl i know , we grew up together >realise she will never like me if im fat, also cant look at myself anymore, cant exist in my body confortably >maybe if i lose wieght and go to gym family and girl will like me >start going on walks >mom knows what im trying to do , buys me chips every time i come home after walking>ask her not to, ignored, eat it and cry in my room>decide to go to a gym>ask for money for it>it takes a bit but she gives me > go>huge support from the people there , gym owner likes me helps me a ton >go there every day , 40 minutes on the treadmill and then weights> never go to the beach all summer, go to gym instead>all my friends are going as well, we are talking about it all the time>gym owner gives me a diet plan > lose 10 kg in about a month> mother hates it , says he wants to put me on steroids> dude is literally not that type of guy, runs marathons and shit like that >refuses to help me with my diet , makes whatever she wants , always brings sweets into the house> i throw them out , ask her not to buy them>"just dont eat them ,lol"> year over have only lost that 10 kg from the start> next year big university exams , stop bothering , unmotivatedits been a year since then, im 19 and have gained the weight back, for the most part (90kg 185 cm) i dont live with the bitch anymore, got no friends since its a new city , no confidence anymore, super awkward about weight realise that i didnt get to live my life bc of the stupid bitch, i want to get better but i just cant , i thing it isnt worth it , ive already lost too much.its a little more complicated and a long story but idk ill probably lose all hope and kms. any advice, is there hope , is it worth it ?p.s. sorry if its lot , needed it of my chest.
>>34849960>90kg 185 cmThat doesn't even sound that bad. These average american male measurments or even better than that. Average american male is shorter.
Lose weight, fatshit
you're 19 and not nearly as fat as you think you are. plenty of life left. find a hobby or two that you enjoy and get good at it. find a club or something that gets you talking to people regularly. parents that neg and undermine their kids like that don't deserve shit. sorry you had to deal with that.are you still walking? just upping your steps is a great way to get back into exercise.
ig im feeling nice today so listen up, first of all ur 19. Youre basically at the fucking starting line and 90kg at 185cm is nowhere near as catastrophic as u seem to think it is. U dont need to become a skeletal gigachad to have a good life like if you want to lose some fat, great, but seriously consider building muscle too. Idk get stronger, eat reasonably, sleep properly, keep walking, lift consistently. Youll be shocked at how different u look and feel without obsessing over the number on the scale cuz it shouldnt really be the point here but whatever besides a new city could be a massive blessing in disguise. Nobody there knows the old you and nobody gives a shit that u were the fat kid. U get to walk in and establish urself from scratch so take advantage of the reset. Make friends at gym, join clubs, just dont be a total wimp and wait until youre “fixed” before u start living. ur parents behavior clearly fucked with your head but ur not living under those rules anymorealso dont make a girl ur finish line. like attraction matters but if she only wants u when ur fit and everything is going perfectly thats a pretty fucking fragile foundation for a relationship and theres like a 80% chance shes gonna ditch u the next time u go thru a rough patch and fall below whatever standard she has set for u in her headanyway u already proved u can change things. You lost 10kg, went to the gym every day, made friends there and found ppl who were willing to support u. So stop bitching on 4chan and pull yourself together. you’ll be fine. this is coming from a girl ur age whos also suicidal af but for completely different reasonsthere. thats my advice, dont squander it
also if shes obese herself and actively sabotaging your efforts it honestly sounds like shes too much of a lazy narcissistic fuck to put in the work herself so she’d rather drag u down with her than watch you succeed and remind herself of what she isnt doing. Prove to her that shes just as pathetic as she thinks she is
>>34849960accidentally read all of this in a peter griffin's voice, I'm really fucking sorry op
>>34849960this might sound stupid but if you just stop eating for a while your appetite will go away. power through like a week or so of not eating and youll just naturally eat less when you start eating again
>>34849960Tldr Stop being fat
>>34849960as someone who has a pretty similar experience, it's in your head.It is true people are nicer to skinnier people on average, but based on what you said your height and weight is you're not even really fat.I don't know if I'm just projecting because this sounds similar to me, but it sounds like regardless of how much weight you lose you still feel obese, disgusting and hopeless.As someone who still struggles with that mindset my best piece of advice is to just try and capitalize on the good days and keep trying to make the right choices with food and exercising.The fact that you made so much progress despite having the one person in your life who should love and support you unconditionally trying so hard to keep you down is fantastic and if nothing else you should be proud of that. I think most people wouldn't be able to do what you did.As a former landwhale with an abusive mother as well, I got your back and I hope for the best for youAlso you don't need to keep exercising to lose weight just eat less calories than you burn.If you stress eat, burn it into your head that you will feel much worse if you eat that burger than if you hadn't and get rid of/don't buy extra food or snacks they will only tempt you.
>>34849960>needed it of my chest.you mean breasts get it off your breasts
>>34849960Your lack of self control isn't anyone else's fault. You're never going to improve yourself or your condition so long as you continue blaming other people for your personal failures. You're extremely immature for your age, and seem to have problems that run deeper than obesity.
