>be me>lonely, want to talk to somebody>send a whatsapp message to a friend>ask them how they're doing>they say they're fine>ask them how their day went>they ask why>I tell them just curious>do you need something?>nah just curious>it's pretty unusual for you to talk like this for no reason, since you're the quiet type>yeah, I know>you don't need to be shy, whatever you need you can ask>I don't really need anything>then why did you message me?>hmmm no reason I guess>man, I'm a bit busy right now, can you get to the point>there's no point I guess>ok, maybe we can talk later and you'll tell me what you wanted>I didn't really want anything>ok, let's talk later>conversation endshow do you stop stuff like this happening? every time I try to talk to somebody in a casual manner, this happens, and it makes me terribly uncomfortable and the worst experience in my life.is there a way to.prevent this that doesn't involve giving up on human interaction?
>>34850987Ok op, but what do you need from me?
>>34851051I feel like I can't talk with people without triggering my social anxiety if I have a reason to. If it's just casual conversation, I can't
bruh what?Just say you just wanted to chat. You kept saying what you weren't doing, but never said what you were doing, of course they were confused.
>>34851274>I wanted to chat>why with me? go chat with your family or friendswhy is it so hard to understand that maybe I don't want to say embarrasing stuff or be vulnerable in front of other people, specially if I don't know them that well?
>>34851314>>I wanted to chat>>why with me? go chat with your family or friendsDid that actually happen, or are you making that up?I'm confused, are you talking about someone actually fobbing you off or are you just having an anxious meltdown about the possibility of such a thing?
>>34851348similar things happened the last time I tried several years ago. I'm obviously not paraphrasing
>>34851314>maybe I don't want to say embarrasing stuff or be vulnerable in front of other peopleThen you don't really want to chat you have to be vulnerable to have meaningful connections
>>34851355Nothing about this thread is obvious, I still have no idea what's happening here. I think you're right to be worried, your communication skills aren't all there my guy
>>34850987Send them this next time. People communicate through memes now. Get with the program.
Hang out in a fandom space. People get heated talking about stupid shit like power leveling or nitpicking details. You can jump on in a discussion and playing devils advocate
>>34850987This would be weird to me too. Try opening with a specific topic so you have something to talk about.
>>34850987Drop your discord, op, I can talk to you, and befriend you, that may teach you how to interact with people normally. I'm going to teach you, just drop your discord, I'm gonna sleep rn, but see ya
>>34850987So you were curious, they were busy. Talk when they're not
