Send help please, I honestly dont know where to go from here. What's worse I cant even invite her back because I JUST moved here and have absolutely no furniture. What the fuck do I do? Do I wait until the weekends over? Do I call or text? Im fucking clueless dude.>Be awkward, socially inept>decide to a rave>end up dance with this hot girl I randomly met>She starts lettin me rub on her and gives me her number>Go freaking out in the bathroom cause Holy fuck this aint never happened before. I gotta be dreamingBut fuck dude, its true, apparently girls do like guys that dance well.
>>34853417Just text her, say you're the guy from the rave and start a conversation about it. Then ask her whether she wants to go somewhere outside. Don't invite her into your apartment when you just met her.
>>34853417You are raver, well done dude. Just be yourself dude it always works with me. No, now for real, just be your funny, interesting and sane self, who cares if she doesn't like it? She wasn't gf material then.
>>34853417>>she starts letting me rub on her and gives me her numberAre you sure you want to talk with her anon?
>>34853427I am simple man.I see fat butt in a gwen stacy body suit, I am rock hard.
>>34853417text her dick pics
>>34853417>got a girl's number>did not take place on a university campusclearly must be lying>/s
>>34853417I suggest waiting a couple of days: if you contact her instantly, that looks like you are desperate and have no life, which you clearly are, and you haven't, but there's no need to advertise that. When you do contact her, call her, do not text. Texting is the cowardly thing to do; calling is the confident thing to do, and women are attracted to confidence. Before you call, think of two or three places you could go on a date. Doesn't need to be anything fancy - a bar or a coffee shop is fine, but somewhere not too noisy where you can have a conversation without other people tripping over you and music blaring. Then call her, re-introduce yourself, and then ask her if she'd like to go for a drink some time. "There's a nice coffee shop on X Street. Saturday afternoon, maybe?"
>>34853417>gives me her number>Go freaking out in the bathroom cause Holy fuck this aint never happened before. I gotta be dreamingIf your reaction when she gave you her number was to run away and hide in the bathroom, then you've already fucked this up beyond all possibility of repair. There's no point in contacting her.
>>34853421I would not describe myself funny and interesting dude. I pretty much have the personality of a wet noodle, that apparently dances well.>>34853543Okay so what do I do in the event I know absolutely nothing around the place. Just fake it til I make it?
>>34853545Well shit i didnt know what to do, I didnt think i'd make it that far. I needed to reconvene and figure out what to do next. What else was I supposed to do, continue acting like I was cooler than I actually am? Continue trying to follow her around and attempt to flirt all night?I ended up choosing to run to the bar for a drink and join another dance circle.
>>34853429How noble and tender. You are an amazing display of buddhist and hedonic traits.Now, call today in the afternoon and say "i enjoyed last time, do you want to go to (expensive place)?
>>34853417Just say "Hey it's [anon] from the rave"Don't worry about sounding that interesting or flirty in your opening message, this isn't a dating app where you need to win her interest. She gave you her number so she's clearly already interested.She'll probably text back some variation of "hi how are you" or somethingEngage in a normal conversation, maybe tell her how how much fun you had with her at the rave or say she was a good dancer, some kind of compliment that says you've been thinking of her without actually saying "I've been thinking about you" because that's creepy from a stranger.Then invite her to hang out again. Don't bring up your apartment unprompted, and if she brings it up just be honest and say you moved here recently and it's not set up yet rather than some stupid story. That's a situation everyone has been through, she'll understand.Maybe you could say something like "I'd love to hang out somewhere we can actually talk and get to know you better" and invite her to a bar, restaurant, even just a walk in the park whatever.
>>34853720I mightve goofed cause I texted her after I left.Not for any reason, It's just a force of habit since I tend to do that to make sure everyone has my number.I hope this is still salvageable. I'd really like to see how far this goes.
>>34853417Meet up, maybe another rave or dance thing
>>34853561>what do I do in the event I know absolutely nothing around the placeHow the fuck do you live somewhere and not know anything about it? You've seriously never, in the whole time you've been there, wandered into a coffee shop and thought "oh, this is nice"? You've never once gone to a restaurant where you liked the food? You've never gone to see a movie? You've never gone for a walk somewhere and thought "This is a nice place for a walk"? You've never done any activity AT ALL that involved leaving the house and thought "This is fun"? If you really haven't, please don't try to date until you have. Or if you're really that desperate, just crank up Google Maps and look for somewhere with a review score of at least 4.5. It'll probably be okay.
>>34853777>I hope this is still salvageableNTA, but it's not.
>>34853575>What else was I supposed to do, continue acting like I was cooler than I actually am?Literally no one gets laid without doing this. So yes, that is exactly what you should have done.
>>34853777>I texted her after I left.Did she reply? If not, it's over: don't bother trying a second time. That was your one and only chance.
>>34853777>>34854470Don't listen to this faggot you didn't do anything wrong. There are no "rules" to this kind of shit. Everyone tries to keep their cards close to their chest and never show any interest in anyone. I think that's stupid. Too much too soon can be offputting, yeah, but it is not a bad thing at all to make someone think you're interested in them. People like knowing other people like them. That's kind of our whole thing as social creatures who built a society.
>>34854466I guess you missed the part where I said I JUST moved here. Im in a completely new town, and on top of that the rave I went to was in Orlando, im 40 minutes away from it.
>>34854729text her right now and tell her she's hot and you want to stick your face in her cooter
>>34854729Then learn how to use Google Maps and stop whining.
>>34853417I tried going to a rave. Didn't know how to dance, so not much happened. What moves do you know?
>>34854793Fuuck no.Not because it'd be creepy as fuck to say, but because she's likely long showered by now and I wont get the sweet musk of sweaty vag from dancing all night.
>>34854481Tell you what I'll do. I'm gonna text her and ask if shes doing anything sunday, and wants to do anything. Either she says yes or no.Hopefully it goes well. All I can do is just play it straight, especially since I cant use alcohol as an excuse this time.
>>34855115To be honest? Mostly tiktok meme dances, fortnite dances, and things I remember from my kpop phase.Tons and tons of alcohol to shut up the ,"dont embarass yourself" voice inside my head.They seem to really liked me doing the perculator.
>>34855184I didn't drink any alcohol to dance by myself. I just realized that if I'm going to go to parties to meet girls, I'm just going to have to get over my anxiety in parties and just dance in front of everyone. People will make fun of me for anything anyway (my dancing, rejections, you name it), but so far, no one cared. So I think I might finally get over it.I'm going to search those up.
Fuck all these losers you got this. Like somebody said earlier there's no concrete rules to making a connection with a girl. Every situation is different and every person is gonna like different approaches. In your case you have a lot going for you with her already being interested enough to give you her number. I'd say wait a little, maybe till Sunday afternoon call her, don't seem desperate but don't seem nonchalant and passive. Show real interest. I don't like these shitty games either, ideally you say you like a girl and it's simple, but we don't live in the 80s. Even if it doesn't work out you'll have learned something. Best wishes
>>34855179Nah, too soon. Ask her if she's available to grab coffee or lunch next weekend.
>>34853417>Be awkward, socially inept>decide to a raveWhy the fuck would you do that to yourself?>>She starts lettin me rub on her and gives me her numberYou're both degenerates. Make sure she gets tested before you do anything stupid.
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>>34853417Just prepare to be disappointed talking to her sober self who probably doesn't even remember giving you her number or regrets it already. That being said, I wish you luck.
>>34855541The rave episode in Samurai Jack did a number on my young psyche.Also it was one of those sexynerds events so I figure everyone there must be nerdy in some way.
>>34855496>>34855194Well, for anyone who wants updates. I don't think it's happening. I accidentally made it awkward trying to sort things out.>Decided to set up a nice lunch and bowling sometime after.>Says she doesnt feel like leaving the house.>Not even sure if thats a hard no or an invitation, I've heard it can be both depending on the girl>Decide to call and sort this out instead of waiting for a text, Yknow, facilitate this whole "when are you available" thing>Voicemail, think, "she's probably busy.">Nope, She just doesnt want to answer the phone. , and she just texted me so now she probably thinks I called just so I can get her attention.>Cant text or It'll look like I backpeddle too much, If I call again it looks too desperate.>said Fuck it, left a voicemail saying, I'm up for going with my date idea if she wants and let it end there.Yeah I'm gonna pass. The more I call or text the worse it looks on me. I dont think its worth putting mind power towards this anymore. Maybe you guys were right I shouldve just waited for next week, I just thought wait 3 days thing was BS but I guess not. They say if they actually like you, they'd make it easy right?I'm going to a singles karaoke event next week anyways, so It's not like its the end of the world.
Okay, we're going to settle it. Say any of us get a girl's number, IG, or whatever. After how much time do we text her after we get it?
>>34856582I personally wait til the next day. That's just because if I text her the night of she usually doesn't respond until the morning anyway since she's either still out doing stuff or sleeping at that point.It really doesn't matter, there's no "rules" despite what anyone says. But if you wait more than a few days she'll forget who you are and that makes it harder for you.
