I am a 22 years old sperg frenchie from the south , I have been dating a dutch tranny for like 3 years now. she's the only person I can be fully myself with but she's a mess, she is addicted to weed and temporary got me hooked on it as well which had a pretty bad effect on mental health. yet I still love her even though now that I'm back in my home country without her, I told my parents I would ditch her after she pays me back 2500€ I gave her over time in our relationship to buy her weed, groceries and others. I am straight but act like an immense faggot, my parents have coddled me for a long time. I don't know how to approach women and last time I was in love with a biological women it was non reciprocate and I was essentially the gay friend for like 6 years until I eventually admitted I still had feelings for her and she messaged me she was disgusted and does not want contact with me again. Since then I never had the courage to look for girls and I don't know where to look. I also don't know how to do professionally as I dropped out of uni and after a bunch of small jobs I am currently trying to enroll in the navy but because I had to stop SSRIs that I only started recently I am doing horribly mentally. I also have a mentally straining porn addiction of 10 years though I stopped since a week. help!
>>34856213stop being a sissy communist and lurk boards and forums that prioritize being based rather than wanting sex
>>34856213first of all, forgive yourself for being weird and weak and retard. Life doesn't matter, accomplishments don't really matter, 99% of people fake their entire lives. Don't be so hard on yourself and don't give in to peer pressure, you are the only one born with your particular circumstances and historysecond of all, self-pity is how you become a leper as a man. Stop it immediatelythird, stop whining, stop externalizing your faults and problems. Focus on yourself and improving your life situation and becoming the best version of yourself. You will probably never be rich or successful and that's ok. Most people will never be rich, successful or accomplish anything. It's not a big deal. Just do your best to become self-reliant and mentally stable, and to do that you need to focus on yourself and yourself alone
>>34856255I browse /pol/ often out of bad habit though I doubt you would call that "based". I'm not a sissy nor a communist. I want social contact above sex.
>>34856298I'm not sure how to focus on myself especially when I try to catter to what my parents want. I did start working out which has been somewhat helpful but I do not know how to improve my identity.
>>34856305>I'm not sure how to focus on myself especially when I try to catter to what my parents want.See, that's the issue number 1. Move out. Your parents don't matter, stop trying to please them. There's a big chance you will never ever please them.The best thing you can do is become self-reliant. Step 1, find a job and keep it. And stop whining
>>34856213>yet I still love her Thats very normal, when you're bonded to another person your brain doesn't care about facts>I told my parents I would ditch herbad move, bringing external pressure in this very personnal decision will only make it harder>I don't know how to approach womennobody does except pieces of shit. the way to get in relationship is to have a social life, not to social engineer hookups.>I am currently trying to enroll in the navynot from the US but seems like a good move if you have no other career options>I am doing horribly mentally.yeah that checks out, but you're young, you have time. try to focus on your day to day life and not think too much about what you should have done or should do. It's not healthy.>I also have a mentally straining porn addiction of 10 years though I stopped since a week.sorry to be pessimistic but you are unlikely to succeed to just stop a 10 years addiction. you can manage it. makes it so it doesn't affect your life too much. slowly taper off. Stopping cold turkey wirhout any mitigation strategy is likely to fail and make you feel like you have no control and make it even harder to stop next time.
>>34856307I don't know where to look for, housing is expensive where I live. I have the chance that my parents love me and they believe in me it's just that they can be overbearing sometimes. I am planning on being self reliant by trying to join the navy and learning discipline.>>34856312>Thats very normal, when you're bonded to another person your brain doesn't care about factsShould I come back to her if she ditches weed and finds a way to make money besides her government subsidies because of her illness? I don't think I could find a women I could sperg out as much I did with that dutchie..>the way to get in relationship is to have a social lifeHow? I guess a hobby I have is playing board games but besides 2 close friends in a limited circle that's it.>not from the US but seems like a good move if you have no other career optionsI'm in France! It seems rough and I'll probably have to hang tight the first month or two but I think I could learn a lot from it if I pass the fitness and psychological tests.>try to focus on your day to day life and not think too much about what you should have done or should do. It's not healthy. I try, but sometimes suicidal thoughts just creep in unexpectedly, I wake up in the middle of the night only wanting to end my life and it sucks. I often get chest tightness during the day, my heart feels like it has lead in it. I try to act normal with my parents around but sometimes it's too much and I refuse to go outside or I end up dissociating and acting weird, stuck in my head. it's hard to explain. >slowly taper off. Stopping cold turkey wirhout any mitigation strategy is likely to fail and make you feel like you have no control and make it even harder to stop next time.I'll keep a mental note of that.Thank you for the answers anon, I'll do my best to make most of it and improve!
>>34856363>I don't know where to look for, housing is expensive where I liveyou're whining, I told you to stop>I have the chance that my parents love me and they believe in me it's just that they can be overbearing sometimes. I am planning on being self reliant by trying to join the navy and learning discipline.you're externalizing your problems and offloading responsibility for your own life and discipline on military serviceTake my advice or don't, if you stay in your current lane and mentality, you will never get out of your situation and anxiety
>>34856213>I am 22 and I have no idea what I am doingGOOD NEWS ANON! YOU ARE NORMAL!Being an adult means you can choose who you want to be, not your parents, not your girlfriend, not the government, what YOU want to be.>Find characters that resonate with you in media. Imerse yourself in anime, manga, games, or anything that youa re passionate about and find ressonence within them>Imagine the kind of person you would be if you would want to be if you could be anything you want, in any settings, not just in reference to modern day. Who would you be if you were the hero of your own fantasy adventure, anon?>Plan how to carve a path to being someone like that, to living the life you want to lead>Make steps towards becoming who you want to be>Correct your path as you go along and as you grow and mature and find out the subtleties of who you are>Have interests and goal rather than a vague "self improvement"That is allI highly recommend making a journal as it helps document how you felt and ahow your progress as you fall and get back up(1/?)
>>34856410For some more specific advice>SO is a messUnless both of you are ready to take the journey out of that, you might have to say goodbye, even if it hurts.>Talking to womenAs you become more confident and more of your own man, it will radiate confidence and others will be drawn to it. remember that women are human beings, and there is a girl who wants to be treated like you do, so be the best version of yourself instead of some fake player that aims for shallow catches.Last time you tried you were 16, I know it hurts, but you got to pick yourself back up and try again.>Quitting porn addictionAtta boy! Did so not too long ago too. Comes with some really bad depression but it goes away eventually so stay strong. Remember that you still need to cum regularly because you are a man. Give yourself a quit 20 minutes a few times a week to jerk off from imagination or songular non fetishized images that you would be happy you nutted to even after post nut clarity. My advice is do not jerk off while browsing stuff online.(2/3)
>>34856411>MilitaryThe military often takes advantage of lost men who want to be reforged as warriors. It can be a good path if you know what you sign up for, but it can also be a very very bad one. You need to research who your commander in chief is and what their objectives are, what wars you might be facing, what kind of training your branch does, what will your rights be...You have to be ready to die or be killed, consider that it is like a 1 rol l on a d20 for chance of death, 1 on a d4 for chance of physical impairment, and pretty much a coin flip for mental issues. You need to be able to say no when a screaming idiot tells you to do something that will get you injured or dead.You need to speak with real vets to see if it is for you.There are other activities that are good for becoming a stronger more capable man like outdoor related stuff, camping, hiking, climbing, hunting, and there are related jobs like being a guide or a ranger. If the open sea gets you excited, maybe become a seaman on a fishing boat or something similar. Could toughen you up and tech you a lot about logistics in limited and dangerous conditions.>ParentsIt sounds like your parents are supportive but kind of overprotective. What parents are supposed to do is slowly introduce challenges to a kid. Try by yourself to see if you could pick up chores around the house as if it was your own solo living situation, they will be impressed and it will feel a little like independence. Learn to cook, How to patch clothes, practical skills. Be up front that you are trying a new direction and what you may need for it.Also, I recommend picking an instrument. From your writing and circumstance, especially as you grow, I think you are the type that would greatly benefit from music in your life.>>34856305>Working out2 pieces of adviceThe first, remember that building up a havit is better than individual workouts being high volume. Second is diet. Eat right. You need fuel.
>>34856213>I am straight
>>34856410>>34856411>>34856414Thank you, this is some really solid advice. bookmarking this thread. I'll try to learn the synth as an instrument since I got that lying around from my mother. I'm gonna think twice about the military before joining, but I'm still gonna try to pass the tests, at least as a challenge. Worst case scenario I can always leave within the first 6 months. I'll do more chores, make my bed tidy everyday even if I don't feel like it, and if Im thinking lewd things I'll use that as fapfuel instead of whatever gooncoal I find online.>>34856567Bisexual I guess. though *mostly* attracted to feminine features. A toned wink is as hot as a nice pair of tits to me alright?
>>34856913>A toned wink is as hot as a nice pair of tits to me alright?Aight anon, you do you, but it aint "straight" to suck a dick.
>>34856213>tranny is a drug addicted psychopathI'm shockedTaken abackAt a loss for wordsHonestly, who could have predicted this??????
>>34856913Threads vanish from 4chan after a while.Take this: https://archive.4plebs.org/adv/thread/34856213/Screenshots are even better>Synthcool!Also stop replying to the dork trying to ragebait. Labels are meaningless.
>>34856213Stop dating a tranny for oneDon't orbit some bitch who doesn't even like you back for 6 years for twoFind some bitches who actually like you back for three
