Im just venting, but I've been in a bad relationship with my ex-girlfriend for over a year and she's leading me on all the time, flirting and teasing, there is no sex, there is no love but I'm spending thousands of dollars on her living expenses because she does not work many hours by choice. I'm paying around $700 a month to help her out with food and rent. But she won't go out with me. She ignores me a lot. Takes half a day to reply and I just don't know what to do anymoreI know it sounds fake but I'm a millionaire and have a small part time job, we work together at that job, I don't really need to work I have my own business, she knows I have money.I'm over 35, got divorced a few years ago, and do not have kids. I'm not ugly. There's a lot of women that want to hang out with me, I get messages a lot, and when I used a dating site I had over 30 matches in a week but I am not interested in them.On the internet, I'm single, I'm not in a relationship with this woman, in fact even when we were dating it was not official on the internet. I want my ex back, but I can see I'm being financially taken advantage of and I just don't know what to do with myself anymore I genuinely just want to blow my shit off smooth. Ive read this back before posting it and I just don't know what to do or say, I feel guilty that without my money she would suffer. I know that if my friend told me this, I would tell them to stop right away, but that advice does not make sense to me right now. Thanks for reading.
>>34856453Just stop paying her?
>>34856453You know, I’ve got some money and therefore some specific compassion here. If you had not mentioned having a bad relationship since the breakup, I would have said to ignore 4chan incel advice and just keeping her okay until she moved on and was fully stable. If it were no skin off your ass and you aren’t the type to just let someone suffer, I see that as the noble form of having money.HoweverYou mentioned that she’s fucking with your feelings and that’s the line, dude. You say you don’t want her to suffer, and again I think that is the ennobled version of having money in general, but you’re clearly suffering for this. You would suffer for your wife/gf, many people do, but suffering for your ex? It can be done but think it through fullyOne thing that helps me when I’m in a situation with both money and lots of emotions is to reduce the entire situation temporarily to one transaction >what am I really buying here?You are buying very expensive suffering and you’re buying her security. What is the ratio of your suffering to her security here? That something you really want to buy? Maybe it is but pls tread lightly dude.
>>34856453If you're a millionaire, $700 a month is pocket change. What are you complaining about? Probably the best thing to do is make it clear that you don't want to talk to her any more, or work with her, or have anything to do with her at all, but that you're willing to continue paying her $700 a month for the next 3 or 4 months while she looks for a job and a place to live. And stick to that: don't interact with her in any other way, and cut her off after four months.
>>34856482the suffering is pretty high, i am still in love with her and she gives me enough hope to keep this going, over a year and a half its been about 30k that is more than she makes in a year. I feel dumb answering and typing this out, I know its wrong but when I see her I do not feel that way.>>34856500Ive been paying a long time, its about 30k total for 16 months.thank you for replying
>>34856548>i am still in love with her and she gives me enough hope to keep this goingFound your problem.
>>34856548>its about 30k total for 16 months.That's 1875 per month. You are as bad at math as you are at relationships. If you have a million dollahs, you have more then enough to take a vacation and meet some hot beach bunny and get over your infatuation with a woman who is using you for your money. Grow a fucking pair. And if you can't, hire a life coach who'll do it for you.
Nobody is worth the mental turmoil you are describing. Especially a borderline NEET like her. She's useless without you and knows it, that's why she keeps negging you bc you don't put your foot down. I know it's tough imagining her struggling without you there to support but that is how ppl learn to live, through struggle. Fuck this hoe you gotta leave man for your own sanity . Nobody should make you feel like blowing ur brains out smooth ESPECIALLY an SO
>>34856549you are correct, i need to get out of the situation and face the facts, i was hoping just hearing it from internet strangers would help and it is.>>34856552you are right i should take a break, im just emotionally invested and its hard to think of a vacation without her.
>>34856553Thank you, its funny you say that she is nothing without me, her house is digusting, her clothes are often dirty and if it were not for all the things i have bought her she would have no nice things. I find myself laying in bed at night worrying about her well being but also if im just getting played and I know I am, I feel terrible all the time. I go to the stores and see couples and it just feels terrible. I do a lot, and I should not, fix her car, her problems, pay her bills, her food, I dont know why I feel like a complete moron. I have pushed away many interesting women who have been interested in me.thanks
>>34856548Different approach then: use some of this money to>Get yourself a therapist>Fill your time with other activities>Start meeting new peopleIf you choose to keep paying, for now that's fine. But you are no longer going to talk to her. She's stringing you along and it's hurting you. At some point you need to stop paying. But first, you need to mentally disengage from her and her hold on you, and get yourself to that point.
>>34856453>I'm paying around $700 a month to help her out with food and rent. But she won't go out with me.Why should she? She's getting what she wants without paying for it. She's not going to find many suckers like that.
>>34856993yea you are right, it just makes me feel scammed and stupid to believe her all the time. I am just lonely I guess
>>34857002That's probably because you are getting scammed and you are stupid. I wouldn't worry about it.
>>34856453Your venting? Are you the imposter or an engineer?
>>34857191Not his. It's the ships vent.
>>34856453>feel guilty that without my money she would suffer. I And she deserves to suffer but I guess you're some findom masochist paypig betabuxx cuck fetish guy so you'd rather suffer insteadCastrate yourself don't spread your self-defeating ideologies onto widdle kids
