I was kinda convinced all my life I'm a lesbian. My dad cheated on my mom, my mom told me to never trust a man, and men always felt like this "other" species I have no connection to.I met a guy who felt different from the rest of them, and we're now dating. We're about at the point of intimacy, but I don't know that I'm comfortable with the idea of sex with a man and making myself a victim like that.I considered alternative stuff, but none of it really feels as desirable as normal sex. Like what do I do here?
>>34857864Uh, just turn the lights off or something.Heh heh heh.
>>34857864mentally ill whore cunts like yourself should be avoided by the plague,hope that faggot leaves you
>>34857864Leave all young men alone if you’re going to be like this. The feminism shit is already hurtful and ruining other parts of their lives.
>>34857864If you genuinely like him and aren't being coerced into sex you're not making yourself a victim. Forget the labels you've applied to yourself and ask yourself if you, in this moment, want to be with him.
>>34857864Three easy steps to cure being a lesbian.Step 1: put yourself through multiple different forms of physical and mental torment to strengthen your willpower. Put your hand in a bucket full of ice for ten minutes a day for a few weeks. Punch a solid object until you can't endure it or your fists start bleeding twice a week. Play league of legends.Step 2: actively reduce all facial expressions you have to avoid emotional regulation and because facial expressions cause wrinkles which will make you ugly.Step 3: Resist all temptations to interact with your crushes in any way shape or form until you no longer feel crushes at all.Now that you have achieved enlightenment you can stop being an abberation of nature and finally have sex with a straight man.Or, here me out, you stop victimizing yourself for doing something as basic and ordinary as having sex with the opposite gender you dumb bitch.
>>34857864having sex with a man doesn't make you a victim, if you gave consent. use a condom.you can at least test it for science. if you find the experience repulsive, then you have your answer. it's not like you are bound to lesbian code order. if it is that bad, you can just never tell anyone it happened.
>>34857864This shit is called trauma, are you able to get that in your head by analyzing and meditating over it in order to solve it or are you just another dumb, irrational animal? Get therapy.>consensual sex as "making myself a victim"You couldn't sound stupider if you tried, that would be a gold medal in victim Olympics, do everyone a favor and stay away from men, specially that guy, if you can't have consensual intimacy without calling it rape then you shouldn't be around men, let alone raising a family, if you can't solve your trauma then get a few cats, date a woman and call it a day.
>>34857864I would say just talk to him about it, if you haven't already and if you think he'd listen earnestly. Personally if I like someone enough to be dating them, I'd much rather know about this kind of anxiety and try to figure out a way for them to be able to trust me, rather than them just suffer through it at the risk of feeling violated.Can you elaborate on what "felt different" about him?
>>34857864>I don't know that I'm comfortable with the idea of sex with a man and making myself a victim like that.You sound brainwashed and like you'd cry rape after the fact. Ditch that guy for his own sake and be a dyke please.
>>34858288>having sex with a man doesn't make you a victimI think OP means "setting myself up to be a victim of cheating" but expressed it wrong.
>>34857864>>34858331Reiterating since people are mostly just being mean to you but if you think he'd be understanding then I really do think you should just talk to him about it. You know him better than us but if he's a genuinely good guy I think you have more to lose by doing something you're uncomfortable doing just to see if you end up liking it, rather than just telling him about your hangups.
>>34858075Same! For mentally ill men.Everyone from horrible families should be gatekept from good relationships
>>34858140If I sleep with him, I'll be subjecting myself to having a man put stuff inside me and that idea scares the crap out of me because it feels like volunteering to maybe get an alien chest burster.>>34858288It makes me feel like a victim because I don't feel like I would have any power to end the situation suddenly other than him respecting my consent. That's part of why I like this man, I feel like he respects what I want enough that I'm safe around him. I'm just scared that everything my mother said about men will end up being true about this guy and then I'll have walked into something I should have avoided.>>34858331He wasn't pushy like most guys I meet. He was nice, and he didn't try to pull me into anything. It felt like he just enjoyed spending time with me, and I started feeling the same way. We've been close friends for a little better than a year, and we've been dating for about three weeks now.
>>34859140>He wasn't pushy like most guys I meet. He was nice, and he didn't try to pull me into anything.Ah the situation is suddenly becoming very clear
>>34858403thanks anon>>34859140i think you should discuss this with him. say something like you'll try it, but if you don't feel comfortable/aren't enjoying it/wtv to stop.hopefully i'm understanding this right.your mom sounds like she was either the victim of being with a bad person but not everyone is that way. you can't let her bad experience define you. just use the precautions.i've had intercourse that did not have a finish point because one of us wasn't feeling it. it happens.how long have you both been together?
>>34859140>That's part of why I like this man, I feel like he respects what I want enough that I'm safe around him.>He wasn't pushy like most guys I meet. He was nice, and he didn't try to pull me into anything. It felt like he just enjoyed spending time with me, and I started feeling the same way. We've been close friends for a little better than a year, and we've been dating for about three weeks now.Cute. I don't really have anything to add to what I already said. If my gf felt this way then I'd want her to talk to me about it. It would make me feel good that there was enough honesty and trust between us that she could talk about it.
>>34857864If your mom's reaction to your dad's infidelity was to teach you to hate all men instead of teaching you to be careful about picking who you shack up with, she's probably a miserable cunt that drove your dad away. You need to process that just because your dad was wrong doesn't make your mom right, and get on with heterosexual sex and reproduction.
If you don't want to have sex wtih him don't do it. Because you won't be able to take it back once he disappoints you
>>34857864So that's how a lesbian is formed? Le daddy issues
