Is there a name for that? The other day i was sick and a girl (we are not close at all, acquaintances at best) just gave me medicine for sickness, not asking anything in return, a pure act of kidness and now i just think about her. that cannot be healthy, right?
>>34869906limerence or limerence adjacent tendencies I suppose
>>34869914didn't know that concept, interesting
>>34869906This tends to happen when you're a loner
>>34869906>that cannot be healthy, right?Right.
>>34869906>Is there a name for that?Borderline Personality Disorder.
>>34869906That's temperament, it's who you are. You don't fix it, you use it and the best way to using it is to meet as many people as possible and to be amazed by them. People, if not narcissistic, feel guilty of being treated well and they attempt to make things easier for you, and among them there are some capable of reciprocating the feeling.Go meet more people.
>>3486991490% of /adv/ suffers from thisn.
>>34869906I agree with the earlier anon that this isn’t necessarily a weakness. I get attached to people easily too.You just have to meet more people and learn to accept that not all of your intense feelings will be requited.
Being clingy is such a curse.
today she spoke to me again, asking me if i was feeling better, being very kind and friendly. I know that i'm overthinking this and it's probably nothing more than someone just being nice but it deeply troubles and confuses me.
is she hot?
>>34870330Ask her out get rejected move on to someone else
What are the specifics of her approaching you?Out of the blue? Or did you approach her first?You shouldn't ever get your hopes up over just an interaction, but knowing how to tell genuine interest is important too.Don't be a fagtron and act if she is interested, be cool and don't sperg on her.
>>34869906It means you're a good person, like meAnd probably also had a mom that was both loving and very, very hurtful and rude towards you. Love is beautiful. Lack of experience makes this worse. I still fall in love easily at 30, but now it only happens if I allow it to happenUnless... Things happened out of my control. Such as the woman showing me what I think are signs
>>34872452>What are the specifics of her approaching you?>Out of the blue? Or did you approach her first?I was writing some work reports, she saw me, said good morning to me and asked me how i was doing, i told her that i was sick, she told me that she noticed because of my voice and then she handed me a box of medicine and told me to keep it, she was very cheerful the whole interaction
>>34872514>It means you're a good person, like me>And probably also had a mom that was both loving and very, very hurtful and rude towards you.that sounds accurate, my mom loves me, i have no doubt on that but she's quite childish, as a kid and teenager, whenever we had an argument she would behave more like a sister rathen than a mom
>>34869906cœur d'artichaut
>>34872514>It means you're a good person, like meyup>And probably also had a mom that was both loving and very, very hurtful and rude towards you.yup>Love is beautiful. Lack of experience makes this worseyupare you me? so what can we do about it? im in this exact dilemma too.
>>34870025how can i get love without the people attached to it?
>>34869906Yeah, it’s called creepy.
>>34872707I always carry cough drops to give to coworkers in need to make up for my autistic inability to make small talk, along with other random acts of kindness. She is not interested, she's just trying to be nice.
>>34872715>>34873561I feel you very much boys, I can tell you what helped me, it was mainly going through the pain of breakup many times, and through that, understanding that I'm not special and those people who left me weren't so unique that I wouldn't be able to find one again. I mean I know that you know this already, but it's not a logical proposition. Our hearts just remember what THAT specific person meant to us, and that's all we want. Just that person. It hurts and it sucks. Now at 30 I'm alone after my last gf of 5 years cheated on me and hopped ship with the cheater, who she's with until today two years later. So you could say my soft heart was absolutely fucked and shrekd after that. She felt no real remorse. I unironically recommend videos like thishttps://youtu.be/aQ80NqiEqJghttps://youtu.be/8hN8cVe3hzUI don't have mommy issues, it's just that I really love positive reinforcement and I need a lot of love in my life, these ASMR videos with a lot of personal attention really help me feel warm and loved, and it helps to decouple some of my need for love from others, and have some form of self sufficiency. Self love. When she says good boy I agree with her and feel good about myself. Of course none of this is a replacement for a real girlfriend, but getting a girlfriend is so so hard and I'm not sure if I'll ever get one again to be fair with you. So, this is a girlfriend on demand. Please be aware that not all ASMR is made equal, in fact, 90% + of it is total slop by girls who don't actually understand what real love is. They say negative phrases like "don't be tense, you're so stressed, don't think that you're lame or not important", they act condescending when they call you good boy as a humiliation thing instead of a coddling thing, and there are so many quirky chunguses who give you the entire "I'm an awkward gf/roommate/colleague you have to put up with, without any of the benefits of sex", so be careful when you're browsing good boy ASMR.
>>34876001I'll give you some more good videos I've personally listened to many timesThis girl gets it, this one and the previous video I linked are perfect: https://youtu.be/58l66dvI9QoThis video is different, the good boys are good, there's way more petting and caressing sounds in it though, which you may love, or may not care for: https://youtu.be/fU6wadl53U0This one was good, deeper voice slightly different vibe, more talking than just good boy which I sometimes don't like: https://youtu.be/_yS2nBi5jP8This one's my favorite once she stops talking about a minute in, but she generally stays very quiet, which is great for when you want it in the background: https://youtu.be/n4ekgRqR9RISo yeah. If you try this yourself it'll take you years until you understand your tastes and you'll run into so much bullshit until then and realize you've been listening to slop. I can recognize when the girl has that thing. That twinkle. That deep understanding that others don't have. 90% of these girls are not like us, so they don't say the right things because they don't understand what you want to hear because they don't understand your needs and soft heart. But the ones that do - it's like you're speaking on the same wavelength. And yeah if you're still reading this far, you're probably interested in ASMR, so I'll tell you my one and only favorite ASMRtist, in general, that's softlygaloshes . She understands love. Hope it helped someone. Don't feel ashamed, you deserve love
>>34876025Oh and about the last video - she's my favorite FACELESS good boy video. My actual favorite is asmrythm, from the first video I linked, and Yumi mommy
dont know wether this is ai bot post spamming/flooding or else>degenerated asmr vidsare not going to tackle the root problems we have>years for understanding interestsyeah your full of shit//not a coherent person if you dont know intrinsically what you feel or interests yourest im not adressing as i didnt even read, lmao even
>>34875973>she's just trying to be niceI know that, that isn't the problem
>>34876258I've always written like this, I'm not AI. Just a guy trying to share my very niche interest with others who will probably enjoy itAlso if you actually go and listen to ASMR, there are so, so, soooooo many different types of triggers, yes it can literally take you years to understand what makes you tick to know well enough how to not waste time on bad videos, which is why I curated it all for you
>>34876025I appreciate the intention but personally I cannot listen to ASMR, the whispering unnerves me
