I've been thinking about who I want to be and what kind of person I want to be with and my discomfort with both men and vaginas alongside my extremely geeky interests is paralyzing me to the point where I kinda just want to give up on dating. I wrote picrel in my journal and I'm wondering if I'm actually le enlightened 300 iq genius or the most hopelessly despressed man there ever was. Also when I mean dead I mean in 55 years. I am here for the long haul.
>>34871808so.. you're asexual? or what?
>>34871826I'm between a cock and a hard place where I'm only attracted to women/androgynous men but the only sex thing I like really is sucking cock and non anal ass related stuff (I really enjoy having my face sat on, is nice), maybe taking it up the butt but only for special occasions if whoever I'm dating wants to. I do enjoy being intimate, making out, that kinda thing but you could not get me to top. Too many bad experiences, both with anal and vaginal. So idk, functionally, kinda. Sex isn't the most interesting thing in the world. I just wanna be a good boyfriend and give my hypotherical significant other what they want.
>>34871844and whats the problem with that?
>>34871848I can't date without it going to shit! I can't give women what they want, I can't be with most men and I really don't wanna be a chaser and seek non op trans chicks. I have a very autistic and incompatible set of needs for a relationship that I'd rather not try and waste anyones time.
>>34871856and what do you plan to do about it?
>>34871869I laid out the plan. Just let whatever happens happen. If I meet the right guy or girl then great. If not, there is a whole world out there to see and creative endeavors to pursue. I'll have friends too but they will compliment my life, not be the reason for it. Or I'm coping and I'll go insane within the decade.
>>34871879sounds good to me?you could always just lay out a dating profile specifying your exact needs if you get desperate
>>34871808If you're not having kids then the other reason to partner up is resource allocation/efficiency of sharing and splitting stuff so there's always that.>>34871856What set of needs? Might as well try, other people waste your time as much as you waste theirs
>>34872536>the other reason to partner up is resource allocation/efficiency of sharing and splitting stuff so there's always thatDon't need that. The only other reason I want it is because it feels good to share a connection with someone.>What set of needs? Might as well try, other people waste your time as much as you waste theirsSee if I tried putting out a dating profile asking for only feminine/androgynous people woth a penis I look like a huge chaser and probably (deservedly) get posted in some local trans discord as a warning to stay away from me.
>>34872888Then just make friendsI don't see why you limit people you can share a connection with to just feminine people with penisesClearly something else is going on underneath that needs to be untangledSocialise broadly not narrowly unless you have a clear goal to work towards
>>34874295I do have friends. But it's a lot different. Friends have their own lives and aren't down to spend time together a lot of the time. It's actually appropriate to do romantic gestures for someone you're romantically involved with. The homies are never cuddling with me. Fuck I'm missing having someone just talking about it. See what I'm getting at?>Clearly something else is going on underneath that needs to be untangledFor sure, I'm in therapy for this now.
>>34875023That's not too unheard of but you'd have to find someone down to do that for life and forsake reproducingAnd most of that stuff just naturally leads to sex just as part of the "romantic" package.
