Thing is they werent even that good of a partner but i genuinely liked, accepted them and was ready to love them. theyre 28 with no job, on disability, living with parents, with a porn addiction and a cum carpet, said how many things they wanna do yet never do em. Lies about his values and is a hypocrite attention whore. Why do i still like them? or feel compassion towards them? I know these things but but for some reason still doesnt work
some attachment style thing most likely, you seem anxious and he seems avoidant
Mae West said in like WWII, that the best way to get over someone is to get under someone. In modern terms, you move on by moving on. Look, every romantic relationship is destined to fail except the last one. That wasn't a fulfilling relationship. It was practice, anon. That's all. You learned about some of what you need to have in a fulfilling relationship. You also learned some of what you don't need or want. Practice. It's time to let yourself internalize what you've learned, and improve yourself, to move towards becoming someone you can be proud of, and you do that by working on being better and progressing towards meaningful goals. It's easier and better to do this alone without bad relationships killing your focus and attention. Good luck.
>>34872671Yeah thats kinda what it is, thing is he made me anxious, i didnt use to be like that.>>34872699>It's time to let yourself internalize what you've learned, and improve yourself, to move towards becoming someone you can be proud of, and you do that by working on being better and progressing towards meaningful goals. It's easier and better to do this alone without bad relationships killing your focus and attention.Good luck.This is a personal issue of mine, it definitely is easier progressing without someone that makes you worrisome and makes u lose yourself. Thanks anon, Ill try my best to not worry for losers and become more than they ever could
>>34872662>Why do I still like him?Cause you invested a lot of time and energy into him. At this point though it is a sunk cost fallacy.>compassion towards themYou can still love someone whom you breakup with. Just recognize the best way for you to love him is to cut him off.>reason still doesnt workThe mind cannot be a tyrant over the heart. Otherwise the heart rebels and you get stuff like this.I know you will fly much higher than that loser anon. Just believe in yourself
>>34873133Don't forget your SSRIs on your way out ni99A
>>34872671Wouldn't anxious and avoidant be perfect for each other though?
>>34873254LOL abilify aint no ssris >>34873285When he didnt make me anxious and was just withdrawling at the beggining i did kinda like being the one to iniciate and give because those are my traits, the dynamic wasnt really a problem whatever it was. I only can tolerate so much in other fields.
>>34872662You still like him because you don’t have anyone better and he’s just the only one there. If someone better came into your life you’d literally block someone like him and forget he existed, that’s if you’re lucky. People like him damage females, and will cause you to end up in therapy or something. Who the fck has a cum carpet or gets disability but lives with their parents???? Df. Think about it. Go find you someone that doesn’t need porn, know your worth because idc how you look, you deserve way better than that.
>>34873672>Abilify>an atypical antipsychotic medication used to treat mental health conditions like schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, major depression, and irritability linked to autismit's literally over (for you)hope you didn't go to a doctor to get diagnosed. you could have asked me instead
>>34873698>If someone better came into your life you’d literally block someone like him and forget he existedAs long as the relationship is good im not going to leave. It just wasnt on many levels>>34873705middle school kids sniffed it out before you bro, u get 2nd placeThx yall
>>34872662You think you can fix him? Or you think you don't deserve better cuz you suck too much urself
>>34874351I didnt think about "i can fix him" at the beginning. I genuinely thought hes cool, we are similar in manners its rare to be simmilar in + ones i was looking for and are important to me. For example thought process, values ( i thouht, even if then hes a hypocrite), general look out on life and many important things, interests, ,media, humor, fetishes. I genuinely enjoyed spending time with him. sadly we are both kinda mentally ill and his mechanism is to show it down, repress and ignore it till that weed and jerking off doesnt work and hes even more mentally unstable schizoing, trying to repent. Those affect me too obviously which desu was one of the main reasons why i got mentally unwell. after like 3 months i got anxious and 2nd time he got an eopisode like this we broke up. i did think we could work on it at some point cuz i was loyal and loving towards him but he really didnt care about me this time and there were more problems, i was still loyal though. I did konw better this way even if it hurts. He will never get better. its just a shame we were so similar. i never met someone with a brain as close to mine as his
