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Hello so I just got out of the mental hospital for seriously considering shooting myself but anyway while I was there:
>met a man who is 14 years older than me and he is hot as fuck
>he needs a place to live after he gets out
>I currently rent a 2 br apartment with the help of my father who lives in another state, and no roommate.
>I'm going to go insane being alone every day as I was before the hospital
>I offered this man to live in the 2nd bedroom.
I am very attracted to him and probably going to fumble but he is somewhat attracted to me as well apparently according to some things he said and did. But since I am autismo, I will definitely fumble. He gets out next week and I'm already nervous as fuck but I do have some ativan and alcohol which may help.
Opinions of this plan, and how do I not fumble?
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what the fuck did i just read
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>>34875750
>how do I not fumble?
Just put out, make him food or if you can't cook get him take out and don't behave in an obnoxious way. That's pretty much all you need to do.
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>>34875750
Make those schizo babies. The only real way of fucking this up is you not giving him any attention.
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>>34875764
Kek
>>34875768
How do I ensure that I am not obnoxious? i have severe anxiety, although it will go away after some time together.
>>34875769
Bet
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>>34875773
Don't be loud or disruptive. Give him his own space and don't be too clingy.
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Do you all think I could get him to have sex with me? Or do you think he will think I am just a baby
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>>34875777
I'm not loud or clingy at all so that should be easy.
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>>34875750
girl you do realize hes just gonna be happy to have a place to stay and get some young pussy, right? literally nothing else will matter to him.
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>>34875782
Your age? Btw it's going to be both those things you mentioned.
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>>34875787
Hmm.
>>34875789
I am 24 and he is 38 kek
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>>34875794
Yeah that's fine. It would have been different if you were 18 to 20.
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>>34875782
He gone want dah pus, especially if he's been in the big house.
>>34875805
Nah man it would be better if it was a bigger age gap ;)
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>>34875794
>hmmm
yes, consider your self worth for a moment, daddy issues aside.
give him the pussy and as long as you get something out of it as well you got nothing to worry about
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>>34875805
if it was the man here asking then you and 99% of the other redditors on this faggot board would call him creepy
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>>34875815
I've never done that. Aggressively arguing age gaps from any side is just off putting to me. I suspect you have done this though.
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>>34875810
Wait why do you say that he would want it more if he was in jail
>>34875812
Yeah, I guess I actually am considering that comment. I don't want to be taken advantage of, but idk. Maybe I'll think on it a bit more.
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>>34875817
>I suspect you have done this
what kind of dumbfuck logic is that? no, I have been subjected to it. I have been the man.

>>34875820
>I don't want to be taken advantage of
you said you were attracted to him tho. so it seems mutual.
but yeah think about it. just letting you know you prob got nothing to be nervous about
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>>34875750
>Opinions of this plan
It's a terrible idea. It means you can't break up with him without making homeless, so no matter how badly he treats you, you're stuck with him living in your home.
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>>34875836
Okay, if I do decide to back out, how would I do it? Him and I are already planning on it. Although hypothetically if there were any issue, he probably could move in with his mom.
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>>34875828
>what kind of dumbfuck logic is that? no, I have been subjected to it. I have been the man.
Whatever, if you can't survive some internet moralizers, it's on you.
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>>34875852
just stating that they exist here and in droves and with moral double standards.

>>34875841
just tell him you changed your mind

did we just talk some 38yo anon out of getting pussy? lol
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>>34875820
>>34875810
I still want this anon to respond, I'm extremely curious.
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>>34875841
You say "I'm sorry, I've changed my mind." That's all that's needed.
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>>34875878
I already said, that retard kun.
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>>34875872
He gonna wanna bang you being younger is a plus have you seen what a 38 year old woman looks like?
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>>34875897
Yeah but what does jail have to do with it lmao
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>>34875901
Idk didn't you say he was in jail?
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>>34875903
Well in your earlier post you said
>He gone want dah pus, especially if he's been in the big house
I never mentioned it, but yes, he has been in jail.
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>>34875911
Yeah it means he has extra spunk saved up from being in jail.
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I'm going to shit myself in nervousness.
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>>34875918
I suggest a cigarette.
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>>34875922
I've been puffing on a geek bar like crazy. Kind of faggy, I know.
I also took some ativan and gabapentin, hoping it kicks in soon.
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so OP are you gonna bang him or not
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>>34875935
You sound so gay talking about all those drugs but I would clap your cheeks like my life depends on filling you with creampie
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>>34876034
A lot of insane asylum people have a weak sense of self and are easily influenced. That's what seems to be happening here.
>i want to bang him
>oh maybe not
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>>34876068
OP you should bang him
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>>34876034
>>34876039
>>34876068
>>34876102
So bit of a change of plans, he is actually moving in with his mom, but he said he wants to see me the day he gets out of the hospital, he wants me to go to his house. Does this imply sex.
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>>34876314
if sex happens or not is almost entirely at your whim. are you stupid, woman?
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>>34876314
Did he say he's going to be alone there?
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>>34876314
It implies rape maybe. But maybe you're into that.
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>>34876324
Lmao, yes. I understand it's basically at my whim, but I'm just asking if that means he wants to fuck. Also, if this is at my whim, there is no way I'm not going to fumble unless there is alcohol. My anxiety is insane.
>>34876326
I don't really remember if he specified, I'll have to ask him later and can update. Maybe around 7 pm.
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>>34876332
Wait whoa what?? What are signs he would do that? What would I even do?
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>>34876333
you could always ask him instead of us. a wink or putting your hands on him usually does wonders.
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>>34876339
Not gonna be bold enough to do that without some kind of substance.
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>>34875764
Mentally ill people wanting to feel what normal people can
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What should I wear when I see him? I don't want to be tryhard, but I want to look nice.
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>>34876351
Just wear your usual clothes. He is not going to care if he wants to have sex with you since you will take them off anyway.
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I'm starting to worry, what if he is just trying to fuck and then never talk again? Are there any signs I could look out for that say this is the case?
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>>34876446
How has he behaved towards you until now?
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>>34876446
yeah after fucking cuddle and make him some food and then say see you next week
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>>34876455
Idk how to explain. He has never done anything to seem dishonest, but I've been fooled by people in the past so maybe I'm not such a good judge of character.
When we were in the hospital, he always hung out with me, sat near me and wanted to talk about life and give me advice. He said he would step in if someone tried to fight me there (there was this dude that was paranoid that everyone there was conspiring against him and was trying to fight people, he thought I was a spy lmao)
There was a moment that him and I were talking, someone came up and asked about my age and he said "she's legal" lmao
Him and I also basically held hands, and he was looking down at me and was smiling, it was really sexy
Can probably give more detail if you'd like.
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>>34876446
You don't actually need to have sex on the 1st date. Mind blowing, isn't it?
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>>34876333
Why can't I get a mentally ill cutie to bang? Looks are truly everything

>>34876351
Post yourself in scant clothing you fucking whore, give us something
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>>34876501
I know. I have problems saying no honestly. I mean, maybe he won't try to do it on the first day anyway.
>>34876506
What do you mean looks are everything? And post yourself then pussy.
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>>34876511
>I have problems saying no honestly. I mean, maybe he won't try to do it on the first day anyway.
But not having sex on the 1st date will probably make you more desirable. It will signal to him that you're not easy.
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>>34876513
So how do I say no? I mean also, what if I'm horny myself lmao
But you're right, I probably shouldn't do it. I guess if that pisses him off, I shouldnt hang out with him anyhow.
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>>34876480
It also depends on what sort of mental issues he has. Could influence his behavior.
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>>34876446
>what if he is just trying to fuck and then never talk again?
I imagine that's his plan, yes.

>Are there any signs I could look out for that say this is the case?
Wanting to come to your house for sex before you've even gone on a single date.
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>>34875750
what concerns do you have happening?
does he have any problem you've noticed past the lust goggles?
why is he in the asylum?
what are your problems besides autismo?
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>>34876519
In what way?
He has depression, anxiety and PTSD.
>>34876523
He didn't specify he wanted to have sex. He said he wants to hang out, smoke and make food.
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>>34876527
As of now, mainly afraid that he will try to fuck and never talk again, and trying to figure out if that is his plan. I'm calling him later, so I can ask him questions if any of you have ideas that may help clarify this.
He was in the hospital bc he was suicidal.
I'd rather not specify my problems, but I am unwell, lmao.
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>>34876528
Well if he had a personality disorder that would tell you something, but if it's just neurosis it won't have an effect on this issue we're talking about. If you want to see whether he wants you only for a one night stand, go to his place without planning to have sex. If he initiates tell him it's too soon. If he gets irritated and stops talking to you because of it he only wanted sex.
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>>34876333
it doesn't imply sex. when you're fucking at your parents, you have to mute the noise levels quite a bit.
>>34876351
it's a dude. doesn't matter. if he's living at his moms at 30 whatever, you'd really have to play limbo to go below his standards.
>>34876446
don't fuck the first 'date' outside loony land.
>>34876511
>problems saying no
you should practice saying no or you will be treated like carpet. don't be stupid. jfc you're totally fucked. if you have 0 boundaries, even nice people will learn to treat you like shit if you have 0 standards.
can't wait to read your future thread next week.
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>>34876534
if you're too pussy to say no irl, you should tell him your wants/needs on the phone before this happens.
if you say on the phone, no sex and he starts acting like a manchild, then that's your red flag that you're dealing with a future problem.
how people react to stress is how you best read their character. how you create these scenarios is by having standards. if you have no standards, then a human acting like a monkey will start to seem normal to you as you adapt to their abuses.
the only cure after that is years of therapy or self-help, so it's better to have solutions now than discovering symptoms to a decade old problem later. 8)
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>>34876548
>>34876543
But what if I want to fuck?
Not saying I definitely will, but......
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Y'all just messing with her tiny mind at this point. OP do what you want to do.
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>>34876580
If you want to fuck then fuck. What are you asking lol.
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>>34876511
>What do you mean looks are everything?
I mean you're fawning over this "super hot guy" because he's hot, you're using your most basic brain to determine attraction, nothing really matters about him as a person so long as he's attractive. everything else is cherry on top.
so that's what I mean with looks are everything.

>post yourself
I don't have a banging body like yours, post body
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>>34876580
do you need instruction to unzip your pants? why are you here?
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>>34876592
>>34876625
I'm just scared to be taken advantage of at this point, but feel like I won't be able to control my horniness.
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>>34876699
you are inviting a grown ass man you just met in the looney tunes town to live with you, you'll be lucky if you don't get raped and murdered you fucking moron
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>>34876732
KEK you right desu
Yeah but he won't be living with me, there was a change of plan, he will be living with his mom
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Everyone, I have devised a new plan, I will drink to take the edge off before calling him, and I shall straight up ask what his intentions are
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>>34876699
You're scared of going to his house and you wanted to live with him five minutes ago... Something tells me you're not good at making the best decisions.
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>>34876742
Is his mom hot? Like a GILF??
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>>34876732
>pic
>>34876699
>i'll be raped
>i'll be unable to control my horniness
>>34876750
it's good you're separating your drinking problem from your horny problem
please keep us updated.
can't wait to hear the followup
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>>34876752
Yes, I am horrible at making decisions, and have made horrible decisions which led to me feeling as if I have become retarded somehow, and also led to being one of the reasons of me wanting to shoot myself.
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>>34876770
Accurate and understandable image
Well I never said I'd be raped. Other people said that and I asked how to tell if that would happen. But? Is it possible for him to rape me if I want to fuck him so bad?
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>>34876756
Never seen his mom yet. She is 80.
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>>34876774
honestly just ask chatgpt to make decisions for you, it'll be better than you making your own retarded decisions
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>>34876781
Imagine that 80 year old puss
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>>34876782
I have started doing that a bit, however it does not always work against my extreme urges to do retarded shit.
>>34876785
Chris chan be like
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>>34876778
yes. rape is sex without consent. you still have to nod your head. he can't go to court and say she mentally wanted it but said nothing. that would put him back at the starting point to the loony tune board game.
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>>34876796
I like your gifs and images
Do you post on /int/? its my main board I lurk on. now I have a habit of wanting to know what country posters are from.
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kms
i'm drunk now ama
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>>34876826
show us your bare ass
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>>34876852
Nah, I'm not that much of an attention whore
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I GOT TO TALK TO HIM HE IS SO SEXY
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>>34876916
feet then
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>>34876926
Nah not a footfag..............
Fix yo brain
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He said we can take it slow
Opinions?
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>>34876802
like once a week there. dk if i understand the board culture yet. usually /out/ /pol/ /x/ /v/. i'm from pnw.
>>34876826
i'm glad you have a sense of humor with your retarded decision making. you sound girlfriend worthy, but you have such incredible low self-worth i'd be worried about your future
that sends out a tractor beam though, that will be a strong call for bad daddies
i really hope your lack of a father figure has some concerns to your actions rn cause i don't think we can save you from yourself
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>>34877019
well how slow do you want to take things? you get to be in the drivers seat.
i wouldn't open the jaws until you feel comfortable. is this your first?
im glad the liquid luck worked. how drunk are you rn?
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>>34877038
What do you mean is this my first? Sexually? If so, it unfortunately is not. I have a lot of regrets.
I'm quite drunk right now. I am identifying heavily with Tony Montana, which is a sign I drank a lot.
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>>34877045
just wanted to make sure you weren't totally green going into this. i'm sure you were in a bad place and this guy was nice to have around.
the one thing to keep yourself open to is when you date someone at a big age gap like you're in, you will inevitably find yourself at a point where they are in a different life stage then you either mentally, physically or spiritually. it will be an obstacle in the relationship
i've been in your shoes where i ended up dating someone with an age gap like yours, so i'm not just pulling this out of my ass
especially since you've both just gotten out of the funny farm, make sure you're in a healthy place a year from now just because i'm seeing a lot of red flags with the premise of this story.
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>>34877074
What are the red flags?
I'm blind to a lot of these things, due to my severe mental illness.
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You sound like a nympho. They always have these short bursts of high energy and interest with some guy, fuck once or twice, get bored, and move on until they're blown out. Am I right? OP what is your body count?
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>>34877080
large age gap
mental illness with both parties
you don't seem to have m/any standards
>i have problems saying no honestly
imo but considering fucking on first date
are you going to be drinking on the first meet?

you're willing to listen to take advice, which is better than 50%+ of the anons here. but like i said, you need to be able to stand up for yourself. there will inevitably be conflict. psychologically if someone is weak it not only attracts people that take advantage of them, but also people that are otherwise normal will overstep your boundaries without knowing (and get use to it behaviorally), because you didn't say anything.
does this make sense on planet krunk?
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>>34877035
Why do you say I have a lack of a father figure?
I mean we talk over the phone, but I agree he is not here. I'm alone.
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>>34877085
I'm a nympho? Lmaooooo. My body count is below 7, but I do like sex.
>>34877102
I don't want to be weak. I don't know how to change.
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>>34877116
if i was your dad, i wouldn't allow you to date someone 14 years older from the booby hatch...
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Just so you all know, I am ashamed of having more than 3 people as my body count. I know I am a nympho but I love sex. Maybe it's my mental illness, which I will not specify.
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>>34877126
Yeah, my dad don't give a shit lmao
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>>34877122
you're lonely, so you often have lower standards and low self-worth thinking you're not worth it. trying to kys pretty much proves this.
if you have low self-worth/low standards, you're more likely to say yes since you've convinced yourself this is the best you can get.
when someone asks you something you don't want to do, what is your thought process? they're not going to like you if you say no? or something else?
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>>34877129
3-7 seems normal with the times.
this is people with a body count of 0 making a big deal with anyone over 1. these same people are waiting for the unicorn trad wife that don't exist, because if you don't marry by 18 chances are a functioning mans cock antenna is going to take them places.
the only stats that have any backing is risk of divorce increases after 1.
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>>34877122
>>34877129
So who cares? What is this fucking thread? You've been around the block plenty and you're still acting like you don't understand why men and women get together. What the fuck is this? Yes, this mentally ill man with low standards will fuck a mentally ill woman with equally low standards. Thread over. And don't even start with the pity party or the woe is me shit again. If you wanted to do better or wanted to stop fucking randos or bad men you wouldn't invite a literal mental ward patient to your place, holy shit.

You have your answer. Get out of here already. This whole thread is just OP activating and prolonging her neuroticism, firing up the ol' crazy neuron networks she's established. This is what you really need to start dealing with if you want to stop being mentally ill and making regretful decisions. Stop being impulsive and manipulating yourself into getting inebriated and doubling down on fucking ward patients. No fucking shit he's going to hit and quit it. You are both crazy as shit and the ONLY outcome with this is a hook-up or a dysfunctional relationship, period. Get your fucking shit together before you worry about getting laid again.
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>>34877141
>when someone asks you something you don't want to do, what is your thought process? they're not going to like you if you say no? or something else?
Yes, I get scared that they will get mad at me and never want to hang out again.
I just got off the phone with the dude, and told him how horny I am for him. He said he was scared that the phone was going to be recorded and listened to so he was scared to say anything because I look like a minor irl. But in reality I'm literally 24 so idk.
What time is it in pnw? I'm in eastern standard time. It's 9:51 pm.
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>>34877165
>You've been around the block plenty
Are you trying to say I'm a hoe or what?
I made the thread because I want opinions and advice.
I can't ask "friends" because they will just reprimand me for talking to a guy older than me.
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>>34877175
You're no saint, obviously but that isn't even the point of my post. And you know it, so don't be focusing on that to avoid what I did write.

Your dumb ass is here freaking the fuck out over what a psych patient thinks of you and worrying about "fumbling it" with a mentally ill man you only like for his looks. Instead of focusing on getting the help you need and keeping up with whatever services I'm sure they offered you, you have somehow come out of it finding this attractive man as a good coping mechanism / distraction for your condition. Him being older has NOTHING to do with what's wrong here. You think either of you have what it takes to do anything but fuck around? You're gonna have a serious relationship with him when you are both unstable enough to get admitted? Are you serious? You're over here hoping you can keep a ward patient "locked down." Your priorities are entirely fucked, and you need to get your own help before fucking around with more unstable people. I'm assuming this is a pattern for you and I am telling you if you want to stop making bad decisions at every crossroad, THIS, right now, is where the road splits. But choose to add another mentally ill body. Stay the same, what do I fucking care. But all this shit is clearly a distraction, and you are setting yourself up for more regret. Don't say I didn't warn you.
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>>34877203
I see what you're saying. Can you clarify what steps you think I should take to get out of this, because you are right, it's a pattern, and I'm very unwell. They didn't give me many resources, however. I already have a therapist and psychiatrist, and the groups in the psych ward were shit, basically just playing jenga and coloring pages.
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I am so horny for this man. I wrote this:
"he's so fucking hot I can't take it. I hope he has a big dick. I'd suck it like crazy and make him feel good. Then he could fuck my pussy and cum inside. It'd be so fucking hot. I'd do leg lock and push him in with his back. I'd take his cum and moan for him."
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>>34877214
I'm not a doctor, I don't know what's wrong with you, but you have to catch yourself and take control. At the end of the day, YOU have to stop making bad decisions. Therapists and all that can only go so far. If YOU don't take it seriously and don't actually restrain yourself, nothing will change.

It's possible you have a therapist that just placates you and keeps you coming back for a steady income. Maybe you HAVE the help you need and are failing to actually try and change-- like you're using the excuse "I have a therapist so I'm getting better!" without actually meditating or exercising any of the imrovement pracitices they give you. I don't know, but deep down you do. You know where you are falling short on getting better. If you're not plain retarded you have the capacity to recognize patterns. What you need to practice is the capacity to correct them.


You seem to escape into the fantasy of sex with men you find attractive to an extreme degree. Probably deep daddy issues, but what do I know. There's some deep validation you're chasing with this insane horniness for a stranger, an idea. It isn't grounded in reality and I'd wager most of your poor choices before haven't been either. You have to stop giving in to every pleasurable fantasy that comes to ease your pain, and deal with it somehow. That's all I know. The only way out is through, and it seems to me like you're avoiding something instead of dealing with it, and this thread was just made in hopes of validating another bad decision to perpetuate that
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>>34877214
don't live with this guy and certainly don't fuck him
if someone needs major life changes, as you both do, i'd give a person 6 months minimum (and more like a year) to fix their shit. it's way harder for someone to fix their shit when they're already getting what they want (pussy).
look at this anon for an example on how motivation works >>34876740
he won't fix his situation in life, because he's already getting what he wants (a comfy life at home). he won't fix his problems at college, or take the steps necessary to fix his life.
>psych ward, therapist psychiatrist
most of this is bullshit. a therapist is just a friend to reflect your thoughts back to you when you have none. you're here because standards weren't instilled in you when you were younger. so far you haven't demonstrated a mental condition besides rotting because you have 0 direction in life. the drugs they give you scripts for is bs too. they hypothesize what you have, and then you see stats that xyz has had a mysterious increase of 2000%. in many cases the meds will fuck your life more than fix it.
>>34877171
3 hour diff. 19:31
>>34877223
you are so screwed. we're watching you walk into the ice cream mans van
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>>34877253
>The only way out is through, and it seems to me like you're avoiding something instead of dealing with it, and this thread was just made in hopes of validating another bad decision to perpetuate that
Accurate. I feel like I truly am doing these things to avoid my pain. I don't let myself cry or feel feelings unless I drink. I just want to be "strong" but it's impossible.
You seem to have a lot of very good insight, so thank you. I just don't know how to break out of these patterns. I always tell myself I will, but then I do it again and again.
What country, if you don't mind me asking? (Just some autistic interest)
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>>34877265
>so far you haven't demonstrated a mental condition
Time for severe flaming, but I have BPD which seems to not go away no matter how old I get.
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>>34877266
stop drinking. there's a line people cross from: drink whenever -> only with friends -> never (no self-control)
you already knew your friends would say to run for the hills, because it's good advice. you need platonic friends to talk to right now, and not this. it's the 21st century. buy a wand if you want to jerk off.
>>34877275
i see anons say they have everything under the sun, and 90% of them seem like bs to me. your brain is prob fried from drugs and poor decisions, which has led your dopamine receptors to be nullified to this point.
you don't have much going for your life based on what i've read, so while it may feel like you're just at the starting board, you're deep in a trench.
you don't want to be your bf at 38 back at the cuckoos nest. his trench is much deeper than yours, and right now you're looking down to it and not up out of your own.
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>>34877266
You have to act. Stop giving in to every little impulse-- discipline yourself. That's what strength is. You don't want to be weak? Weakness is giving in to temptation, from yourself and others. If being strong is being resilient, then it must be cultivated. It is not something you are born with and it is not something a pill can give you. It's like hitting the gym or learning a skill; it's a practice in repetition, and what you repeat, you master. This is why people struggle to change and break bad habits, it becomes what they know. You have to start with something small. Regular exercise does wonders.

I am in the time zone you mentioned earlier, so we live in the same country. No, I will not meet up with you. Good luck. I've written all I need to here.
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>>34877290
>you don't have much going for your life based on what i've read
I mean I have a degree, but not sure what to do with it yet as I don't enjoy the jobs I've had with it, contemplating studying something else. But yeah, I feel like I might have a shitty life going forward. I'm just going to keep interacting with sus people and doing dumb shit. I don't know how to break out of these patterns.
>>34877295
What if I'm too scared to start? First step is saying no, which I am terrified to do.
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>>34877312
Hey, chiming in for that other anon - I will meet with you. Please drop your discord, I'm here for you and I'm down to be your friend/lover/sex slave/whatever else you want. I'm really good at sweet talk, coddling you, praise, I'm genuine as fuck
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>>34877326
Idk, I don't really make online friends very well, but thank you.
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>>34877312
you need people that will give you a reality check. i'd like someone to tell me if i had a big zit on my face or noticed male pattern baldness or acted out or whatever.
you're obviously avoiding that since you're not bringing this up to your friends.
when i dated someone older i didn't tell my parents for years, and with that decision, i cut off any disagreeable opinion. it was a mistake just like you not telling your friends here >>34877175
what's your degree in and what jobs have you worked in?
what do you want out of life? money?
>first step is saying no, which i am terrified to do.
you could start right now by telling mr. man that.
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I feel like I scared him away because I told him about my ex who still wants to be with me and maybe he thinks I'm a hoe now.
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>>34877331
Dude, the friends I'm talking about literally criticize everything I do and make me feel like I'm a retard. They are one of the reasons I started feeling suicidal, because they convinced me that I've become retarded.
I mean, at least some of the things I do are reasonable, but they criticize everything I do.
My degree is in social work. I have had case management jobs and they are too much for me to handle.
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>>34877330
Damn, okay, well I wish you the best. One day I'll catch a pretty girl like you and I'm going to treat her well <3 good girl
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>>34877344
>bpd asylum vet
>social work degree
checks out.
>work
what do you enjoy doing that you think you could do for work? you already have the degree, so going back in sounds redundant unless that job requires that specific degree like a doctor.
>friends like taking shits
that's standard for friends. grow a thick skin or find new friends. 38 isn't a friend but a future fuck buddy.
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>>34877358
Tbh I want to start studying to be a vet tech.
And no, those two friends are condescending assholes. I will not talk to them again.
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>>34877381
so... do you have any other friends?
are you going to try and fix your shit to be a vet tech, like drinking, suicide and whatever else is putting you in the asylum?
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>>34877400
Nope.
And I am hoping that my upcoming job which starts on monday (working as an aba tech in a school for kids with special needs) helps improve my life, but if it doesn't, we shall see what happens with my bpd filled relationships.
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>>34877408
I wish I could fill you with my cum
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>>34877415
If you were him I'd let you.
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>>34877408
what takeaways have you gotten from this thread so far?
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>>34877440
That I am crazy and seriously need to make changes regarding how I see and go about things.
But despite that, my main worry is what he thinks of me right now after my last phone call with him. Which in reality, there has probably been no change, but I have convinced myself there is. So, I feel like there is nothing anyone can do about my mental illness.
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>>34877424
Fuck. Put me in the asylum, I'm so fucking ready baby, I would cum inside you so deep your womb would get nice and full
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Me rn
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>>34877481
I'd say some stuff but I'm scared I'll get in trouble with mods so I'll not say anything.
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>>34877480
with that in mind, what's it gonna take for you to tell this guy no?
you're not crazy. you're just a retard.
>>34877481
mr hyde there's a million horny people on >>>/soc/ you can talk to.
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>>34877504
I mean I'm drunk right now, so as drunk me, there is no way I would not fuck him, probably raw as well.
However, if I were sober, I have no clue what I would do or how I would go about the situation.
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>>34877512
you def need to stop drinking. i don't think you can be helped like this.
i'm gonna wait till you sober up if we talk again.
good luck
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Why do y'all say I have daddy issues? I mean, I talk to my dad over the phone. Does that qualify me to have daddy issues since his not physically here? For the past eleven years we have been in different states.
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>>34877515
Okay, maybe next week.
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>>34877512
>>34877522
I hate fe type of males so much.
YOU HAVE EVERYTHING LADY, LIFE IS ON EASY DIFFICULTY FOR YOU, YOU'RE STILL HERE FLEXING ON A BUNCH OF THIRSTY LONELY MEN? GOD, BACK TO THE ASYLUM!!
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>>34877518
>For the past eleven years we have been in different states.
That's why you have daddy issues.
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>>34877223
Only a man would write this.
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>>34877512
>as drunk me, there is no way I would not fuck him, probably raw as well.
>However, if I were sober, I have no clue what I would do or how I would go about the situation.
Then, as someone much older and more experienced than you, let me give you some advice: never have sex with anyone while you're drunk, unless you're enthusiastic about having sex with them while you're sober. If you do, you'll feel terrible afterwards.
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>insane story
>parents not around
>suicidal
>getting strange man you're attracted towards to move in on short notice
Are you a woman, or a troon?
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>>34876934
my brain is fine. wake up and realize that your whole body is (can be) pretty not just your boobs
silly woman
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>>34877035
You don't understand board culture and you're not funny
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>obvious bait thread
>over a hundred replies
every. time.
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>>34878240
How is that bait?
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>>34878131
Needed to be said t b h
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>>34877504
tell me where exactly on soc im actually supposed to find horny girls. they dont exist on 4chan faggot
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>>34878772
Tbf he's a name fag faggot but... I hate to say it, niggers hate to hear about this one simple trick, but truly there are so many whores on soc just waiting to make you cum.

Source, not exaggerating, have done it with over 100 women FOR SURE (this is the I'M SURE 1000% number) from soc in my 30 years of life
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>>34878795
didnt soc only came about like 10 years ago
where do you find women on soc from europe
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>>34878798
I find women from Europe, from USA, from everywhere. I'm from EU myself. One of the secrets to get your foot into the door is to make a good, short ish post with honesty on who you are and what you're looking for. Focus on yourself as a person first, then your interests, and not all interests should be listed (no one cares that you love x music or read x book, say something more wholesome than that).
Let. The. Women. Add. You.
Don't add women yourself, it is a waste of time.
Sometimes I make a post saying how I'm a man who loves to love, loves deep conversations and genuine connections, and a bitch comes by who needs that. And 20-60 minutes later she's squanching her snatch to my voice and makes me cum all the way above my shoulder. Be genuine. I'm not misleading anyone, and not forcing anyone. They (high interest, compatible girls) come to me. It can be this way IRL too, except you need to be hot and need an algo that accepts you



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