how should I feel about my situation and what can I do?>2019>work in a city>sister buys a small average-price house in my hometown>she moves next state over to live with her rich husband>ask boss to wfh>move back to rent sister's house>ask sister how much I need to pay>doesn't tell me how much mortgage is but asks me to pay X>says she will be renegotiating mortgage to pay even less>says a condition of my living there is she, her husband and their young kid get to visit occasionally>move in>she tells me that she now expects to visit every second weekend>a weekend becomes Thursday to Sunday>mom is retired and lives with her partner>sister visits and occasionally has meltdowns over minor shit (e.g., spilled some juice in the refrigerator)>says my mom needs to come clean for me>refuse and she calms down>next year leave my job for various reasons>dumb thing to do financially but whatever>use savings to cover rent>eventually find another lower paying job>mom has an argument with her partner and has another huge breakdown>sister calls to tell me that mom is moving in>drive to mom's house>she's on her knees trying to pull a DVD player from the wall>she has enough money to buy her own place in cash and says she's looking for somewhere>instead redecorates the place, spends 20k+ modifying it>obvious over time she has no intention to leave>meanwhile house price has doubled in ~5 years>sister she tells me I couldn't afford to live in a house worth [high post-covid price] anyway>mention to mom her moving in has made it more difficult for me to e.g., meet someone (she didn't ask if I'd met anyone when moving in)>she says my dad bought a house at my age in the 70s, why do people my age have phones, maybe I should have met someone when I was younger etc>still paying 1/3 of my wage on rent and bills>rent too high to move out unless I share with strangers
just stop paying, you can do that with no consequences if theres no contractwhat is your sister going to do? kick you out? lmao
>>34878062>how should I feel about my situationYou've got enough problems dealing with how you *do* feel, there's no point in worrying about how you *should* feel.
....So what's the actual issue? Boundaries? Seems like you're frustrated by the lack of privileges and personal space you have. The expectation was that you were part owner with part owner freedom, but it seems like the reality is that it's almost like living with your parents as a child again. Your mom moved into your sister's house and as an independent retiree (presumably not spending her partner's money), dropped over $20,000 on fixing up the place in her image. Type out the full number, take it in. Is she paying rent, as well? She really hit you with the most typical boomer spiel to shame you for being broke - unfair in 2026, but you seem to not take it to heart, whatever. It is pretty much the harsh reality: take the "family discount" plus its (usually shit) quirks, or roll the dice on roommates to continue living where you desire. They might've also used you as someone to occupy the house while it rose in value. Your sister seemed concerned with any accident that might lower its value (juice is a little much), then your mom presumably raised the house's value with her little modifications. Is the husband actually rich, rich? How financially stable is he?>>34878116 this if you wanna stay thereOtherwise, move out, or try to make a play where you suggest to your sister to sell the house, put in the effort to profitmaxx, and take a cut to find your own place
>>34878357Thanks man, that makes sense.
>>34878062How rich is your sister?
>>34878062You should probably move to a different city
