How do I get rid of all my fetishes?I feel like I got dealt a god awful hand with my fetishes, even the one I was born with (and I don't know how I got that one, too, because it's a body part and I hear all the time that there's a sort of cross-wiring or whatever because there's that strip of the brain with all the body parts and this one is almost the furthest away from the genitals which makes no sense, and I know I was born with it because my groin was feeling funny about it since I was little).They're all either weird or illegal and I've had them all for most of my life. I can't talk about them with any sexual partners 'cause they'd think I'm a massive creep or deviant or monster in the making, and even the "normal" ones are just too embarrassing and weird to tell anyone about. I envy normies and I wanna start at zero and be able to get off to regular things.How do I do this? Not jacking off does not help I have tried. Not looking at porn and prayer also has not worked. Please help.
Share them with your girlfriendRepressing it just sounds like its making it worseHow bad are they? It some point shes gonna find our your dark side
>>34900916I don't have a girlfriend. I broke up with my boyfriend of three years last month, and the ones I did tell him about he laughed about and said he wasn't gonna participate. I don't blame him. I couldn't tell him about all of them.The ones that are weird are pretty weird (only one is more "mainstream" but it's still gross for most people), but the ones that are illegal are bad. Like, really bad. More than a couple years in prison bad. Not noncery thank God but still.
The cool thing about the brain is the more you try to directly fight it the worse things get. Some level of 'pressure release' is normal with sexual shit.Have you tried artistic expression or finding a kinkier and more accepting person? Guaranteeing there's someone out there hornier than you for weirder shit.
>>34900985Do you mean pornographic stories/art by artistic expression? If so, yeah. That's the main way I engage in the illegal ones, writing stories. I watch animated videos with some of the others, especially a couple specific ones.Finding a kinkier person might help a bit, but I honestly don't think I could get off on a role-play of the really bad one. I can't really get off to porn where it's an actor playing out the scenario since I know it's not actually happening. I've tried. That's also what disturbs me. I can get off to fictional stories but when real people are involved I just can't get off if it isn't real.
>>34901020Ok that's assuring that there's nothing wrong going on. What gets you going gets you going, indulging artistically is fine, it sounds like you still had a decent 'above-board' sex-life with an ex, and unless you're actually going out and acting on illegal and harmful thoughts - which is a different problem entirely - jack your meat, don't think too hard, and get some dopamine out of this miserable existence. Life's too short to be ashamed of yourself for being you.
>>34900907Gotta get specific buddy, what exactly are you into? We know feet, which is largely normalized these days, but what about the "learned" behavior?
>>34900907Just stop watching porn. The point of porn is to slowly warp your sexual taste and break down your inhibitions starting with the most fundamental aberration of all, homosexuality.>Not looking at porn [...] has not workedYou haven't gone long enough. It does work, but you have to abstain for a long time, months to possibly years depending on how long you've been consuming it. You probably went a couple weeks max before giving up. It takes up to a month to first feel the effects of quitting porn and several months (minimum) after that to rewire your brain back to normal. It will happen but you have to commit and struggle through it.
>>34901096Yeah, I would never go out and actually do the illegal ones. Thinking about actually going out and doing it makes me a little nauseous. Thank you for your help.>>34901157Raping men. Violently, and with an expressed lack of consent. I've been into that since I was in the single digits, I'd read superhero comics and imagine tying up and raping the male characters I liked. I'm into non-consensual somnophilia (somewhat separate from the previous one, in which the guys are conscious) and I've also been into that since I was a kid. I'm a sexual sadist, which I guess you could tell, both consensually and non-consensually, and often to the point actual physical injury (branding, whipping, biting until I can taste blood, choking men with belts until they pass out, etc.). I'm also a voyeur, been that way since I was little too but that's small potatoes.The non-illegal ones are straight weird; I've been into uvulas since the day I could comprehend what it was when I was looking at it, and I'm into vore by extension because they tend to overlap but I can't get off if it isn't the back of a human's mouth. I'm also into men pissing themselves, but I think that kinda overlaps with the sadism a little because I like it generally but I also like the idea of men doing it because they're terrified a bit more.I feel like shit listing them.
>>34901293But what if these happened before my exposure to porn? A lot of them I've been into since I was very young. I don't know if watching porn can help me get rid of ones that seem like they were built into me or were just dormant in me until I found out.
>>34901297you've been hanging out in the wrong circles dude i'm like shocked at how unshocked i am by that fetishcon non-con is a thing these days, you just gotta find you a freakier daddy
>>34901323I can't get off on CNC, that's the thing. The knowledge that the person is actually consenting genuinely turns me off and I can't get into it. Porn, IRL, all of it.
>>34900907You won't get an answer from /adv/. You need to talk to a mental health professional.
>>34901333That's quite a pickle. I mean if you really want to change it then >>34901828 but I personally think you're doing fine. It's not that off-the-wall of a fetish, you're keeping it legal, keeping it consensual, and using porn as a safe outlet... I'm failing to see a genuine issue quite honestly
>>34901297Just sounds like some glorified revenge fantasy, like ur inadequate in urself and feel weak n powerless n at the mercy of other people and this is ur way of reclaiming power n control that you've been denied. The sexual stuff is just, maybe you feel sexually inadequate or something so that's why that's the theme of it. But ya sounds more like a social inadequacy spawning these cope fantasies rather than you just enjoying it on a purely sexual level. So fix ur social retardation (thru exposure). Armchair take but that's the direction it sounds like. Uvula is just blowjob tier boring deepthroat another assertion of power n dominance ig, same theme extended. Just my interpretation. The fact it has to be on men and not women also points to, idk you feel low on the hierarchy and that's how you avenge urself. Just my head Canon, in the end seems like you consume too much fiction and just need to turn screenshit off and interact w realshit til it makes sense again
>>34901828I'm already in therapy, but I don't want to tell her about it 'cause I'm worried it might be above her pay grade. Maybe I should seek out a sex therapist. IDK.>>34901914Thank you. I just feel like something is innately wrong with me since a lot of these have been with me since day one. People have normal sexual development and shit, but I didn't 'cause it's normal for little girls to get excited about raping grown men and that's how mine started, at least the illegal ones. It's like something's wrong with me from the jump.>>34901946Your thoughts are appreciated, trying to understand it on a psychological or unconscious perspective makes me feel better. I think you'd be right in some aspects but I don't know if me being female changes them. I do have low self-esteem. You're probably right that I gotta turn the screens off for a bit. I didn't have any friends in my life except my ex but now that he's gone I should probably go out and make some. Thank you.
>>34902015Quick correction 'cause I can't word things properly to save my life>it's NOT normal for little girls to get excited about raping grown men
>>34901946I agree
>>34900907>They're all either weird or illegalCan't be that bad; post them
>>34902362Already did here >>34901297
>>34902384Are you female or male?
>>34902015Bit harder to understand if you're female (seems like things only a creature with a penis can do) but maybe it's a reaction to being wronged? If less sadistic it could be interpreted as just playful n rough? But I think it's easier to deal with if you're female. Females do have the privilege of, they can just exist, not as harsh performance requirement. And yes screenshit distorts, best to get irl XP before engaging in the screenshit misinfo everywhere. Def get some real perspectives from variety people like candid casual bypasser to anyone closer and not just screens. Untangles stuff more effectively I think
