For years you've been giving me "advice" and it changed nothing in my life. I am still the same old piece of shit, I fail at every single thing I try, love, academics, hobbies, sports. What you people need to understand is that some people are just beyond saving. Only recently I realized that what I need is not advice, what I need is to kill all hope inside me, that fucking useless hope is what makes me cling to life and continue to suffer even though deep down I already know it's all for nothing.
Baww waaahhh waaahhh. Whine whine whine. If this board sucks so much then go live your own life and generate your own advice.
Ask AI for advice. Then stick a live chicken up your ass and blow your head apart with a shotgun.
>>34907025That's my point, people like me don't need advice, we need to be told we're going to be a failure forever and that we need to kill any hope of becoming better, your advice only prolongs our suffering by tricking us into thinking we can actually change. WE FUCKING CAN'T!
>>34907033Then why the fuck are you on an advice board if you don't want it? >>>/b/ is right there for all your inane ramblings.
>>34907033Youre going to be a failed male foreverIm guessing you still have vip access to moms basementWhen are you going to devolve into trooning out or suspending your wings into rope?
>>34907021The board is useless, only because the only people who populate them are those deep in shit enough to be asking for advice of one kind or another. Then those failures stay to put down whoever else is having trouble.I know time will go on eroding everyone's lives. I know the modern world is so demanding nobody has time to help others, even if they get paid for it. Despite everything you're still alive, the ability to be happy is real since you see it in others and there's really no big difference between you and them. Being subjected to what you've been would weaken anybody.I can only offer advice as far as I have reached yet, everything you say is still solvable in some way, in some, ways that I yet don't know.>LoveDo forced activities like club and studying with people, learn their culture like an anthropologist would, and tap into things you love to reach out.>academicsTake your sweet time, just make sure to build a solid network of causes, don't hold lists of more than 4 subordinate concepts. Use anki for rote memorization, but mostly focus on things your actual work will be about.>sportsGo to the gym consistently, even if you do few reps, lift the highest weight you feel safe, for stretching hold the muscles you'll use for 40 seconds to strengthen tendons and avoid injuries, and run fast for progressively longer times, keeping your HR above the orange zone for 30 minutes at least every time. Eat a restaurant steak or an equal amount in fish of chicken every day, without minding the cost.>t. perfectionist loser
>>34907033You can change, the problem is that you won't. You simply refuse to better yourself. But the option is always there, all the time.
>>34907050Because I still have this fucking hope that someone will magically appear with some magical advice that will make me change, but it's time to accept that I CAN'T change, I need to kill all hope inside me.>>34907122Did you just fucking say what I thought you said? I refuse to change? I've been trying to change for 12 fucking years, 12 fucking years I've been miserably failing every single time, now you come here to tell me I haven't even tried? Open your fucking eyes, some people CAN'T change, some people will always be a failure, what you need to give them is not advice but the cold harsh reality, you need to put it in their heads that they either have to accept the suffering for the rest of their lives or just put an end to everything, those are the only options for people like me, we have no happy ending, we will always be pathetic, there's nothing wrong with giving up under these circumstances, it's the outcome we were destined with unfortunately.
>>34907162You need to accept that you're a whiny faggotSeriously, even at my worst when I was two steps removed from suck-starting a .22 I wasn't nearly as bitchy and moany. Life sucks, bitching about it to anyone but your therapist just reinforces that fact and makes you and everyone else around you feel like shit. Either ask for some advice or go touch some grass. But quit whining, I'm not going to read all that shit
>>34907162You either weren't trying or you misapplied your effort in such a way as to render your efforts meaningless. There's no such thing as a person who tries to change, works towards that change, and then fails to change. The reason being, that there's nothing standing between you and your own behavior. You are your behavior, and the way you behave is inherently geared towards what you love most. What you currently love most is ease and self-indulgence, so that's what your behavior gravitates towards. If you loved responsibility, dutifulness and prosperity then your behavior would take you in the direction of those things. In all likelihood, you spent the last 12 years trying to change your behavior directly without changing what you love first. Essentially, you never actually convinced yourself that changing would be worth your effort.
>>34907162Hey dude, I spent 20 fucking minutes writing >>34907077 to summarize my hard fought progresses for you. Instead of feeling grateful you pick fights with trash losers negging you.Would it make you feel more energized to call you a piece of shit so you pick a fight with me, or would you think it best to learn to sift through shit talk and specially get away from stank shitholes like this board?Get a grip man, you're getting fucked over because you're on your emotional edge.
>>34907033Why do you need to be told that if you already know it? Are you such a meek little cuck that you literally need someone to tell you to give up? Your issue is you are a lazy fagot who wants everything to be done for you. You even want someone to fail your own life for you. Do you seriously have so little autonomy that you need someone to tell you to be a NEET? Did you need someone tk tell you to make this gay ass thread on 4chan too?
>>34907190they speak wisdom
>>34907190This is /adv/, we don't read the actual advice here. It doesn't bump my BAWW thread as much as the ragebait.
>>34907077>>34907190I was in a class when you wrote that post so I was just skimming through the replies, now that I'm at home I can reply properly. You seem to be a good guy, your advice is sound, and yet it changes nothing. Let me tell a bit of my story so you can understand how hopeless I actually am.>LoveThere were so many girls that loved me in the past and I disappointed every single one of them without exception? Why? Because I'm simply mentally ill, autism, paranoia, schizophrenia, whatever I have is simply extremely off-putting to the opposite sex. It always follows this exact same pattern: a girl likes me, we start going out, then either I become scared of the commitment and stop talking to her or she simply loses interest because of my unpleasant personality. This is simply something I can't change. On top of that, nowadays I just don't feel any motivation to meet new people so I can't even form new connections. I simply failed at that.>AcademicsTake my time? Wanna know how long I've been in college? 8 years and I still didn't graduate. I always get depressed halfway through the semester and simply stop studying, happened so often that now I'm in this fucked up situation. And to think that I dreamed of doing a PhD and becoming a professor, that's already a closed door for me.>hobbies/sportsI can't even succeed at that. I started playing the violin then I simply stopped practicing and by now I can't even play a single piece in it probably. I tried becoming good at e-sports and I failed miserably, I fucking fail even at videogames. It's honestly unbelievable how pathetic I am.And again, all of this is nothing new, I've been living the exact same routine for 12 years now, the exact same mistakes, the exact same failures, everything I ever tried has amounted to nothing. It's just time to stop deluding myself and accept reality, I really can't do anything about this, this is what God or fate decided for me, I'll always be a pathetic loser.
>>34907021Oh fuck off, I can 100% guarantee that this retard has made no effort to use any advice given past a week at most.
>>34907643>There were so many girls that loved meNo girls loved me, The only ones who got crushes on me were dominant bipolar bitches while I had oneitis my entire life. Some have come to meet who you are, none have come to me. Your problem is you blame yourself for every shit and women want someone to be chill. This is your hardest problem so stop expecting it to be solved immediately.>8 yearsI studied 8 years of medicine even though I hated it. I did 2 years of residency and dropped out. I NEETed and did 1 year of programming to find out I hated it and years after not practicing, i know fucking nothing to be employable.You've been years in college, my college got fucking deleted. To become a PhD is a stupid dream, it should be enough for you to hold a job and buy shit, stop trying to be a superhero. Yet, you CAN still be a professor, and the advice I gave you IS what you need to do to hold all the bullshit information. I can't be a doctor anymore, becoming a professor in a shithole, or even a fucking english teacher could be my only future for me. I started playing the violin as well and couldn't progress beyond the first position, I joined a music club when I was starting college but I was so shy I quit. Now I can't sightread, but the path for that is to learn to sing. Also you must make a mental scheme to understand scales, modes, the sound of intervals like fourth and fifth, the cyclic nature of scales, the tetrachord etc. Youtube teaches all this shit wrong and you need such an autistic focus to learn, so I didn't invest in mastering it, but I'm aware of it. Playing the tin whistle that has a fixed scale allowed me to get a foothold, and moved on to flute next. You don't need to be a master unless you earn moneyI'm 31 now nigger, You are Me when I was starting to fall, I am You when you'll be getting back up. I really hope it doesn't take so much fucking time to get back on your feet because I had nobody to help me while I'm here reaching out to you
>>34907033>WE FUCKING CAN'T!You could if you wanted to, you don't actually want to though is the thing.>>34907196Beautifully said. OP even sucks at being a loser somehow, which you'd think would cancel out and circle back around to being a positive but apparently not.
>>34907643>she simply loses interest because of my unpleasant personality.I'm confused here OP, are you implying you're not in control of your own unpleasant personality? That you don't have the capacity within you to simply be less unpleasant?>I always get depressed halfway through the semester and simply stop studyingThat's also on you. Not the getting depressed part; that's natural and human. But it's on you for not punching through anyway. Do you really think abandoning your studies and then treading water for 8 years is going to reduce your depression?>And to think that I dreamed of doing a PhDSo you're too depressed to study but you want to basically study for a living?>I started playing the violin then I simply stopped practicingSee above.>I tried becoming good at e-sports and I failed miserably, I fucking fail even at videogamesSo why not just play non-competitively? Most adults who game use it as a way to relax and have fun/blow off some steam. You're just using it as another thing to stress about.Instead of looking at hobbies/sports/video games as something you "fail at", you're supposed to just do them because you enjoy them. You can't fail that...and if you don't like what you're doing, try something else.>>34907721You have a good heart anon. I'm sure you don't want or need pity, but it's a lot easier for me to feel sorry for you than it is to feel sorry for OP. But I'd advise you not to waste too much of your breath on him.
>>34907021seek therapy and help from a licensed professional, not randoms online. I don't know where you live but in Europe it's covered by free healthcare.Don't throw on this sad excuse of an attitude and get all nihilistic. It's lame. There's always something to live for.Take it from someone who has been abused, raped, molested, robbed, bullied relentlessly for years, cheated on multiple times, neglected emotionally by my mother and emotionally abused by my alcoholic father since I was a kid - there IS always hope and something to live for. If I figured it out on my own and learned to stay strong and perservere despite whatever has been happening around me, so can you. It's in the realm of possibility for every single fucking person. You have no damn excuse to give up.You don't know how many times I thought about ending it. Sometimes everyday for years on end. But I never did. It's for cowards.Go offline. Go out into the real world. Go to a rave, to a bar, to the gym, or even a pottery class. Do something about your life and yourself. Give yourself purpose because no one will serve it to you on a silver platter. Find someone or something that keeps your gears turning, that makes every day worth waking up to. If you sit around thinking all day you'll get more and more depressed. Don't dabble and wiggle in your own misery because it won't get you anywhere. Ever.Stop surrounding yourself with negative shit, stop going on this website and stop feeding into your own misery.Sadness makes you feel comfortable because that's all youve known for the past years. The human brain fears change. Be stronger than your animalistic instincts and LIVE. Go on and LIVE. Do something crazy, do something fun. Alone, scared, doesnt matter. Just do SOMETHING.Sorry if this comes off as aggressive, but you need to WAKE UP. You need to OPEN YOUR EYES. BREATHE. LIVE! STOP THINKING ABOUT HOW YOU'RE FEELING ALL THE TIME. STOP CARING WHAT OTHERS THINK. YOU ARE THE SCULPTUER OF UR FATE.
What’s ur question ? Sounds like ur a fuckup that’s just come to terms with being a fuckup , not the worst thing in the world ..
Thanks for making this thread OP. I needed some motivation and watching others give up always gets me going.
Eat 200g of protein a day. I promise you, if you do this for a month, a lot of your problems will go away.
>>34907798Thanks for the inspiring words anon, my mental health has completely crashed. I'm dealing with daily fucking panic attacks, insomnia and agoraphobia. It's absolute hell but I'm not giving up. I'm scared my heart will fail before I'm able to rewire my broken nervous system but I know you're right and facing it will be the only way out. It's nice to know not everyone on this board is a bottom bucket crab.
>>34907021I don’t understand how people like you even exist. You’re not fully human to me. You lack the agency of a fully sentient being. You are more like a house pet trapped in a human’s body. Go find someone to serve. You might actually find happiness doing what you are built for.
>>34907029Can I get some advice on how to stick a chicken up my ass?
>>34908598>It's nice to know not everyone on this board is a bottom bucket crab.The fuck?He told you the exact same thing everyone else did, asshole.
>>34909030Suck my cock.
While OP and the other anons are bitching about the 21st century, I'm over here enjoying life because I get to live as a human being.
>>34907021Well instead of asking internet freaks with the same or greater problems as you, time to get professional help for real. Posting here evidently has been a completely fruitless endeavor and the definition of insanity, etc.
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>>34907077:popcorn:
>"why is this board giving me bad advice?!">proceeds to browse this board for years for more advice...You only want attention.
>>34907029unironically ai will probably give better advice than this board
>>34907021Its not really the board that failed, but you bunny
>>34907021Trust the plan.
>>34907021have you enacted any of the advice given thoif you come here to get advice but never enact some changes you'll never see resultsalso, changes take time, if you tried one day, didn't work out and went back to your old self that doesn't countno one told you it was going to be easymost people here need a change in their habitsand habits are hard to beat and to change, it takes at least 3 months of you doing something consistently for it to defeat the old habit and become the new habit.
>>34907021My intention is not to help you, i'll be real with you.Also, you already know what you should do, so someone telling you what it is won't change anything. There's something deep, sub-conscious and unconscious holding you back. I'm not here to fix that.
>>34907798Probably one of the most real and helpful posts in this thread. Been lurking and looking for actual advice, thanks anon, bless you.>>34908286Lol..
