Well if you have a history of beating them it seems they're willing to have kids with you before learning your full name.
So I guess beat them.

>>34909220
This seems to mean a lot of things to a lot of different women, in my experience
>some mean they want a guy to be big and or strong
>some mean that they want to feel emotionally safe in sharing literally every little thing without any judgement
>some literally just feel this way around any man. You ever seen a short ugly lady who mentions feeling safe with her tiny husband who looks like he equally couldn’t do shit? It happens.
>some are more talking about confidence and they want to feel safe in your ability to handle whatever comes up
Sometimes they mean a combination of all of that but it highly depends on the context and woman.

>>34909220
Just don't yell at her or smash objects or punch her or threaten to punch her that's the basic standard. Then to make her feel safe you just comfort her whenever she is sad or afraid. It doesn't even need to be grand gestures just little things that add up. Like catching a spider in the house when she freaks out, or if you watch a scary movie together let her squeeze your hand etc.

>>34909306
Lmao retard! women will gladly date or marry a crazy thug psychopath who beats them as long as he is good looking. They would much rather do that than date an average dude bellow 6 foot. Matter of fact, many women go for the "bad boy" traits because they want a project to work on or they like the rush they bring.

>>34909220
Never show neediness or clingy behavior.

>>34909346
How can I avoid that? I've always had issues with that after opening up emotionally and being vulnerable

>>34909371
Have friends and women that you talk to at all times. If your life is empty and you're just talking to 1 girl then you would require some abnormal level of stoicism that most people don't possess.

>>34909383
Good point actually, thank you. I guess having projects or interest/passions would do too, right? I'm a person that gets overwhelmed by people often and I can only stand to hang out with introverts

why is safe in quotations man

>>34909383
" If your life is empty and you're just talking to 1 girl then you would require some abnormal level of stoicism that most people don't possess."

what does this even mean?

>>34909220
They tell me im easy to talk to and end up sharing way more than they should.
I usually dont take their problems too seriously and laugh along. It must be like child psychology, where if a kid falls down and then looks to see your reaction. If you make a serious, "Oh no" face they are likely to reflect that energy and start crying for attention. If you smile or laugh, they're more likely to relax and laugh along.
Something about humor (or a sense of it) is the perfect dispelling of tension, which is likely why comedy is the first victim of political correctness. Not even saying im funny either, but just listen along to other people's bullshit like the dungeon masters speaking with a smile and not like the center of the newest scoop of drama.
I imagine the same rules apply if someone is nervous around women. They see the energy and have a reaction to it thats on the more serious spectrum than lighthearted.

>>34909328
Nta. Op didn't say anything about dating, retarded jeet. A lot of women love dating guys they don't feel safe with.

>>34909222
>incel seethe from the first post
Impressive, also nice wasted trips.

>>34909736
NTA but it's pretty clear what he means.
He's saying that if you have nothing else going on in your life, you'll more than likely glomp on to the first girl that gives or reciprocates any attention, and overwhelm her. Girls hate neediness and want to be with a guy who likes her but also has his own things going on. That can be friends, other girls you're talking to, your hobbies/passions or any combination thereof.
It makes perfect sense from the girl's perspective too when you stop and think about it for a second.

>>34909220
In my experience being emotionally warm and willing to listen, as being someone able to physically protect them are the 2 major factors that make a woman feel safe.

Being friends without trying to date them has lead girls to be authentic and open with me, which I reciprocate in kind. You reach a level of real understanding past the superficiality that we show the world and become known to one another; to be known is to be loved, and things progress from there.

>>34909220
I'm 6'3" 240lbs. I look like I enjoy the occasional homicide, people don't fuck with me ever. Wife feels safe.

>>34910175
>to be known is to be loved
Very well put, how can I learn to be warm when I had to become colder to endure shitty family situations, bullying and the world's harsh treatment? I still have a lot of resentment lingering

>>34909220
>when he isn't the kind of person that only focuses on himself, and actually notices if something happens to you
>low inhib enough to get angry if you get disrespected, intelligent enough to not start actual fights over it
>"let me take care of it"
>"don't worry about it"

>>34910232
It's going to feel like larp at first and it will be hard work, but become the person you wished you had in your dark days. That resentment doesn't leave you, but it's your decision to let it burn you up and destroy you or to let it light the fire under your ass and motivate you to be better for it. Eventually the kind words come naturally, the smile stops feeling so forced and you feel the light come back to your life.

I was beaten, neglected, bullied and shown first hand the cruelty that humanity is capable of; by all accounts I was on track to be just like my father and that's exactly why I chose to become warm and to become kind instead.
There was a time I let that anger for everything guide me, where I drank and got into fights, stole, lied, and let the silver tongue I inherited from the man I despised take me down his path. I was textbook Machiavellian and wanted all the money, power, booze, women, fast cars and status a man could get; and by all accounts I could get it if I wanted it... But it never filled the void and I never felt better living like that. It took a lot of introspection, a little reading, some philosophy and a genuine desire to be better for the people who really loved me to start that change. I'll save you the bullshit and skip to the real realization that changed me.

Be the person you wished would have saved you from your woes. Sounds simple but that's all there is to it. The friend you wished asked if you were ok, the brother who made you dinner when your parents weren't home, the voice of reason when you were buying another bottle. Be the good you wish you had in your life, I promise a lot of good follows. It's not easy, very fucking difficult in fact, and that asshole you've become never fully goes away. It's not a straight line forward and you'll regress sometimes, but if you're committed to it you get through it and keep moving forward.

Difficult but rewarding; I'd be lying if I said it wasn't worth it.

>>34909220
>What makes a woman 'feel safe' with you?
Not doing anything that makes her feel like you might hurt her.

>>34910286
Thank you very much, it's very similar to The Golden Rule (Treat others the way you would like to be treated) which makes perfect sense, it's prevalent across so many different cultures that one ends up thinking that there must be something like an objective truth and that principle might be it

I also wanted to congratulate you on pushing forward, it's hard to look into the void and not want to jump directly into it after witnessing how messed up people are and choose kindness over the desire of getting some sort of retribution

Keep going, keep fighting against all what's wrong in the world

>>34909220
Being emotionally accessible. A turtle outside of his shell, willing to bite and be bitten. Modern women hate emotionally repressed guys. Even the most obnoxious emotions are better than polite colorless inhibition. That's why so many women like niggers, because niggers wear all their feelings on their sleeve.

>>34910293
Women don't fear wall punchers and fistfight starters, they fear cold blooded emotionless high IQ sociopaths.