I have a bad habit of meeting women I like but who are likely not good for me to date. Even though I like them. I have met 3 women now whom I like being around, find them attractive and actually legitimately enjoy spending time with them. However, they are all likely awful for me to date.Woman 1: Amazing woman in my opinion. Fun, attractive, thoughtful. Issue? She has 3 children between two different men. All 3 of the children have some developmental disorder. You probably wouldn't date her right?Woman 2: Great woman. Great cook. Funny. Issue? She is 43 and I am 33. That seems like a massive age gap and I'd like to have children at some point. You wouldn't date her right? Woman 3: Woman I am most interested in. Great qualities. Issue? She lives like 3 hours away and is a incredibly dry texter. It feels like I am pulling teeth out just trying to communicate with her. What can I do? Realistically, I probably shouldn't date any of these women. But I am not exactly meeting tons and tons of women to date. I just need a retard check. Dating ANY of these women would be full maxxed out retard right?
You should score the dry texture off your list to begin with because she obviously isn't interested in dating you.
>>34910062If theyre a good fit id look past the issues to see what you and they can work with.My main rule is making sure you dont get in an unbalanced 70/30 situation where youre putting in most of the effort. In other words make sure theyre not looking for a savior to get fat and lazy to.When you help raise kids you also have to grow up super fast because the center of the universe is always the kids (and no longer you), especially if theyre retarded.Is woman 1 stable? Does she have a job? Are you willing to accept the kids? Is she willing to let you make rules in the house without you being forced to be second in charge?With woman 2 id ask yourself if youre willing to have kids quickly with her. You have a limited amount of time to get your shit together. The biggest problem with age gaps to visualize is the 2 of you may be in different life passages at some point. At 60 she may be in cognitive decline while youre camping in the back country at 50. Is this something you can live with? Same as woman 1, does she have her shit together? Stable job?How is woman 3 in person? I can relate to her since I hate texting people and just tell them to call me. If thats your only interaction is texting then the other anon is probably right that shes not interested.Its kind of hard to determine if someone is worth it until you live with them.Obviously if youre helping take care of someone's kids the woman should be able to help provide for your life too in other ways. The one other thing to think about two is visualizing you having a kid and then the woman's kids as a step parent. You have to remain unbiased juggling 4 kids from 3 different dads. That can lead to difficult situations especially if either the dads are still involved or the woman thinks you are taking sides.So what are you willing to live with in these situations?
You're not forced to date someone just because you like them.
>>34910123Now that you broke it down like this. I don't think I can date any of these women and keep a honest heart. I do like them but I do believe our lives are too different. I am actually really bothered by the woman with multiple developmentally disabled kids. I feel sad even saying that. Makes me feel like a jerk even though I didn't do anything with her or lead her on etc. Thanks for the advice and helping me take a step back and really observe and think about my options.
