>>34912772
You misdiagnosed your own issue. You just want a girlfriend and you think that will be achieved if you're just nice to women.

I'd say only be nice to women you're genuinely interested in and ignore all the others. But don't let them take advantage of you kindness towards them.
For example don't give an hour long ride to a girl that isn't your girlfriend.
You can obviously be a nice person towards them but seriously don't go out of your way to do something for a girl that isn't even your girlfriend

>>34912790
>>34912790
>You misdiagnosed your own issue. You just want a girlfriend
hmm i dont think i do? im not sure
i just feel less than most people and i have to prove myself to them
which in return makes me insecure and hostile sometimes

i just want to get over how my mom made feel, the urge to make her proud which seeped into every relation i had in general, with grandma, female friends, sister and my ex

i feel like i have to make them love me idk why i cant be content with myself

oh my god that's exactly how i want my son to treat me...if i ever have one...

>>34912878
Hmm well in that case you might have some real trauma. Try to ask yourself why you feel less than females?
Is it because you feel guilty for what your dad did to your mom and you're the same gender as you did therefor you must now try to set things right?

If you can figure out why you feel this way you might be able to do something about it

>>34912988
because i felt like my mom never tended nor really cared about me hence the "unstable"
i always felt i needed to prove myself and her love was conditional

so the forms of showing my "loyalty" was either by being better at school, polite, subservient or blatantly being a "therapist" to cheer her up when she was crying, sad in general