How do I cope with my mom's extreme disdain for me?My older spent an hour cussing her out and making her cry calling her shit like materialistic bitch whore and she just says in response "I'm worried about you I love you" unprompted I tell her "hey mom I woke up a bit sick today just warning you so we can prepare properly" and she literally tells me to go eat shit and that I'm possessed by a devil and I have a bad mood.I don't understand why she's so snappy and dismissive with me even though I'm the one taking care of both her and dad and always treating them with respect. Meanwhile my dad will call her literally a bitch witch and she'll have tea for him ready in 5 min. My brother will threaten violence cuz she dared to cook the same meal 2 days in a row and she'll just meekly agree and tell me to buy food for him. If I don't do it I get threats of being kicked out.Meanwhile my dad has gambled about $3 mil adjusted for today's inflation throughout his life and my brother has spent $10k a yr on average on various gacha games and does shit like buy $1400 smoothie maker (all with parents money of course) and buys multiple switch 2s and multiple copies of the same game. My dad spent $90k on him the past year alone.I bought some PC fans for myself I forgot to return and it was about $60 of my own money and my mom calls me a money waster and I shouldn't ever buy anything.I literally found and got my mom a high paying job and I constantly do things like free tech support, take care of the yard, handle legal and contractual affairs, etc. and it means nothing to them. If I act slightly assertive, it's threats of being homeless, meanwhile my brother lives in a $4500 a month luxury apartment on the other side of the country.My dad doesn't wash his hands after shitting and will put used toothpicks and mouthwash on the table yet I'm called filthy by my mom.Feels like all their faults are imputed on to me. I can't handle the gaslight, can't afford moving either
>>34915653Typing errors cuz phonefag and word limit
>Feels like all their faults are imputed on to me.Your brother and dad treating you nicely?
>>34915653Your mom is a bully. I've noticed that bullies shit on polite people while showing respect to people who treat them like shit. Some weird psychology but not uncommon. Try treating her like she treats you and find out how she reacts. It doesn't have to be extreme but just try pushing back a little for a while. What do you have to lose at this point?
>>34915653Has it always been like this? Do you have any other place you can stay? If I were you I would move out and cut them off
>>34915664No dad treats me like a loser and brother treats me like a defective servant Dad tells everyone he knows "my son is weird and unconfident and he has no job, please help him" behind my back and when I had a job he kept telling everyone he's worried that I'm not a millionaire yet. brother had Internet issues when he was living with us and I told him to call the ISP and he said "no why can't you do it retard" and coordinated with my parents to get me to fix his internet issues under threat of expulsion Constant humiliation ritual and my mom helps both of them do it and she even enjoys it
Just move out.
>>34915679Yea always been like this unfortunately and unfortunately have nowhere else to go. Everyone just fucking hates me or pities me or wants to use me.My mom would force me to tutor rich kids and lend them my PC. Those same kids got jobs at places like tsla and amazon and when I asked them hey remember me they just told me to fuck off. Parents spent their whole life training me to be a cuck essentially and everyone around us knew what was going on and took advantage of me. Add inheriting my dad's asperger's and my mom's neuroticism, asthma, having a weird name growing up (thanks mom), and my dad moving away from a rich neighborhood to a hill billy area cuz he gambled all his money away and burned bridges with rich friends and you get me just being bullied my whole life
>>34915697Well, sorry to say but the only piece of advice I have is to play your local lottery and if you win ghost them.
>>34915678I've tried copying my dad/brother mannerisms and I even mimic their voice to signal what I'm doing to my mom as in "see this is how they treat you and you love them, I'm doing it too" and she has a violent hair trigger and threatens physical violence I wish, like many here I'm sure, I could just move out and live comfortably alone but I got laid off and I can't afford to even if I got another job. Im at 900 apps in the last year so far and nothing
>>34915653It's probably because you're a loser and it is the inevitable destiny of losers to get bullied by Chads and Stacys.
>>34915702>and I even mimic their voice to signal what I'm doing to my mom as in "see this is how they treat you and you love them, I'm doing it too"Uh yeah don't do that. Duh. Also move out. And don't try to tell me you can't get a job or get enough money. That's a bullshit excuse.
>>34915653My advice>let the dead bury the dead>become a hobo>learn bushcrafting>do seasonl work for money>dont make an effort to contact the toxic>if they reach out to you, dont respond>they already view you as the blacksheep runt that will absorb all the shots they give>once you're out of that house, they'll tear eachother apart and call you for comfort>if you do pick up the phone just respond with "i dont know who this is." And hang up>download a Bible so you have something to guide you in the right direction.
>>34915653I just quit my job at Target two weeks ago, I told one of the few people there I like that it was my last day, she hugged me a said, "Good, you've been been here long enough, sometimes a man has to find out for himself what he wants and what's good for him, you'll be alright." Maybe, it's time for you anon, to do the same. I'm in a similar situation, I'm a CS grad with a master's I have no money or job prospects, I'm trying to do better, I start at a warehouse job next week.
