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What's the deal with these women taking weeks/months to reply?

So long story short, I'm a 30yo KHHV /pol/chud virgin. I've been living in Germany for some time in the past, where I did assistant work at a school. There, I met very friendly ladies, who treated me very well and were very cool. In particular three of them.

>Lady A (~43yo), who is married and invited me to her house to celebrate new years with her family. She was very friendly and helped me immensely throughout my stay. We also celebrated Christmas with other colleagues.

>Lady C (~34yo), who is divorced but has 3 children. I celebrated Christmas with her as well in a group of people, and was invited to her house to meet her kids and neighbours. I never hinted romance with her, because her kids were not White.

> Lady N (21yo), who is married and with whom I wanted to establish a friendship with. I do not have romantic feelings towards her. I just find her cool as a person.


I text them approximately every 6-7 weeks to see how they are doing and keep in touch. Like you would normally, with people you don't want to lose in your life. I send just a short message. The thing is:

They take usually at least ONE MONTH to reply. They leave me on seen. These women are not related at all other than work. I haven't flirted with any of them. It's just chitchat to get up to date. I never did anything inappropiate or hint I wanted "something else". It was never done nor is it my intention. They do look at my status updates on Whatsapp, but never talk to me.

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I had to double text Lady A after two months because she had left me on seen, and it wasn't clear to me what she meant by that. She completely ignored the fact that she had ignored me.

Lady C I had to double text again too. I sent her a message saying "LADY C'S NAME HERE + Crying emoji" and she left me on seen too.

Lady N says she's always stressed and says she's a bad friend, but stil keeps doing it.


These were ladies that were extremely friendly in person, and even back then in text. What the fuck happened? Why not block me / tell me outright what the hell is going on? I don't understand. Please help me out.
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They're not interested. I'm not reading any of that context. You should be able to figure shit enough out after the first or second date, which should be happening within a week or two of meeting. This isn't the 11th century, there's too many willing women to hang out with to waste time wanting to fuck people who don't want to fuck you
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>>34916654
why are you texting older women faggot
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its exhausting to have to be constantly available to people. once you start a text conversation theres no natural conclusion besides the end of the day, and people are expecting that you're going to continue the conversation the next day. at the core of it you guys are just coworkers who are nice to be around at work when you all have to be, and at scheduled outside arrangements like the christmas party, but not to truly be friends with in a more meaningful way. moving forward if you need to send a text just make it close ended and not needing a reply, so they can emoji react to it and move on. the vast, vast majority of people do not want to befriend their coworkers, its normal.
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>>34916654
Same happens to me and my siblings and life long friends. Its the conditio humana, whatsapp is bullshit and most relationships are fake and gay



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