One of you wanted an update for this, so here it is: >>34912965I went to her place and we were doing heavy foreplay. I was so anxious and I could not get hard. The rest of my body felt desensitized too, not only my dick. I gave up, ended up sitting on her bed to zone out, and left her place...She asked me what was wrong and could tell I was lying. She remarked that I basically ran out and escaped her place due to being afraid. She texted me right after wanting clarification and I told her that something switched in me and that I wasn't in the right headspace. She apparently concluded that I might have a dissociated identity disorder or suffered from trauma kek. She just texted me an hour ago asking "what do you wanna do?" It's not that I don't want to see her again, but rather I can't. I humiliated myself already. This is not the first time this has happened however. Whenever I get physical with a woman, I have ED, anxiety, desensitization, etc. It is probably due to years of being an incel in my adolescence coupled with the subsequent porn and masturbation addictions (I even adopted prone masturbation at one point). I can only be "in the mood" when I am home, though even my morning wood has been disappearing lately (I am on day 23 of nofap so maybe it's a flatline?). All I can do is abstain from porn & masturbation and regulate my sleep schedule, and hope for the best. Thoughts?
Have you tried viagra? I don't need it to get hard but I use it for bodybuilding. That being said I can see it definitely seems to make the erections better and you can go multiple times consecutively. What is your testosterone level?
>>34922629Also, what should I reply to the girl?>>34922899I have not tried viagra. As for my t levels, I am not sure but I don't think they are the problem. Whenever I took a blood test, no one has mentioned it so I take that as a good sign.
>>34922951They don't generally test your testosterone unless you specifically ask for it. My bet is you are low, you probably don't squat heavy twice a week like you should, your confidence is low because you're a onions betafag.
Update: she got rabies from the squirrel and died
mental health and stress plays a much bigger role than you think. I thought I had ED problems for years, and they just kind of went away when I stopped worrying about my performance and started focusing on the person in front of me. funny story (not directly related to your case but whatever), I thought I'd completely lose function once I started taking estrogen, but it's now better than ever bc I feel more confident and sexy in the bedroom.as someone else said above, viagra helps (and so does cialis), but it's neither necessary nor a magic pill. if you're nervous enough, and panicking like you're about to die, your brain is not going to direct any blood down there anyways. take a deep breath, take the time to relax and feel comfortable, don't rush into things. foreplay helps here (for me personally, massaging each other is very sensual and tactile, without the performance pressure. all my best sexual encounters have started with a shoulder/chest/back/leg massage)just focus on enjoying each other's bodies and company and things will work out and feel good, regardless of whether you get hard or not. she's not grading you, I promise. and if the sex just isn't working out, hanging out in bed (naked, partially clothed, or fully clothed), cuddling, and chatting or watching something will also be a great time, and will get you used to being physical with her so you're less anxious next time.besides, if you're not getting hard but don't wanna disappoint her, you can make her cum all kinds of ways without using your dick.longer term solutions: exercising regularly (aerobic, not strength) makes a HUGE difference, as does eating a good diet with much fruit and veg. and at least for me, I can't get hard if I'm dehydrated, so drink more water, ig?
>>34923283Thanks for this post, it's really great advice, but why did you take estrogen? Are you trans?
Hey OP, don't really have advice here, but I want to let you know you are not alone with this, see myself in your post and will watch the thread. I am also blaming it on the kind of porn I almost exclusively consumed and my inceldom and feel desensitized.Feels like I have tried everything I could (except antidepressants and anti-anxiety meds, but I won't touch those) and while objectively there was some progress, still seems like I am pretty far from normality.I would say in your case to keep trying even if you fail. Think of it as giving your mind and body a chance to get accustomed to the whole sex and intimacy thing. It matters a lot how you view and proccess the experience - don't be hard on yourself or it can become a self fulfilling prophecy.
>>34922629Maybe you're just gay
>>34923121I've been bitten multiple times by squirrels. They hardly ever carry rabies.
>>34922629Is she like fat or ugly or something? I once had sex with a girl who I couldn't get myself to be attracted to, but I really liked her personality. Her even being near me made me want to kill myself after. But the feeling of freedom and peace I had after she left was amazing.
>>34922629OP here with an update. Pic related>>34924115Wow we are basically on the same page. I could have easily written your post (I also don't want to take any meds). How old are you if you don't mind me asking?
>>34924999No she is attractive. Pretty face and thin body with a surprisingly shapely ass.
>>34925030Alright then imma take her from you; what app did you meet her on?
>>34925019I'm 26.
>>34925198Cool, we are almost the same age. I am 24. Would you mind dropping your discord if you are comfortable doing so? I feel like we can have great discussions kek
>>34922629>guy can’t get it up>a tale as old as time>girl immediately diagnoses him with a mental disorderOP will never recover from this
>>34923597yes, am trans :)good luck op
>>34922629Stop trying to fornicate. Virginity isn't a curse.
>>34922629If you're not gay you can just ignore your dick and go to town on the pussy with your tongue. She won't care. If she does you can dump her.Sufficient pussy eating and her reaction will probably turn your dick back on anyway.
>>34926010I am already not a virgin.
