To me it's nothing more than an inevitable replacement, someone that will get your girl to cheat on you and definitely someone you will not get along with.I find male and female friendships to be unnatural and I believe that there always will be feelings between those kind of friendships. The bad part is when a male friend gets promoted to the "Best male friend".Upon talking with women regarding this they will always downplay it as "oh he just has problems that I need to help him with" or "he's gay", they clearly know that something is happening and it's giving them the attention they want, because attention and therapy speak to women is what sex is to men. I just view it as straight up cheating, even if sex is not involved, if I were in such situation I would feel like I'm not enough for my girl. In the end both the boyfriend and "male bestie" are frustrated in the end, because you either have to fight for something that you already posses or try to get into the pants of a girl that got you very attached to her, both ends see each other as obstacles to their goal.What do you think /adv/? would you allow your girl to have best male friends? And I'm not talking about casual cowrokers that is kept strictly to professional level.
>>34953135having options and making her boyfriend jealous
>allow your girlimagine wanting control over another grown ass person>what's even the pointsame as any other friendship, unless they want to fuck them, in which case their individual moral code will dictate>inb4 women have no moral code>inb4 cuckanon giving advice
>>34953141>making her boyfriend jealouswould a loving partner want to make her boyfriend jealous?The point of a relationship is to make it a safe place, not a battlefield. Isn't it?
>>34953168Welcome to toxic feminity.Some, maybe most, women would prefer there to be drama. It makes life exciting for them. It's a tale as old as recorded history.
>>34953135>To me it's nothing more than an inevitable replacement, someone that will get your girl to cheat on you and definitely someone you will not get along with.This perception says far more about you than about her.
>>34953135>would you allow your girl to have best male friends?The idea that I can control who another adult human being is or isn't platonic friends with would never even enter my head. Possibly because I'm not a pathetic, insecure loser.
>I just view it as straight up cheating, even if sex is not involved, if I were in such situation I would feel like I'm not enough for my girlWe live in a society where friendships and connections matter. Its always low status people who can't improve their standing in life that isolate themselves
>>34953221Why would a boyfriend compete for a position he already holds. You're either a woman advocating for this disgusting behavior or a literal cuck.>>34953230Once you get to ignore insults then you see how tunnel visioned and meaningless those replies are.>>34953232at this point I view those replies as a discord raid. all of you are discarded
>>34953135I know you cannot imagine being friends with a woman and not wanting to fuck her, but some of us have standards OP. I have female friends that I value for friendship and don't want to sleep with. Women have male friends for the same reason, to have friends
Sounds a bit insecure.I'm friends with this girl, she always relies on me, we've been buddies for 12 years or so. Almost as long as she's had her own relationship. I wouldn't want to fuck her if she begged for it. Not everyone's obsessed with pussy.One of the reasons for a guy being friends with a girl being a bad idea is that this girl might ruin -other- chances, because the guy might mistakenly ask her for advice when women are fucking terrible at giving relationship advice and ruin fucking everything in that particular regard.
>>34953234>Why would a boyfriend compete for a position he already holds.Only men like yourself need to compete.
stop dating people you dont like lol
>>34953135Sounds islamic.>what's the pointnone, tho it goes both ways, you don't need female friends
>>34954807exactly, I don't need female friends which is why I wouldn't want my girlfriend to have male friends, especially if they consider them to be a "best friend"
>>34954840NTA, but there used to be a great phrase for this: "dog in the manger." A manger is a feeding trough for animals, so the image is of a dog sitting in the hay and growling at the cows and other animals when they get close and try to eat some. The dog himself can't eat hay, and so he doesn't see why any other animal needs to neither - despite him being a carnivore and the other animals being grass eaters.
>>34953135If your gf has a male best friend or male friends at all you’re an idiot.
>>34954994By "eating" you mean that I don't get to fuck my own girlfriend and I don't understand why would others want to? You need to perform some serious mental gymnastics to get yourself to tolerate your girlfriend to have best male friends. insane
>>34955062No, I mean that because you're not capable of having a platonic opposite-sex friendship, you think no one else should be allowed to have one either. Most people aren't as socially dysfunctional as you, and they find it quite easy.
>>34954994Dogs are omnivores
>>34953141>>34955006/thread
>>34953135Have you watched Obsession
>>34953135>would you allow your girl to have best male friends?Yeah. I'm having sex with her, not him, maybe he really is gay. I'd just go with her so they aren't alone. I can't ask my GF to end a friendship that she had before me. Likewise, any GF who asks me to end a friendship with anyone gets dumped if she insists. And also, if she would cheat on me, she's not a real one anyway.
>>34957857is the constant bad gut feeling worth it, and what the hell does she need male friends for other than attention seeking and keeping options
>>34955351>Dogs are omnivoresThey don't eat hay.
>>34958052>is the constant bad gut feeling worth it, NTA, but most people don't have a constant bad gut feeling about it, because most people aren't insecure enough to be worried by that. You need to realise that the problem here is you, not her.>and what the hell does she need male friends forExactly the same things she needs female friends for.t. man with platonic female friends and a gf who isn't worried by that
>>34958185>t. cuckftfy
>>34958052>what the hell does she need... ...friends for?Why do you need friends? Ignore the gender for a moment. If you have friends, and she tells you not to see them, you either unhappily cave in or your see them anyway because they are your friends. Naturally as a man you realize that perhaps some of these male friends are orbiters waiting for a shot at her, but she wasn't with them before you so they are beta. You're only beta if you worry about this crap. Again, you're with her, not them. If she cheats it doesn't say anything about you, just that she was no good and you can move on. Assume the best in her that she is loyal, and if you feel like she isn't, that is a you problem. She's more likely to leave your ass if you are an unreasonable control freak who tells her how to live her life and who to be around. What the gut feeling says about you is that you watch too much NTR and need to stop it. Reminds me of this other toxic thread I read today where the guy accused of cheating by his gf when he is with friends or at work and she has his location on.
>>34958227Your girlfriend's male friends will bring your relationship down because they await their chance, it's simple as that, no amount of "toxic" or "insecure" is going to change my point of view.No male friends is the absolute bare minimum I expect from a relationship. If a woman maintains male friendships then she's still a girl and not serious enough for a stable relationship.
Accessibility and Priority are the questions you must answer. It should be a difference when in a relationship, or married and especially if you have children. The decision is totally up to the woman to establish different boundaries with friends but if she doesn't then you should not be in a relationship with her. I'm not talking about ditching all her friends but a change in her priority and ease of access by them. For example. She always talks or texts late night with her male friend when she was single. She begins a relationship with you, you are with her late night and she is sending and receiving text with him and defends this. He still is granted 24/7 accessibility and priority. Even if they aren't fucking he is still the number one male. If you were she would tell him to stop and/or he would know not to do this if he was really a friend. More blatantly she cancels plans with you for her friend or you have to run through the gauntlet of their schedule to gain access to her. If she is sincere she would reset boundaries without needing your input so you would have priority.
>>34958233>Your girlfriend's male friends will bring your relationship down because they await their chanceNTA, but really, grow up. I have plenty of female friends I have no interest in fucking. Most men aren't as degenerate as you.
>>34960213You're a literal bot, you used "NTA" three times. Fuck off>I have plenty of female friends I have no interest in fuckingyou would have given them a chance the moment they'd suggest dating.
>>34958163Made me chuckle.
Men and women can't be regular friends. Stop that shit.
The good news about people like OP is that they won't have a girlfriend for long either way.
>>34953135You're blackpilled and inexperienced + insecure. >>34953197Dump those niggas
>>34953135I'm bi, to me this logic has always seemed pretty retarded. Because according to it I can't be good friends with the same sex if said friend is dating someone.OP if you had a bi girlfriend, would you disprove of her from being friends with other women too? Would you consider her female friendships unnatural?
>>34963618>OP if you had a bi girlfriend, would you disprove of her from being friends with other women too?He'd be happy, because he'd be hoping for a threesome.
