Did I play this right or am I being used as an emotional tampon?>Be me, 21M, working IT at big pharma, doing boxing, overall grinding>Be not me, cute girl from my town, currently taken (BF is long distance, away in Ireland for some months(i heard things are not going so well between them)>Ghosted her for 2 months straight to build security and stop being her backup option>She reaches out, we get drinks at a nice local spotThe Date:>Mentions her BF like twice, I brush it off effortlessly and change the topic>She stares at my hands the whole night, asking about my boxing bruises and cuts>We sit on a bench, she starts asking heavy personal questions: "When do you want to get married? Do you want kids?">I answer completely genuinely about real love and life vision, she leans in closer, i think she clearly wanted to kiss.>On the walk back, she hits me with: "If you got a job abroad, would you leave?">Me: "If I had a serious girl, I'd talk to her or stay. If I'm single, nothing holds me back." -> She beams.In the car:>Looks me dead in the eyes, smiles, and goes: "Yeah, my boyfriend has been gone for a month and now I'm SO ALONEEEE.">Fixes her hair, eats 2 mints. High sexual tension.>I decide NOT to kiss her. She's taken, I'm not giving her a cheap win or acting desperate.>She asks when I'm free next and asks me to text her more.The Goodbye:Super awkward handshake because she was visibly nervous and overloaded with tension.So /adv/, I kept my cool, set boundaries, played the high-value game, and left her with total unresolved tension.Is she trying to use me as a cope/cushion while the BF is away, or did I actually mess up her head? What should I expect next from her? Currently on total radio silence.
>>34955500>I decide NOT to kiss her.>Super awkward handshakeHahahahahaha>left her with total unresolved tension.Nope. In her mind you rejected her. That’s how girls work.
I'm going to be straight, and you prob wont like this, or you might. There's a good chance that's the only shot you'll probably get with her. And that's actually not a bad thing. You don't want a woman that is willing to cheat on her bf. A girl that will cheat with you will cheat on you - and she will only make your life an anxious hell. Just walk away.
>>34955508That’s not really cheating. Just like if high schoolers go to different universities and she leaves guy for another dude, that’s not cheating. That’s breaking up.
>>34955515Yes it is. If she has not broken it off with the guy in Ireland, she is cheating. She has to actually fucking break it off for it to not be cheating. This is obvious.
>>34955518Nah, getting with the new dude then cutting off the old dude is fine. That’s run-of-the-mill break up.
>>34955500>So /adv/, I kept my cool, set boundaries, played the high-value game, and left her with total unresolved tension.Good for you anon, you totally protected that guy you don't care about from getting cucked by you. Clearly the problem is the girl who is tired of him and would go fuck a nigger since you're not the willing one, but if you stuck with your standards and would smack the girl whenever she wants to cuck him with somebody who is not you, then the boyfriend will surely compensate you once he comes back from Ireland or invites you in. Bros before hoes, right?
>>34955518They're not breaking up nor totally cheating. They're falling apart. The guy in Ireland should have made arrangements to take her in if he didn't want this happening but took his chances, and like that long distance "never" works. Sucks to be him, Sucks to be OP. At least OP has a story to tell his nephews about how he almost got laid.
>>34955519No, that's cheating. Even the OP post says:>Mentions her BF like twice, I brush it off effortlessly and change the topicBecause she knows she has a boyfriend, and sleeping with this new guy is cheating. This is obvious. You cannot sleep with the new dude, then cut off the old dude. That is cheating. You're the kind of person who thinks the army girlfriend sleeping with the neighbor is totally ok. Jesus. Again OP, you don't want to be with a girl like this. Tell me how I know. You dodged a bullet.
Eventually you fucks are going to realize you don't want ANY kind of woman, you want a CERTAIN kind of woman. Women without Integrity should be dodged like the landmines they are. Life isn't about getting fucking laid by just anyone. But of course I'm on fucking 4chan, so all you think getting your dick wet by just any woman whatsoever is an accomplishment.
>>34955525>You cannot sleep with the new dude, then cut off the old dude.Yes you can. And that’s not cheating. Staying with the old guy after is cheating.
>>34955525What difference would it make if OP sleeps with her or not? I think it's more valuable to get a relationship experience and find out about yourself if you know you're gonna get cucked anyways, not like OP is swimming in pussy and choosing the wrong out of all options.And the girl WILL fuck someone else. She is looking for someone else because she's unsatisfied. OP at least was going to satisfy her, for an unknown amount of time, could even have been the love of his life, after all the girl will settle down with someone eventually. It could have been OP, it's guaranteed to not be the Ireland guy. But now we will never know.Instead of dodging the bullet, he could have learned to catch bullets with his teeth with this one.
>>34955532No, you fucking can't.The literal definition of cheating is sleeping with another person WHILE YOU ALREADY HAVE A SIGNIFICANT OTHER. You're just fucking wrong, and I feel awful for anyone who has to be in a relationship with you.
>>34955534She doesn’t HAVE anything. They’re not married. They don’t live together. Getting with new guy then breaking up with old guy is what breaking up is most of the time. It’s par for the course. The norm.
>>34955533Because, yet again, OP is not getting "relationship experience."The girl is trying to cheat on her current BF with him, and look to monkey branch if her current BF doesn't fix his act. This is not a girl you want to be with. Ever. This girl is a fucking grenade, and she will blow up your heart eventually. >And the girl WILL fuck someone else.LET HER.Jesus Christ, this is what I mean. You guys think fucking ANY woman is an accomplishment. No, it isn't. You guys just want to fuck ANY woman. You don't want ANYTHING to do with a woman like this, dude. Again, you are going to eventually realize you don't just want ANY woman.
>>34955500>Did I play this right or am I being used as an emotional tampon?Neither. She wanted to fuck, and you flat-out rejected her. She probably feels humiliated. You won't get another chance.
>>34955539>She doesn’t HAVE anything. They’re not married.Jesus fucking Christ, dude. Completely void of any Integrity. Waste of time talking to you.
>>34955540>The girl is trying to cheat on her current BF with himNo, you idiot, the girl wants to leave her bf to go with guy. Buy if guy doesn’t, she doesn’t break up. That’s normal ass shit.
>>34955545No you idiot. She wanted to FUCK HIM THAT VERY NIGHTWITHOUT BREAKING UP WITH HER CURRENT BF FIRST. Read the fucking OP, dude. THAT IS CHEATING, YOU NO INTEGRITY FUCK. People like you piss me off.
>>34955554>WITHOUT BREAKING UP WITH HER CURRENT BF FIRST.She doesn’t have to break up first. I don’t care what you say; if she fucks then breaks up with guy, that is not cheating. That’s moving on.
>>34955562And I don't give a fuck what your no Integrity ass says. I'm glad you're nowhere near the fuck in my vicinity. People like you I purposefully avoid in life. If a girl has a boyfriend and she tries to get with me, I nope the fuck out of there. Fuck that.
>>34955540>You guys just want to fuck ANY woman. Do you think trying to fuck THE ONE PERFECT WOMAN has gotte me anywhere? I'm a 31 yo virign. I am untouchable. I remember girls that wanted to date me but I rejected them because they weren't 9/10 anime tits supermodels. Do you think I remember fondly any of that?I swear LITERALLY, some NIGGER will come, fuck the ho, and smoke a joint later. Do you think that nigger will be doomed to the same misery any dumbass here feels? Fuck no, that's another happy day for the nigger, and all the same a happy day for the girl.I swear fucks like you just look for reasons to hate the world, while the shit just keeps being business as usual outside the window.>>34955565>IntegrityLeFuckingMao.
>>34955569>I'm a 31 yo virign. I am untouchable.You are precisely like this BECAUSE YOUR MINDSET IS SO FOULAnd because you have no Integrity. Sad thing is, you probably have no idea what I'm talking about or how to apply it.You think getting ANY WOMAN is a gift sent from God Himself, and any pussy at all is the greatest thing ever. You have 0 standards for a woman, and you'll even take a woman who is cheating on her BF for a chance at some pussy. This 0 standard shit is something people can SMELL and it is repulsive. Become someone you actually fucking care about and like, and maybe you'll start getting attention from women who want to prove something to YOU, not the other way around.
>>34955572Brother, You sound like a highschooler. Do you seriously think flinging shit and throwing people in the trash can is any more desireable? You're literally spouting the chud bullshit feminists take as objectivization later.Seriously, think about it.What's the worst that happens if OP shoots his shot here? Get cheated on? Big deal. Welcome to the 21st century dumbass.
Like you people are trying to convince OP to sleep with a woman who has a fucking boyfriend because the acquisition of any pussy is so goddamned important you are willing to sacrifice all your values and principles for it. Do you not realize how fucking sad and desperate that is?Get a fucking woman who isn't taken. Havesomefuckingstandardsfor yourselves.
>>34955580>Do you not realize how fucking sad and desperate that is?Do you not realize how pathetic you sound? STANDARD STANDARD, What are you, a knight in shining armor? What lord are you doing this for, oh so honorable knight?That shit only happens in your mind, people here are trying to live lives.
>>34955586Yes, I actually have STANDARDS. Crazy, right?I actually have a SENSE OF SELF-IDENTITY. Crazy, right?I actually am LOOKING FOR SOMETHING IN WOMEN. Crazy, right?I am not an inner void willing to drop anything and everything because I am sad and desperate putting every crumb of pussy juice on a pedestal. I know. Crazy, right?Maybe that's why I get girlfriends?Because I actually know who I am and what I want?
>>34955586NTA but he's not wrong. If there's one thing women *really* find repulsive, it's desperation. They can smell it on you. Being desperate for literally any pussy that stands still long enough is probably the reason why someone is still a virgin at 31.
>>34955593I have my own shit to deal with and it has nothing to do with this thread.Anyways, the matter of fact is OP liked a girl, the girl liked OP, but they ask the consent of some ghost that's not even Jesus. That ain't right. It's like the male version of women saying you can't date 10 years younger.
>>34955595Well, yeah. She wanted to fuck then and there, and he rejected her and humiliated her. That could have gone better.Then again, she would have been cheating.
>No OP response Larp thread
>>34955674no i'm here
I think im gonna see what she wants, and if she ever makes up her mind, its ok for me to start a relationship, even to just try.If she doesnt contact me anymore (cause i will not do that) its fine, still got my routine wich im happy withHer being part of my life would be nice, but non necessary, before doing so she should fix things with her boyfriend, cause im no substitute or fuckbud. I'm not desperate.
>>34955710Wow, first time someone resolves to do the right thing on this board.
Even if OP is bait or a LARPer, my 100% honest opinion on this is that most people who preach big words of moralism about situations like this are either lying to themselves or naive fools. If the girl is attractive enough and is displaying explicit interest, it's only natural to want to have sex with her. A man and a woman who cannot be with each other physically over long periods of time are not a couple anymore in any way that matters and I don't owe loyalty to the "relationship" of some guy that I will never even see personally and I wouldn't expect him to not try to fuck her if the situation was reversed.The only things that I would consider are if I could reasonably expect to meet this guy in person sometime in the near future, whether or not they would break up, how would he take the break-up and lastly if she was willing to keep the whole affair a secret, assuming she didn't want to break up.If I realized I would not have an angry, jealous cuck trying to find me with a gun I'd definitely fuck her every day.
>>34955974Op hereNah i know her boyfriend, he’s a loser who went abroad just to not start working, a kid. We’re the same age but i understand that mentally we’re years apart.l, and through the date i made her see exactly that, kept my cool, guided the date, and kept her hooked the whole time. I did my part, now i just gotta see whats gonna happen.
>>34955534No it isn't, Bateman
>>34955500you reek of being a narcissist with low self-esteem
>>34955508This is the only correct answer in this thread. Even if you would've taken her to bed, this is still the only correct answer in this threadMaybe she wanted a quick one night, or maybe she was considering you as a serious alternative. Which ever the case, she tried to cheat. >tl;dr SHE BELONGS TO THE STREETS
