>experience a confrontation with a guy bigger than me that he initiated>scared as fuck, can't say a word properly or keep saying something weird and "not cool">he seems to be handling himself well, it is natural for him>still I initiate the first strike/push, because I know if I back down I won't forgive myself and it's easier than a verbal interactionAm I a coward or not? Do other males feel the same? Similar situation happened when I had a quarrel with a guy playing loud music at 1 am. Never managed to "win" verbally and evade the fight without going away with the tail between my legs. Even when I imagine a potential confrontation, I don't know how to behave or what to say. Feels like every single man around me is much better at this. Also, I'm a 5'8 manlet. I wish I had the same moxie as Richie Aprile.
nobody is going to be impressed you hit a guy because you couldn't think of a comeback
>>34958272Never do physical contact, it will land you into trouble you can't handle.The reaction is normal. The guy handles himself better in it because his confidence and competitivity was reinforced in childhood, his brain grew to fight, your brain grew to avoid confrontation and the default is to collapse.There's no single answer, but you have to feel that you stood up in that moment, which is hard because your attention locks in danger and escape. Some say breathing help, I would say being creative and attempt to dissociate, e.g. by mocking instead of outthreatening him would be a way to feel an alternate win. I really don't know and it's hard to train because high stress doesn't show up often in life.Maybe try martial arts, sparring, and ask your mates to shit talk to keep the mind active and conscious. This is how kids play in childhood after all.
This is literally all projection. You don't need to get better at crashing out you just need to stop projecting.>man initiates confrontationBecause he was projecting>you feel this requires a response and you need to win something nowBecause you are projecting>Do other males feel the sameDo you get it yet? Every single time you feel personally slighted, you are projecting.
>>34958272Debowski, these insecure Larp threads you make really make me judge you negatively and get major ick. >>34958394Good you noticed Op is making a larp thread
>>34958272Have you tried laughing at him instead?
>>34958272This is fine anon, sounds like he asked for it. Some self defense guru said the first thing he has his students do is yell and swear in each others faces so they learn to ignore the noise and focus on defensive space, potential counters, etc, should they get attacked. Generally people that make a lot of noise will back down, so don’t bother with comebacks just eyeball the cunt and get ready to fight, and this will probably be enough to end things. Good luck out there, cunts abound.
I am an abused dog who grew up sheltered by helicopter parents who never let me take risks or be alone. As a result i am untalented and lack confidence.>>34958305growing up, I had no friends/enemies, so I didn't experience confrontation except for throughout my childhood when my mother would kick my ass after having a disagreement with my dad etc.>>34962979I get really overwhelmed around too much noise or when people are staring at me to much. will martial arts really help with this?Whatever it takes to stop being a nervous loser with self-esteem issues, I'll fucking do it. I'm tired of the shame and cowardice
Same here. Those people who project by trying to scare you are weak themselves, they just appear tough doing it.
The feeling you get is probably avarice or the over denial of private property. Try to change form now or forever be hit in the face. Gold is worth more than brews i suppose. Change is water. Go out in the rain and study something you want to be, hopefully not water itself, which is change. Moist metals in the dew
>>34963050Yeah it will and travel soloing will do the rest. Without money u just have to yrit on the road and play ball with the local thugs. Beer helps
>>34958272A man is not brave because he has no fear, but because he confronts his fears and does what's needed anyway. Congrats OP, I know that was hard to do.
>>34964212Braves face death. What is death but hollow? We dont know and i wont face it for some time. Death must impede something for braves to see it
