My roommate is a lesbian, so I was completely caught off guard when she started asking me the kinds of questions only a woman who sleeps with men would ask, turns out she’s been hooking up with some hispanic guy on the side for the past two months, and last night she found out she's pregnant. We're in the middle of the semester. Any advice? There’s going to be a lot of backlash, the guy already knows and he is tradcon who wants the kid, he is ready to fight for it.She has a girlfriend and parents back in asia (she's Chinese) so she has a lot of pressure right now, and want to help her but don't know how. She's been crying a lot since last night.
You shouldnt help her because shes a cheating whore and who now has to lay in the bed she made?People who dont have empathy for others dont deserve any empathy back?You should tell her parents because her parents are going to push her in a more realistic direction?At the least tell her to never contact this guy again and completely avoid him?If she doesnt want any sensible and realistic advice then we dont care? She should then struggle on her own because itd be a good life lesson?
Certifiably not your problem. She's obviously not a lesbian if she let Paco get her preggers. So she can explain that one to her girlfriend and her parents on her own time. I don't even understand why you care. Someone went through an Olympic triathlon-level of effort to ruin their life, and you want to "fix" that? Why? What for? Because she's your "friend"?
I genuinely cannot stand women are are always "Shush shush, it'll be alright sweetie" to their gal pals, no matter how monstrous of a thing they've done. That leads to what you see with this Lindsay Clancy shit where a mom executes three kids and gloats about it, and other women are like "You're a good person!" When someone fucks up super badly, vagina or not, they SHOULD be told they did, and they SHOULD be shamed for it. They need to be forced into taking accountability, because if they aren't, they'll continue to fuck up their entire life one bad decision after another. You should not pander or act like she's a good person. She's not. She cheated. She whored around. If you were a good friend, you'd be demanding she accept the consequences of her own actions, and either get an abortion or have the baby. There's no third option. As for her family/girlfriend, all of that is dead by her own hand. And she should be forced to confront that. Not told shush shush it'll be fine. The reason she's crying is because she found out, oh no, there's consequences to my actions. She's not sad she did it. But she should be.
>>34970310You should ask her to be honest and admit to both her lesbian gf and the Hispanic guy that she cheated with about her full situation. Then she has to deal with the fact that she is now pregnant. Right now she is breaking down and everything, but she needs some little support to not ruin that child's life. I'd rather she come to a decision and stick with it: either she has the child and sticks with the Hispanic guy (I would think twice, because it's her own future at stake as well, and she might not want to settle down here) or she aborts the child. I think that she needs to face the music, she made a mistake, a terrible unforgivable mistake, and she has to deal with it, because the life of her child could be at stake. I think anyone who sees someone else suffering can sympathise and feel bad for them, just like you do and it's admirable that you want to help her. However, the most you can really do is to help her peripherally, assisting her with school work, listening to her and lightening the load, and just encouraging her to face the consequences of her actions and act decisively. I don't think you should get fully involved in decision making, since like the other anons have said, it is not your problem to bear. good luck anon
>>34970310Whether she has an abortion or not is her decision, not his. There's nothing whatever that he can do to stop her.
>>34970310Anyone but you. Hahahahaha
>>34970310Start having sex with her
