is it wrong to let men spend money on you when you have or want a boyfriend? i'm used to letting friends cover me on outings (concert tickets, food, transportation, etc) but i have a serious crush on a guy and worry it would be offputting for him to hear about this kind of thing. i've never dated or had sex with any of them, i'm a virgin
>>34973150milk em drytheir fault desusimps have to payBut that aside, if you induce it - by flirting and smiling and lingering eyes and touching and playing the damsel in distress, then its on you.If they insist and wanna compete in "paying olympics" while you ignore all of them and treat them with clear lines, fuck it. However, if among them is a solid dude u like, best look is to take care of yourself with your own money. It projects maturity and not being a bimbo.A healthy man with self worth will value that.But random horny dude you idealized in some special person, will give zero fucks however.
>>34973163i prefer dating people i already know well so i've actually asked out some of these guys and they've rejected me bc they don't want long term relationships. i don't do casual sex so we're just friends. so i wouldn't say i'm leading them on or anything. but the fact that there's been past attraction makes me worried it'd be even more concerning to a partner
also to be clear my concern isnt rlly about using them but about making a potential boyfriend jealous or fearful of me cheating / being emotionally entangled with other men. i don't know if this kind of thing makes guys jealous though
>>34973150>is it wrong to let men spend money on youThat depends. Are they under the impression that they're dating you? And if not, do they earn far more money than you do? If you're not dating and your incomes are comparable, you shouldn't be letting them pay for you in the first place. And if they think you're dating them and you're not, you need to make that clear.
>>34973150It is totally normal for friends to sometimes cover each others' expenses on stuff like that. I get your worry, but your situation sounds very different from having a simp or orbiter that you milk for money>>34973170Most guys will understand that your friends paying for concert tickets is different from having an orbiter. Whether your crush will understand the difference, who knows, bitches be crazy
>>34973150Yes
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>>34973339the thing is they don't just sometimes cover my expenses, they pay for 100% of them every time we hang out, often in the hundreds of dollars. i don't ask for money or gifts but if i did i would most likely get them. so i don't think it's exactly milking but it isn't entirely not milking >>34973266see >>34973170 and >>34973170
>>34973150Kind of sounds like they're orbiters and you know it. So, yes. If your bf isn't bothered by this, then he is probably a detached person relationship-wise overall, which you would *probably* dislike.