>met a 10/10 qt online>first time I truly feel understood by someone>she is kind and lovely, nofuckinway !>she asked me to open up about my mental health>told her how I feel>she leftDon't open up guys, never do so. Just chadmaxxing and nothing else.
>be nigerian >catfish some dumb lonely american>pretend to be 10/10 lonely young woman (kek)>it works >he's a mentally ill brainlet with no money>"should have known">onto the next target
It's even worse, I'm European so we don't even have money to get catfished...
Ok, listen kids, chatting online is NOT the time to brag about your deficiencies, which is what you're doing. You're leading with your weakness list to reduce her expectations of you... and OP, how could you expect anything else of her? Look, every relationship rises and falls based on what you bring to the table. For women, they've got the ability AND PURPOSE (instinctually, if not in practice) of bringing new life into the world. As such they're hardwired to be scared of deficient men, when their whole genetic programming requires her to putbher life in that man's hands as her body forms a child inside her, rendering her enormously vulnerable the whole time. The science of mating strategies shows strong influences on dating strategies, especially in women who score high on posession of parental instincts. OP, next time, minimize, while being honest. 'Oh, bad self-esteem I guess, and some stuff downstream of that, but I figure that'll pass as I work at my life goals.' There: That's how you explain. If you're truly mentally ill and have been Baker Acted (involuntarily admitted to a facility) you should be focusing on getting better, not dating. Anything else, you're a work in progress, like all of us; maybe too self-absorbed and neurotic, but that really will pass if you mature. Don't give up your dignity, and don't sabotage yourself by crying about your flaws in order to avoid having to push yourself to be better.
Thankfully I've never been Baker Acted. I'm going to work on how I introduce myself. I can't dump my traumas on a girl and expect her to love me, you're 100% right. Ty brother.
>>34973471 As a former neurotic fuckup with serious analysis paralysis, you're welcome. The ironic part is that I grew into the good man I tried to be for my wife. I became a better and happier person by the act of trying. Faking it isn't faking it when you're working at it. Imposter Syndrome is in your head, OP, nowhere else.
I'm happy for you bro. I'll do my best to become the better version of me !
Any tips in order to forget her ?I don't meet a lot of ppl so it's always hard...
Things will be alright frens <3
>>34973439You must never show women your weakness. Especially in the early stages.
>>34973503I'm going through something similar but far, far worse. Lmk if you find out what helps
Theres a difference between depression and wanting to hurt yourself and others
>>34973503Change your perspective, if she left you after you opened up to her she wasn't worth keeping in the first place
True, thank you all, I feel better today. Frens <3
